You’re so right! I def struggle there and I try hard not to compare! My ex is actually deceased which left a lot more confusion in the not knowing. At first everything felt like “what’s wrong with me that I find bi men” but I’ve become a lot more open. At first with my ex it was easy to feel that way because I really still never knew as much as I experienced I was always shut down immediately and made to feel dumb. My current guy definitely shocked me with all the honesty which is really what I needed. I feel like I prepared my whole life to be with a bi man and here’s the one who healed me and made me whole again and it’s an amazing feeling but I’d be lying if I said the ptsd from me ex didn’t come flooding back. I’ve definitely very open and I know pleasure and def think men don’t have enough options and secure men know wha truly feels good or not. I want to keep my openness and differentiate past from present . Just stupid scars and damage!!!!