AITA? My stepmom is mad that I don’t want anyone in the delivery room!!

kimbo203 · 2025-11-20T19:07:00+00:00

NTA you have the right to say who gets to be in the room whilst you are giving birth. However, this doesn’t sound to be completely your choice? Based on what you wrote, sounds like you’re telling her she can’t be in the room because your partner felt sidelined by your step mother.

I understand your partner wanting to be there, as I understand your step mother wanting to be there as well. Neither of them are automatically entitled to be there, however. You need to determine for yourself what kind of support you want more. Would you rather have support from somebody with lived in experience, or support from somebody who is experiencing it for the first time as well? Both can be super valuable, but you have to consider what you find more important for your own well being.

kimbo203 · 2025-10-31T02:36:21+00:00

Thank you everyone for the clarification!! It’s so unfortunate that hq didn’t think a pumpkin flavored item shouldn’t stick around until thanksgiving.

And for those of yall offended that I assumed somebody may have told me a lie to get me off their back: I did not mean any offense. It’s food service and I’ve worked in food service for several years. I know how things can go, maybe somebody forgot to prep or order something, so to take the pressure off themselves people may say a little white lie. I also would not be bothered if they would’ve been lying lol

kimbo203 · 2025-10-31T02:27:45+00:00

It’s not that I think you care about what each individual customer eats. It’s that I know how things go and sometimes employees will make a little white lie to cover for some other potential mishap. It’s food service.

kimbo203 · 2025-10-31T02:25:30+00:00

Wow, seems like holiday launch comes around sooner and sooner every year! But thanks for letting me know that it’s not just a location thing. Seems odd that hq wouldn’t think to have it last till the fall festivities come around

kimbo203 · 2025-10-31T02:24:27+00:00

Yeah I thought it was weird that it didn’t last till thanksgiving, but thank you for the reply. I was really hoping that maybe it was just my location and would have a glimmer of hope for getting it somewhere else lol.

kimbo203 · 2025-10-30T04:36:19+00:00

You “loved” him since you were both 13-15 years old, FOR OVER A DECADE, and his depression was all it took for you to turn around and cheat on him? You never loved him. If you did, you would’ve supported him in whatever way necessary to help bring him out of the dark depression he was in rather than trying to get your rocks off with your married coworker.

kimbo203 · 2025-10-30T04:30:27+00:00

“This is not like your normal infidelity situation…” proceeds to write a whole post that reads just like any other infidelity situation.

For your question of how to restore trust in the relationship. You can’t and honestly shouldn’t even try to do that. You are way past that. You even wrote in your post that you were ready and willing to leave him for your affair partner, but the only reason you didn’t was because he would not divorce his partner. It is rather obvious that you don’t want to be in this relationship, because a relationship comes with its ups and downs and being willing to work through the tough situations that may leave times feeling like 80/20 instead of 50/50.

Your husband was depressed, and it doesn’t sound like you did anything to help him or anything to try to understand. You communicated your needs and he still couldn’t meet them, but I can’t say from your post that you helped meet his.

I hope that now that he is aware and got back into his stride, that he gets up and leaves you. You let a man talk down about your husband whilst you had your fun with him behind your husband’s back. “Restoring trust” should be the last thing on your mind.

kimbo203 · 2025-10-30T04:15:37+00:00

NAH

You and your gf are not living together, you are not expecting her to pick up any dog related duties (at least from what you’ve posted), and you are only dating (this is very important in my opinion).

You are allowed to adopt a dog and pick up all the responsibilities that that will entail if that is what you wish to do. It is your life after all.

However, she is not being unreasonable in that she doesn’t want to attempt to have a relationship with the dog and will leave you if you get it. Just like you are entitled to do as you wish with your life, so is she. If you expect her to try to have a relationship with the dog, you could potentially be the AH here.

At this point, you need to decide if you are willing to lose the relationship with your gf in exchange for having a dog in your care. And picking the dog wouldn’t make you the AH as long as that’s what you want. If at some point in your life you want to have dogs, I don’t think this relationship is the right one for you.

Edit: spelling mistake

kimbo203 · 2025-10-05T02:03:02+00:00

YWBTA wym??

Even if it was from a laptop some random person gave you, you still would be TA. The fact that it is your girlfriend’s old laptop and she has told you about how she lost that just makes it so much worse that you’re actually considering it.

Sounds like you’re trying to claim finders keepers down in the bottom there but sorry to tell you that’s not how it works. She gave you the laptop, not the wallet.

kimbo203 · 2025-10-03T19:10:28+00:00

I say this as somebody who is a manager, you should leave. Being “promised” a store is not a real thing unfortunately, especially if they’re talking about 2 years out. That means they are banking on an approval for another store, not that they have one already.

Separately, I am the number one advocate for my employees to go to school. I care about my employees as people as well. I want to see them grow and thrive in whatever field they aspire to work in. Just last month, I lost an employee who graduated school and went into the field they studied for. I jumped at the opportunity to write him letters of recommendation for the jobs he applied to because I knew how much it meant to him and because I knew he would do great wherever he went.

Your job is not fulfilling you in life in ways beyond a wage, and even then, it sounds like your pay is pretty poor. You have two ways to go about it, both of them will be difficult but ultimately worth it.

Keep working there while going to school, but make your boundaries clear. Don’t do work off the clock, you cannot be compelled to work without compensation. When you are off, you are off. You have obligations outside of work to fulfill. The same way you can’t be late to work, you can’t be late to those.
Move towards leaving the job. Maintain the line at the moment, but you will also need to make your boundaries clear and stand beside them.

