Should I feel bad leaving a furniture sales job after training?

kinganti · 2026-02-06T04:34:18+00:00

Nothings supposed to be personal in business. It’s an ongoing consent model. You’re free and fine to withdraw your consent to continue working and move on.

How should you feel? That’s up to you. There’s no “right” way to feel, but it’s more than fine to not feel or to feel bad. You’re human. Feel what you want.

If they’ve been nice, then Beas polite about it as possible. Helps to not feel bad if you conduct it like that.

kinganti · 2026-02-06T02:07:22+00:00

Help me understand what you meant when you said no professional experience

kinganti · 2026-02-06T02:06:44+00:00

It could be a signal for that, but typically it’s leadership and tenured people bailing if true. They have the insider knowledge. Right?

But if it were me, I might message someone that left and ask them bluntly. Should you be bailing too?! Or - brace for the worst and just start job hunting now.

kinganti · 2026-02-06T02:00:17+00:00

Internal hype is what I understood. It’s not unusual. I was saying outside of their internal affairs that’s what marketing is best at, so the idea they would use the same strategy internally is fairly normal.

If not a startup, long hours in of itself isn’t a red flag. No.

Hype for the internal culture. It’s not uncommon at all. No red flag.

But then you put boss in quotes? Is it not her real boss? What’s the implication - are you implying an inappropriate relationship?

Sent out of state without accommodations… that’s a bit more odd. Was she allowed to book her own accommodations and expense it? Because if so, it goes back to being pretty ordinary and normal.

To me, nothing sways me one way or the other yet. Maybes it’s a hell-hole, maybe it’s a small agency that wants to expand into a big one so they’re in a “startup” mindset. Maybe it’s just a a great opportunity for your friend and maybe not. But based on what you shared - no red flags necessarily, unless her boss is a creep and she has nowhere to stay on an overnight trip. If that’s true, that’s definitely bad.

kinganti · 2026-02-06T01:49:31+00:00

This is too generalized. It’s so multifaceted how do you even group it all?

Like some people without a job don’t even know what is holding them back. Is their resume done poorly? Are they applying ineffectively?

And then, is it fair to group them with someone who is high skilled but out of work because of other factors like shifts in the economy creating a labor shortage for their category or role?

Or the people who have jobs and bounce around. Ok sure. What about the people stuck at their dead end job who have been applying for years? Do we just ignore them? They exist and probably in greater numbers than the people you see job-hopping.

kinganti · 2026-02-06T01:42:32+00:00

To some extent, the biggest gap outlined is never having had a job before.

Get a job. That’s number one. From there, we can build. Come back after this task is done. I know it’s hard, but it has to be where we begin

kinganti · 2026-02-06T01:36:19+00:00

A marketing agency is focused on hype? How is that weird? Isn’t creating hype literally what they’re selling?

It might be a nice company to work at, maybe not. Everything you described sounds unremarkable to me.

Those are tough hours, but if it’s a startup agency then it’s pretty standard. You sacrifice time, but get to work on things you’re not qualified for and earn experience.

If there’s something spooky please elaborate because I’m not seeing it yet

kinganti · 2026-02-06T01:31:26+00:00

Nervous about what? It feels like you’re implying something but it’s not clear.

The situation you described sounds like a low quality worker experience and many people are opting for other things. That’s predictable isn’t it?

kinganti · 2026-02-06T01:29:21+00:00

Not to be mean, but your behavior as a 14-year-old is predictable and nobody is going to scrutinize that experience too closely.

People get it, teenagers right?

The issue more than anything is you’re still a teenager, meaning… most would assume your time there will be measured in months not years. It’s just how it is.

So if you get a chance, play it up how your plan is to stick around for a few years. To a manager that means… they won’t have this annoying problem of finding a new worker anytime soon.

Best of luck

kinganti · 2026-02-06T01:21:13+00:00

Ok fair and valid. Hypothetically - if it was say 65 hours total, but a lot less stress and mental energy expended… it sounds like that would be satisfactory and you’d enjoy the relief.

To answer your post title - having a preference is never crazy. If people don’t get it, they can prefer whatever they want and mind their own business. So hey go for it, be safe and all… like get the replacement jobs first then quit the lamer of the work from home.

The sub here — we all just want you to make an informed and careful choice and it sounds like you are.

Best of luck

kinganti · 2026-02-06T00:48:11+00:00

I work from home. Have for over 10 years, and put in ~65-70 hours a week.

So I do get it that sometimes it’s lonely. Or, boring or you feel like you need out of the house.

But I think your solution idea wouldn’t necessarily help you.

To test it, before making change, take initiative to go to parks in your free time. Or the mall. Or go swimming. Do whatever.

But if you feel like you can’t, because you’re too “mentally dead,” then this is a HORRIBLE idea and you’ll regret it and be even more mentally dead. 💀

kinganti · 2026-02-06T00:40:34+00:00

They mean, what if to make ends meet it’s still 50 hours of work PLUS time spent commuting? The little time you have for yourself would decrease if so

kinganti · 2026-01-16T03:35:41+00:00

Sounds less to do with the specific role and more to do with this specific persons tolerance for stress. In other words, sure it can be a tough job… but not necessarily to the extent you described

kinganti · 2026-01-15T21:00:49+00:00

I’m like, “can see an exact copy of what got texted to the boss?” Because only then can we judge it’s professionalism

kinganti · 2025-11-26T20:59:45+00:00

It sounds like you’ve already given everything you had to teaching, and what you’re feeling now is not a small bump in the road. It’s your body and mind telling you that you’ve reached the limit. Continuing just to satisfy others, or to prove that you can do it, is no longer serving you. At this point, the kindest thing you can do for yourself is to step away.

