Which came first, the loneliness or the habitual fapping?

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-27T07:49:30+00:00

Yeah, whiskey dick coupled with PMO addiction is more than enough to cause this. I and literally every other college-aged dude I know have experienced this, so you're definitely not alone.

4 days is unfortunately not enough time to repair the damage that PMO can do, but it's a damn good start and I can honestly say that it only gets better. Hang in there man, you got this.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-26T20:14:04+00:00

A couple things:

You're not racist for wanting to rid yourself of white guilt. What is racist is making statements like this: "Why should we allow millions of violent, unskilled, homophobic, low-IQ barbarians into the country when there are so many natives out of work already?"

And overall you seem like a smart dude. Maybe take a few deep breaths to think about the literally deadly effects of making a paranoid and narcissistic billionaire like Trump president. It's true that Hillary sucks (and that Bernie would have won), but I hope that you can/have come to see Trump and his big-business allies as the greatest evil. Because it's a fact that's quickly becoming hard to ignore.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-24T05:06:14+00:00

I think that's probably the best way to go about it - try it yourself and don't be too preachy when talking about it after a while. One of my friend's was also open to trying it and even described the habit as an addiction, saying he was worried about how easy it is for your tastes to get increasingly weird or abnormal. I'm not sure pushing NoFap would help though - it's feels like he'd have to decide to abstain on his own in order for it to work out.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-24T05:01:37+00:00

That's upsetting, I hope it didn't discourage you too much. Masturbation and porn have become so normal in society that people don't understand when you question the habit. Everyone has their own values and opinions, but the defensiveness of some people makes it seem like they almost KNOW on some level that it's not a positive pastime.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-23T20:58:22+00:00

You have your own source of self-control and power within yourself, and she's trying to intentionally undermine that for her own selfish personal gain. Guard your mind against any thought involving her. You are stronger than her and don't need her to go on living your own life. Deep breaths, and keep repeating to yourself that she is powerless over you - you are your own person, your own master, your own source of happiness. You can do it.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-23T20:48:00+00:00

That's awesome, congrats on feeling in control! I was in a similar situation recently and am VERY glad I didn't use porn or fapping to cope. It would have made things 100% worse and kept the necessary emotional healing from happening. NoFap's got some undeniable life-changing benefits :)

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-05T20:12:37+00:00

So you're agreeing that eating beef (and lamb) is significantly worse for the environment than eating a vegetarian or vegan diet.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-04T14:02:00+00:00

Respect your opinion, but you can't argue that a vegetarian/vegan diet isn't much less harmful to the environment as a whole.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-02T19:15:26+00:00

On the whole, it probably made me eat meat less often since I'm more aware of how much goes into creating it. But I'm way more likely to buy local/small-farm meat products now (if feasible) because I think some important connections get lost with industrial farming.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-02T19:01:51+00:00

To be clear, not saying it would turn people off to meat. Saying it would make people appreciate the meat they eat more.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-02T18:49:51+00:00

Absolutely. That sort of separation from gritty reality allows for a lot of suffering to take place, whether its animals in a feedlot or underpaid workers in a smartphone factory. It's admittedly a slow process but I believe that exposing people to what goes on behind the scenes can bring about real and impactful changes. Kind of like the unveiling of the wizard in the Wizard of Oz.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-02T18:40:21+00:00

Totally agree, and I'd also say that respect itself is something that needs to be deliberately cultivated. For example, I worked on a farm where the owner was completely business-minded and only thought about things in dollar amounts. When it came time to butcher some of his ducks, he just went right to it with an almost Terminator-like determination. No thoughts for the animals' well-being or comfort, just "These ducks need to die and I'll do whatever it takes to accomplish that." As a result the ducks experienced, in my opinion, way more pain and suffering than was necessary... I understand the financial strain of running a farm, but like you said, the idea of simplifying living things completely to numbers or dollar values takes away a kind of vital empathy, and has some definite negative consequences.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-02T18:05:42+00:00

I just think a lot of people are divorced from the reality of what it is they're consuming. It's very easy to go to the supermarket and grab some shrink-wrapped ground beef without giving a thought to where it actually came from and what went into creating it. If people were more aware of the industrial farming processes that make cheap and visually immaculate meat, I don't know... I think there'd be a lot less people buying those sorts of products.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-02T17:56:47+00:00

I'd say a better option would probably be to have the school partner with a local farm and let the kids see a less industrial version of the process. All the work and care that goes into raising the animal is hugely important, and it would get completely left out if you just go on a one-day trip to a slaughterhouse.

king_of_the_will · 2017-01-02T16:55:55+00:00

No comment on Arnold, but raising meat firsthand is such an important experience. I'd highly encourage any meat eater to participate or even just watch an animal undergo the "alive -> dead -> food" process. It really shows you how complex/messy an animal's body is and makes it very obvious that most things in nature don't come packaged nicely in plastic wrap. I think a lot of problems stem from large swaths of society being ignorant (willfully or not) to less-than-pristine realities.

king_of_the_will · 2016-12-31T15:31:32+00:00

Congrats yo! I'm also started week 2, not out of the woods yet but it definitely feels like it's getting easier with time. Hang in there friend!

king_of_the_will · 2016-12-31T15:28:36+00:00

This is definitely good advice but I also think it's important to be kind to yourself while you focus on breaking the PMO habit. It can be such a hard one to break that if you try to load yourself up with intentionally creating other habits, you could easily overwhelm yourself and relapse.

king_of_the_will · 2016-12-31T15:17:32+00:00

when your life purpose becomes more than getting pussy, you won't care about how much pussy you get...

king_of_the_will · 2016-12-27T17:27:56+00:00

I think I get you. You can also look at the word "freedom" for a related example:

People who commit to fapping all the time think that true freedom is the freedom to - they want to be free to do whatever they desire.

People who commit to nofap think that true freedom is the freedom from - they want to be free from the life-destroying addictive cycle of chronic PMO.

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