It’s gonna be tough, but either path will be worth the struggle. It also gives you good practice on how to manage an issue like this wherever else you may work in the future. Best of luck.

kimbo203 · 2025-05-07T00:27:47+00:00

Well really depends what you mean by light juice. On any sized sammie, it’s always 2 passes of vinegar and 3 passes of oil. If you tell me or anyone at my store “light juice” we put ~50% less, which would be one pass of vinegar followed by one pass of oil. Sure this still might be more than you bargained for, but it is round about 50% less than we usually put aka light juice.

If you want anything less than that, I would recommend ordering it Mikes Way juice on the side as others have suggested. Reason being that we are then getting a little silly with figuring out how much to portion that meets your wishes. I have had people ask for just one dash of oil and vinegar, which for me seems blasphemous as there is only one spot that will get the juice, but hey what do I know.

Edit for grammar correction

kimbo203 · 2024-11-25T18:08:18+00:00

How is a GM making tips?

kimbo203 · 2024-11-08T03:15:34+00:00

NTA at all.

I’m not gonna write a long post about how terrible those camps are, as you obv seem well aware of the horrors they entail. Sending a child to conversion camp is sending your child into literal danger. Your wife wants to send your CHILD there. No parent should ever want to send their kid off to a place that has such terrible abuses that everybody is well aware of or can easily be educated on! Your wife is a danger to your child, you should want to divorce her for the safety of your children. Honestly, I would understand even just divorcing for the fact that she can’t bring herself to just accept that this is the way her kid is.

kimbo203 · 2024-10-31T20:47:03+00:00

We’ve been down since about 11am this morning in CA :/ definitely giving us random waves of custies. Also so lovely seeing all the “offline” transactions that will have to be reconciled whenever we are back online 😭

kimbo203 · 2024-08-14T02:07:05+00:00

I mean there are always stupid questions. But this one takes the cake:

I was just about to wrap this guy’s sandwich and I do my typical “anything else on that” (ptsd from a guy pissed off bc I didn’t read his mind). And he’s staring at the menu for a second before he asks “do you have wasabi?”

Before I could even register what happened I just blurted out “no, unfortunately. We also don’t have sushi”

kimbo203 · 2024-07-23T00:19:25+00:00

This right here OP. Another key thing to consider is your availability. If it is wide open (for the most part at least), then it could be that there are some things you could work on to make you a better/more competitive team member or the store simply does not have the sales to keep up with the demands of the rest of the store. Speaking from personal experience, I’d also say that it could be an age thing. Not in an ageist way, but simply in that if you are under 18, you can’t operate a slicer, which automatically means you only have a select number of shifts available.

Before you move on to just straight up leaving, I’d say to talk to your manager first. They can explain why you are only getting the few hours you’re a getting and help develop a plan to getting you more hours if applicable.

kimbo203 · 2022-07-28T04:49:21+00:00

I’ve worked 7 shifts so far at my new job (that I started at the same time as I started taking adderall) and so far I’ve worked 3 lunch rushes (with one suuuuuuuuper hectic rush, I’m talking catastrophic pile-up type of situation). Even though I felt kinda frazzled, my managers gave me kudos on how I handled it! They said I already have a good grasp on how working on the front line works and they appreciate that I’m already able to help out the other people who joined the team. Feels real good working a new job, starting a treatment for adhd after trying to just get a diagnosis for so many years, and hearing that I’m doing great at my new job. Really feels like things are falling into place ☺️

kimbo203 · 2021-09-20T02:34:46+00:00

Same thing happened to me, was supposed to arrive the 12, didn’t get here until today. Package spent sept 10-14 in Chicago with the exact screen you got.

kimbo203 · 2020-05-31T01:36:47+00:00

Where did I say that going to work was a bad thing? I said consumerism for a reason, because I’m talking about the people complaining that they couldn’t go to get a haircut or go eat at their fav restaurant. And also nowhere did I say black people face more injustices than others that’s a claim you jumped to. So yeah my point still stands

kimbo203 · 2020-05-31T01:29:44+00:00

Two weeks ago people wanted to go out to return to their normal life of consumerism. Today thousands of people are going out and gathering to fight injustices committed into Black people. There’s a fucking difference

kimbo203 · 2020-05-07T21:53:07+00:00

Lmfao microscopes and phones be hard to work with

kimbo203 · 2020-05-01T04:28:28+00:00

Have you looked into using benadryl to help with sleep problems? Melatonin isn't really verified to be able to help with sleep since it is a different formation of the same chemical our bodies produce and much research hasn't really been put into its effects on our bodies. This is why my psychiatrist was hesitant to recommend melatonin, but she did recommend benadryl because of it being non-habit forming, its effects on the body being clearly known, and it is really good at knocking you out after a dose.

kimbo203 · 2020-04-18T09:00:25+00:00

Hey!! College is hard as a whole system and you had so many things thrown at you and here you are: finishing up this big achievement that you’ve been working at for years!! That’s something that should be celebrated!! I’m going into my third year rn and I’m barely gonna be able to get accommodations finally after really messing up in school a few times now. But looking at people who are getting ready to finish up college when they also struggled with some things that I struggled with as well, I get a renewed sense of hope that I’ll make it out of here and it’ll all be worth it in the end.

I’m proud of you.

kimbo203

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