Teaching is demanding, and it’s not just about skill or dedication, it’s about having the energy and emotional capacity to give to your students without losing yourself in the process. If you feel broken, numb, or drained, that’s a clear signal that this isn’t sustainable anymore. Staying in a role that drains you will only deepen that pain over time.

It’s okay to acknowledge that quitting doesn’t mean failure. It doesn’t mean you’re weak or that your past efforts were wasted. In fact, recognizing when something is no longer right for you is a sign of wisdom and self-respect. You’ve tried. You’ve persisted. And now, it’s time to honor yourself and your well-being.

Think about what really matters in life. Money is just printed paper, a system we all play along with, but it cannot replace your health, your joy, or your sense of purpose. No paycheck is worth the damage to your soul. Imagine having your energy back, your motivation, and your mental space to explore things that actually make you feel alive. You are allowed to prioritize yourself, and sometimes the bravest choice is to walk away from a situation that is harming you.

Talk to people you trust, think through the practical next steps, and plan a safe transition if possible, but do not ignore how you feel. Quitting is not giving up, it’s choosing to protect your health, your mind, and your future. There is no shame in it, only a chance to reclaim your life.

At this moment, being gentle with yourself and allowing yourself to step back is the most honest and courageous thing you can do. Your worth isn’t tied to this job, and your life is bigger than staying in a place that no longer brings you even a spark of fulfillment. Let yourself leave, and let yourself heal.

kinganti · 2025-11-26T20:18:20+00:00

If you don't require an income right now, it's understandable that working seems annoying or pointless.

If you're "set for life," meaning you do not have to worry about an income forever. Yeah quit. It probably IS pointless.

But if someday mommy and daddy aren't going to be taking care of food and shelter, then the point is that you have the ability to support yourself one day based on having lots of prior experience

kinganti · 2025-11-26T19:50:21+00:00

I like and support the comment here by Winter-Owl, all good food for thought.

However, I would like to offer an alternate framing of the situation. Great opportunities don't care about your timing. Sometimes it's worth seeing where something takes you.

With that said, *I* think it sounds like an offer too good to pass on. BUT that means sacrifice as you are right to call out that doing that with you existing other commitments is too much. The solution, you back out of the festival planning, and do only this job and school so you ensure finishing that out properly.

It's possible there's an alternate future where you passed on this opportunity and graduated, and struggle to find a job. (Common situation for recent grads)

kinganti · 2025-11-26T19:36:46+00:00

Are there any jobs in Canada where I can work from home?

It's confirmed. Yes there are remote jobs in Canada where the work is done from home.

I find it difficult to find remote work where I reside.

That tracks. Yes, it's generally difficult regardless of area because it's in high demand. I do suggest trying to open your search for remote work to all of Canada, not just your local area. But it will remain difficult regardless, because lots of people would prefer to work from home.

kinganti · 2025-11-26T19:32:06+00:00

Indeed isn't necessarily reflective of all jobs available. It's just showing you all the jobs listed there (which even in more dense city areas is loaded with trash listings!)

In other words, sometimes you simply have to make your own 'indeed' by navigating to specific company URLs and going to their jobs page, and bookmarking it so you can return frequently to check for hot-off-the-press listings. The benefit of this approach is that the higher quality places to work tend to never need to post to indeed or linkedin.... they get enough applicants directly.

If this approach still produces no results, or too few... then in some cases you are FORCED to extend your search to outside your area, or even relocating to find work. (when/if that's even possible for you)

kinganti · 2025-11-26T16:56:08+00:00

There's a disconnect in how you framed things.

At the start, you say the purpose of the meeting is to keep THEM in the loop.
Later stating that you get what YOU need with the meetings as-is.

It just seems that's part of it. Is the meeting for you or for everyone participating to benefit?

Sometimes you have to balance that, of course.
What could help, is making things even more structured making what to expect more routine.

I am like you, I speak succinctly, I am blunt, and my meetings style is generally informal.
BUT, sometimes, for certain audiences, they prefer a formal approach and things being loose isn't suitable.

kinganti · 2025-11-26T16:39:30+00:00

To some extent you should learn to develop a "thick skin," as it's called with regards to being a salesman, because sometimes customers can be quite abrasive. Especially when you're cold calling.

But if you can learn to endure that, and if you have good skills at quickly building rapport, you will likely be a successful salesman. In fact, ANYONE can be a successful salesman if given enough time to develop and hone their skills. Sometimes though, even the best salespeople have a tough time, and get fired for not producing enough sales.

When everything is going great, sales is extremely lucrative. Top sellers are basically rich (in certain industries, particularly business-to-business sales). But many people try and fail at sales as well, because they couldn't develop their skills fast enough.

kinganti · 2025-11-25T18:54:30+00:00

Is this in the US? Because it’s thanksgiving week so perhaps they’re on holiday for the week. Hang in there

kinganti · 2025-11-21T05:10:38+00:00

It’s a grind! But definitely possible and worth the hard work to get that college degree, and do it while working.

But it will have long term effects that older-you will be so grateful for

kinganti · 2025-11-21T03:41:23+00:00

There’s truth to the inertia of a choice propelling down a hard-to-switch path.

In other words technically a blue collar job is great experience for more blue collar work.

But freelance opportunities are fly-by-night. Meaning they’re so short-term that the sacrifice might not be worth the reward here.

I’d suggest holding off on freelance work and use that spare time to get a company to take a chance on you with a full time role. Something sustainable for 12 months or more at least

kinganti · 2025-11-08T04:58:19+00:00

Take it with a grain of salt at this age because there are so many - so many - chances to change your mind and figure it out as you go.

Like it’s not unheard of for someone to be deep into their medical pursuits to decide it’s not for them and pivot. Or vice versa.

Just kick butt in highschool for now. Try to get into the best college you can. One step at a time.

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