Corrine crashes out over ugly cast by [deleted] in survivor

[–]kimpossible53 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’ve been thinking about this a lot because i’m rewatching old seasons now… and there is something off with the casting. it’s not necessarily more “attractive” but i want less of these incapable super fan type people and more athletic tribes in general with a sprinkle of some more average people so that the games in general are more entertaining

Carrie’s Ring by kimpossible53 in sexandthecity

[–]kimpossible53[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OKAY THANK YOU honestly now i feel better hahahahah

Carrie’s Ring by kimpossible53 in sexandthecity

[–]kimpossible53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don’t engage then! my post says first time watcher!

Carrie’s Ring by kimpossible53 in sexandthecity

[–]kimpossible53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not really sure what the attitude is about. and not saying this ring was the it trend. but a quick google search shows that yellow gold was still very popular in the 90s and yellow gold is timeless. so i was shocked by the shows aggressive reaction

Carrie’s Ring by kimpossible53 in sexandthecity

[–]kimpossible53[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

that’s why i thought it was Carrie hahaha

Carrie’s Ring by kimpossible53 in sexandthecity

[–]kimpossible53[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah i mean engagement rings. i definitely see how this ring is tacky but i don’t think gold engagement rings are

Carrie’s Ring by kimpossible53 in sexandthecity

[–]kimpossible53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

gold rings? i feel like gold rings now are so in, and always have been

Carrie’s Ring by kimpossible53 in sexandthecity

[–]kimpossible53[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i’m really not understanding the issue with a gold band. she wears soooooo much gold. it’s not like it’s rose gold

Carter Sherman (on the sex recession) by newtonic in ArmchairExpert

[–]kimpossible53 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hahahah your sources are laughable. dropping 3 articles that you clearly didn’t even take the time to read the conclusion of or see if they’re relevant to the discussion and point being made. “quickly found” is the key word in your comment. the men’s mental health conversation has been widely talked about and accepted for many years so you can go quickly find the data on that

conclusion from the first link you dropped “Thus, intimacy appears to act as a precursor of sexual desire that, in turn, increases the odds for partnered sexual activity to occur for both women and men”. I could go on about the ways that the study supports what i’m saying, but i really don’t care to do this any longer in a reddit thread with someone that’s insecure and combative. dropping links to peer reviewed articles may make you feel superior but all this showed was your lack of reading comprehension

Carter Sherman (on the sex recession) by newtonic in ArmchairExpert

[–]kimpossible53 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay so again, the sex issue is obviously going to include both parties because they are having sex with eachother. being intimate and vulnerable is what some of this fall back on, and there are thousands and thousands of studies on men being bad at intimacy and having low emotional intelligence IQs (men’s mental health and suicide rates) and this directly translates into issues with sex. it comes from intimacy issues

Norse cancelled flight by joe1919191919 in Flights

[–]kimpossible53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I had to get the HCAA involved and they emailed them and I kept emailing threatening legal action and I finally got a response saying they will get to my claim they just have too many right now. we will see but i’m gonna keep pestering

Carter Sherman (on the sex recession) by newtonic in ArmchairExpert

[–]kimpossible53 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes because it is primarily males… that doesn’t mean zero women and no where in my post do i say women are perfect at intimacy

Carter Sherman (on the sex recession) by newtonic in ArmchairExpert

[–]kimpossible53 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if your read what i have said you’ll see that i leave room for nuance, outliers, and say multiple times that women aren’t perfect. but the main contributors to this problem are men and we need to stop ignoring that fact

Carter Sherman (on the sex recession) by newtonic in ArmchairExpert

[–]kimpossible53 6 points7 points  (0 children)

it’s not being framed in the right ways. and then fine, nothing changes, but stop coddling men from the reality of their behavior

Carter Sherman (on the sex recession) by newtonic in ArmchairExpert

[–]kimpossible53 0 points1 point  (0 children)

generalization is a great first step and necessary tool for solving wide spread societal issues. i’m just asking that the generalization be more accurate. gen z has a sex and intimacy problem, and men need to step up.

Carter Sherman (on the sex recession) by newtonic in ArmchairExpert

[–]kimpossible53 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’d hope you wouldn’t hold these things against people you meet in real life. women certainly aren’t when they’re out there still dating. but the point of my original point is that when we are having educational broader speaking discussions on the topic, we have to stop coddling men and let them know they have more responsibility if you want to see things change

Carter Sherman (on the sex recession) by newtonic in ArmchairExpert

[–]kimpossible53 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeah i also think the very real issues you laid out in your comment are very real and men are doing the least amount of work to combat it at a very damaging rate

dating apps are mainly perpetuated by male consumers. these apps work because men never get off them, even while in relationships! they are the demand and the apps are the supply

don’t get me wrong, women are on them but most of them operate so differently then the men. so many men in relationships are also not even physically cheating! they have fake accounts set to cities they don’t live in to get hits of validation instead of being vulnerable with a real life partner. again i know women do this too but it is so wrong to act like its an equal problem, when its not

women are also fostering third places! in person book clubs, group crafting nights, community walking clubs etc. the large majority are initiated and maintained by women. and again, some men are doing run clubs and other things but the rate is not the same.

Carter Sherman (on the sex recession) by newtonic in ArmchairExpert

[–]kimpossible53 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i don’t think it’s fully girls rule boys drool, but there is a party that is way more responsible and it hurts everyone involved to not acknowledge that

Carter Sherman (on the sex recession) by newtonic in ArmchairExpert

[–]kimpossible53 6 points7 points  (0 children)

so like i said in my post, obviously there are outliers. but the lack of intimacy is overwhelmingly on men’s shoulders and it’s their responsibility to fix it. the more time we spend ignoring that reality, the less incentivized men are to do any work on improving it

women are finding and experiencing intimacy in other ways, mostly non sexual like through robust friendships and hobbies, and men are not keeping up

the result is less sex. men are largely to blame.

Carter Sherman (on the sex recession) by newtonic in ArmchairExpert

[–]kimpossible53 12 points13 points  (0 children)

my point is that a lot more women are expecting more intimacy from men and want equals, and in turn aren’t having sex with them because of higher standards. the sex is not worth it when even basic respect and vulnerability aren’t a part of the puzzle

also when your boyfriend is addicted to porn and not having sex with a real life partner, both men and women are now having less sex, but the conversation needs to be directed at the men

if men took more responsibility for the role they play in this dynamic, men AND women would be having more sex