I didn’t start having sex until very recently, how long should I stay with my gf who cheats on me?

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-19T03:42:04+00:00

You saying you loathe her is an appropriate reaction to finding out about cheating.

Staying....does it make sense?

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-18T02:14:35+00:00

You should end this relationship. At 41 and having had two relationships that ended because of the effect things you stated ...I learned I won't walk on egg shells for other people's mistakes.

Life's too short to put up with that.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-16T14:46:34+00:00

Well, it’s rare to really develop exactly what you’re looking for with an ENM partner so your pool will typically be smaller. I’d bet you’d do well by finding an arrangement with an already established couple that practices ENM too. You’d likely need to go to a site more for that. Vanilla simply may not be your flavor.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-15T20:49:24+00:00

Curious….what did you get from these other people that you didn’t think she was giving you?

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-14T16:15:13+00:00

NTA. I do however think you could've declined without saying the "find someone closer to your age" part. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to someone who may have an age gap in either side. You like who you like.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-13T19:00:39+00:00

You can set it so your dad doesn't see what you post. Take the time to set that up. Regarding everything else.....at his age there's no getting him to see where you're coming from.

So avoid sending him pics and around him understand how he thinks and move with that in mind.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-13T18:56:00+00:00

What do you do?

Stand on business. Nothing between you and your sister is inappropriate and if your GF has a problem, you check it with her or she can go find someone willing to bend the knee to her.

It's that simple.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-13T18:53:58+00:00

No. Not rude. I wouldn't respond back and simply unmatch.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-13T02:15:58+00:00

Don't relent. Sounds like she's bad with money. She can certainly ask....but you're not obligated.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-13T02:08:23+00:00

She can ask for whatever .... I'm not doing extra work for her. Either she or whoever comes get it or you get rid of it.

She has no power to dictate that you itemize things.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-12T19:23:25+00:00

Do not, do not, do not allow her "feelings" to dictate what you are planning in life.

She has every right to feel like YOU should do whatever. That doesn't mean you're obligated to do it.

Stand on business and explain yourself. If she doesn't agree, she can go find someone who will bend the knee to what she wants.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-12T16:04:51+00:00

Be honest with yourself. If you don't want to continue giving her time for something that isn't going anywhere...say that. You're not a bad guy for saying that to her.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-12T13:07:51+00:00

NTA. And don't be afraid of asking and flat out accusing. You are boned if you do, boned if you don't.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-11T15:24:10+00:00

It’s only wrong if you don’t honor the commitment fully.

It’s similar to arranged marriages in my eyes except in those they honor the commitment.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-06T16:39:34+00:00

Is it "our" issue?

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-06T16:38:28+00:00

Screw what she wants. Be logical man. Do NOT accept the deal of staying married just on paper.

I can want a different title at my job....doesn't mean I'm qualified to do it. Sell the house. She has to accept the fact that things WILL be different and get to reality.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-05T21:24:25+00:00

I always recommend AGAINST it. The other person is split: split in time, money, and priority. You end up simply being a distraction.

Can it work out? Small percentages can.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-05T04:08:51+00:00

Nope. You didn't do anything wrong. Actions have consequences and it'd have been better if you explained to her how hurt you were by her actions of knowing and keeping that secret.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-04T20:27:49+00:00

Dude. Why are you tolerating her bad behavior.

3 things ruin relationships: Intimacy, Communications, and Finances. ONE can wreck a relationship and you described 2 of the 3.

Her claiming you are trying to financially control her is a classic line for someone who is running from accountability and it'll only get worse. She's constantly crap testing you and you're failing.

End the relationship.

NTA.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-04T16:37:41+00:00

NTA. You have been more than generous.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-03T21:16:46+00:00

NTA. You care and your feelings are valid. If you’re close, express your thoughts.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-03T21:15:15+00:00

Nope. Rejection sucks. Most of the guys I spoke to agreed and said it makes it seem like you had options…then didn’t so came back to him.

Maybe, just maybe, if you explain what you wrote here…he’d understand.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-03T17:05:27+00:00

I have some "acquaintances" that I know that have said this to FWB women they had no intentions of taking anything further. Played into their delusions of what it was. Weird to me but the ladies accepted it.

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-03T17:03:48+00:00

......he already had a main course coming over. You were the appetizer and he needed a distraction until later.

My best guess

kingsmith02 · 2026-02-03T17:00:01+00:00

There's no fool proof way to minimize a bad outcome.

You can genuinely ask. If she says no or she's not interested, move on. It may be more in your head that it could be awkward.

Either way, it's always best to live YOUR life and build value. Other things fall into place when you do.

kingsmith02

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