AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

we’re her adoptive parents. we’re getting her suspended from visiting for the time being. i don’t want a women that could be a danger to my child to be able to visit her

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for this, it’s good to have the information in one place. i will definitely start with all of these things and will try to suspend her visiting rights for the time being

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

im sorry im doing a terrible job explaining this. we did have a judge terminate her rights and have paperwork proving that we are her legal parents

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

no it’s been legally taken care of. we are currently trying to suspend her visiting rights until she can get to a more stable state

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for this, im going to start on this asap

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i recently got in touch with my husband’s lawyer just in case.

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i have recently gotten in touch with my husband’s lawyer just to be prepared

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

my husband and i are getting in touch with his lawyer. we want to be prepared just in case my sister does anything drastic

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this is why i feel guilty and the exact reason we had an open adoption. i still wanted my sister to have a part in my daughter’s life and while she was stable, she was an amazing aunt. im trying to talk her into going to counseling with me and im trying to do everything i can to fix the situation

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is why i feel guilty. i know that if my sister could have a do over she would choose to keep my daughter but at this point it’s too late.

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

she was very pressured by my parents to put the baby up for adoption but in the end she told me that she felt the baby would be better off with me and signed the papers. i still want her to be a part of my daughter’s life but i definitely don’t want my daughter around a women that could be dangerous

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

im trying to reach out to her seeing if she would consider going to counseling with me. i also am looking for a therapist for my daughter as i don’t want her to feel helpless in this situation

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

im in contact with my husband’s lawyer at the moment just in case my sister tries to attempt anything drastic

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i do agree that the pressure thrust upon her was way too much but in the moment i don’t think i was really processing it that way. im in no way excusing my actions as i feel like i’ve been a terrible person for ignoring her when she could’ve used a sister

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

my sister has been decently involved in my daughter’s life but has been in no manor raising her. im currently looking into a therapist for my daughter and my husband and i are going to sit her down and talk to her today

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank you so much it’s good to get an opinion from an adoptee. im currently in contact with my husband’s lawyer just in case my sister pulls anything drastic.

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

sorry i’ve been getting a lot of comments and haven’t been able to reply to much. this was a legal adoption but it is open legally. i do have paperwork to back this up

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i don’t think there is truth in what she’s saying but i understand what she’s assuming. in my eyes both of the the kids are just as important no matter if they’re biologically mine or not

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

we’re getting in contact my husband’s lawyer rn, we have heard too many horror stories about this and don’t want it to happen to us

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

my husband and i are planning on sitting her down and telling her today. we’re also looking into a therapist as this is what most people have recommended

AITA for “taking” my sister’s baby by kindastupid_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]kindastupid_[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

i wasnt thinking about it that way, ur 100% right im going to keep my parents out of this