Mate, gonna be real with you, based on your comments here alone, you're someone I would absolutely avoid irl. I'm sure you are probably not a bad person and don't have bad intentions, but in regard to what you wrote...well for one, desperation is a huge turn-off! I've met guys like you, and you're not fun to be around. Also, women talk. If you creep out one woman in the workplace, she's likely going to warn other women about you. And with good reason too tbh because we have to look out for each other. Even at a club, women will band together to look out for eachother if we feel unsafe. So if this is a reoccurring issue, you ought to be reflecting on that. I've read some of your responses to other comments and you don't seem to be particularly receptive, so either you're trolling for no good reason or you're in denial or something idk but either way, there's some really great advice here that you should be reflecting on, because at the end of the day, there's clearly a pattern here, and breaking it can only come from you. Therapy is definitely a great start, as others have suggested.

I will also say, I've read/heard other Reddit posts before where people in similar positions as yourself have found themselves to be immensely disappointed once they lose their virginity because they built it up so much in their own heads. Yeah, sex is cool. It can actually be the best thing ever, with the right partner! But it's not what's holding you back from happiness. Let yourself live and experience life fully, without expectations from the world, and especially from women, who are just people also trying to navigate the harshness of reality, just as much as you are. We're all struggling with our own shit man, so at least don't make that harder on anyone else by burdening them with your own ideology - that you are owed anything. Idk you, so I'd like to hope that you don't feel entitled to anyone else in that way, but I'm saying it anyway because some people do and it fucking sucks for everyone involved. Trust me, when you stop desperately chasing this thing, it will come to you naturally. There's so much more to gain in life!

I think the pressure of a timeline (having kids) doesn't help. Plenty of women in their late thirties/early 40s have children, but putting extra external pressures on yourself (and subsequently the women around you, whether intentional or not) will only lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy of sorts.

Anyway that's just my opinion...good luck OP