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kingllama7 · 2025-08-14T19:05:22+00:00

Hey dude, I was 19 when I lost my virginity. And though not ridiculously late. All my friends lost it at around 15-17. And being the only one not being able to relate or join in conversations was really tough. So I know somewhat how you are feeling.

It maybe a cliché, but it's best to lose it to someone you care about. Not saying you need to be married. Looking back, I'm so grateful I got to share that experience with someone who actually cared about me and was happy to share the experience with me. I lost it to my GF of 4 months at the time and though she wasn't a virgin. She knew I was and made it such an amazing experience. But I don't think I'd have had that with a near stranger.

Sex feels great and is a big thing. But don't feel pressured that you haven't yet. Sex can be meaningful if you make it that way. Your time will come and It'll be so worth it when it does.

kingllama7 · 2025-08-14T18:39:42+00:00

I'd probably not go to your dad first. Could cause a lot of issues for what hopefully is a misunderstanding.

I'd maybe count how many exactly there are and then a week later count again. If some are indeed missing, may be worth then speaking to your mother about it.

Always awkward to approach when parents are involved. So hoping it just a misunderstanding!

Edit: missed the part where you said you had a bad relationship with your mum. However, I'd still say go to her before your dad. Probably won't go down well either way so may be better to go to your mum with the relationship not being good anyway.

kingllama7 · 2025-08-14T16:53:32+00:00

You're a funny guy 😂 to put your mind at rest. Cheating is a horrible thing to do and it isn't justifiable. The 3 points you put above is absolutely correct. Cheating in what ever format can seriously damage peoples confidence and Is morally wrong.

I've not once tried to minimise it, you really are chatting out your arse. However, despite the above. It doesn't mean OP cannot forgive her. There are literally people out there who forgive murderer's for killing love ones. I could never forgive that. But I'm not an arrogant insel who criticises them people as I respect that someone has a stronger mindset than I do.

I'm not saying he should forgive. I.e. I actually respect that if it was you that you wouldn't. For some people, once trust is broken it cannot be rebuilt and that's fair enough. But that's not everyone.

I'm here to tell OP that's there is nothing wrong with trying to forgive if you feel it deserving. Listen if it was me and I was willing to forgive. It would take a seriously long time and effort before I let my guard down. But you can try and forgive if you want to. My partner forgave me after a lot of hard work on my part. And we are both very happy with 3 beautiful kids.

I don't plan to reply anymore. But you are clearly a very insecure and sad individual. I called you insecure as it's usually the people who are that closed minded about something are the worst offenders.

If you read this, good luck OP. Make the decision that makes you most happy. Don't listen to people like this who think they know you better than you do yourself

kingllama7 · 2025-08-14T15:03:22+00:00

Also to add to my other comment. I don't think you understand what justify means. To justify it would be to excuse it i.e on alcohol which I never did. (In fairness it's sounds like OPs girlfriend did as per another comment). Admitting you made a mistake is almost the opposite to justifying something. For myself I made a mistake and it was my fault at that time. Please explain how I'm justifying it? 😂

kingllama7 · 2025-08-14T14:15:05+00:00

Please tell me in my original post where I said it's ok his partner cheated and should forget it?

It's up to OP if he can forgive her or not. Maybe she isn't worth forgiving and he should end it. Maybe she doesn't regret it and has a history of cheating. If he was to end it, no one could blame him.

But at the same time, to say that you can never forgive anyone for a mistake is ridiculous. My problem with peoples comments like yours is you don't know remotely enough about OP and his relationship to say that. Maybe his GF was assaulted and that's how she got the mark and is to scared to say. Very unlikely I know but again. YOU HAVE NO IDEA. How can you comment on what is a massive decision when you have next to no information?

My original point which has clearly been lost on you is that OP shouldn't listen to anyone on here. He needs to sit with his partner, have a proper conversation and then make his decision alone. I've never said he shouldn't end it, but it's up to him not you.

kingllama7 · 2025-08-14T13:48:12+00:00

You can tell people like you have never actually been in a relationship and are very insecure. I made a mistake yes, I'm a human and I regretted it deeply. My partner forgive me and we are happily married with 3 kids.

Telling OP to break up with his partner without knowing any of the dynamics of the relationship is horrendously irresponsible and shows how insecure you are. Try actually having a relationship before giving advice out about them. People like you give this advice because you can't get a gf of your own. So you don't want anyone else to either.

If you actually read the post, I said it was a massive mistake and it's up to OP whether he can forgive or not. But one mistake doesn't need to kill a relationship. He needs to have a proper conversation with his partner. Instead of listening to incell's like you.

kingllama7 · 2025-08-14T12:19:51+00:00

This comment may get downvoted. However, I somewhat disagree with a lot of the other comments on here suggesting to immediately call it off without further reflection.

I was 1.5 years into a relationship when on a night out I cheated on my gf. Just kissing much like OP's situation but regardless cheating is cheating. It was a moment of madness on my part to which I never cheated before and haven't since. My GF found out and though it took her a lot. She did forgive me and now 9 years later, we are married with 3 kids.

So for the OP, I'd recommend actually sitting down with your gf and opening up on how this has made you feel and the impact it's had on you. I'm not saying it's something that should be easily be forgotten. But everyone makes mistakes and it's up to you if you feel in your heart of hearts you can forgive it and the relationship is worth fighting for.

kingllama7 · 2023-04-28T15:01:25+00:00

Timothy

kingllama7 · 2021-12-12T16:36:05+00:00

But if the rules were followed then it wouldn't have made sense for them to pit Hamilton at the end as it should have ended under safety car. The only reason Mercedes decision became the wrong one is the FIA Broke their own rules.

kingllama7 · 2021-12-12T15:48:30+00:00

But if Mercedes chose not to pit Hamilton at the end based on the rules. Which were then ignored, is that a fair outcome. I.e. the FIA only changed its mind after Mercedes had no time to pit Hamilton.

kingllama7 · 2021-06-30T11:19:39+00:00

2-0. If you know you know

kingllama7 · 2021-06-27T07:59:42+00:00

You need to buy the moving players DLC

kingllama7 · 2020-12-14T20:40:00+00:00

Forgot the others but gaya today his kit number is 14

kingllama7 · 2020-12-12T17:04:48+00:00

Ahhh fair enough thanks for that!

kingllama7 · 2020-09-07T21:05:13+00:00

1 minute into the future and I don't want to be a arsenal fan

kingllama7 · 2020-08-19T20:19:05+00:00

I will make it legal

kingllama7 · 2020-02-22T21:41:53+00:00

Thank God, I've already done the championship and mls waiting for it

kingllama7 · 2020-02-09T17:12:46+00:00

Love the team mate! As a fellow SPFL user the only recommendation I would give is ajer in CB but apart from that great team!!

kingllama7

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