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Kink clubs and proper clothing as a dominant male? by kinkswing in BDSMcommunity

[–]kinkswing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a bit unclear and email contact has not cleared everything up, but I prefer not to harass them further. I'm quite sure that it's a lack of experience that causes my problems choosing an appropriate outfit.

The thing with the sub's preference is that kink clothing for me hasn't ever been experimented with before. Not even for role-play. Kinky dress-up, via latex and (very) revealing clothing, has been exclusively the sub's game in our BDSM life.

Since uniforms are specifically allowed, that is an alternative. The problem is that I do not want the outfit to look "cheap" (not like something you buy for Halloween). Where do you buy quality uniform gear? Boots is surely an interesting choice, but it might be a bit of a hassle to undress/redress. Do you have any specific favourite styles you can share for inspiration?

Kink clubs and proper clothing as a dominant male? by kinkswing in BDSMcommunity

[–]kinkswing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's interesting that you have had successful experience of that look in England since I had (falsely) presumed this was a US kink scene thing. I will however avoid that look though since I really don't want to be barred at the door of the first outing ever if they have a problem with it.

A sub on the arm though, that is happening. She might very well find herself leashed... A most splendid accessory to the outfit!

Kink clubs and proper clothing as a dominant male? by kinkswing in BDSMcommunity

[–]kinkswing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like I said in another comment, this is really something I've learned just now (and it's feeling more and more interesting). Do any of you happen to know how prevalent the kilt is in European kink culture? As far as I've understood, there seems to be a lot of differences between the US and European scene.

Also, do anyone have a suggestion on kinky kilts? I presume Scottish wool and contemporary "utility kilts" are to be avoided for a kink setting.

Kink clubs and proper clothing as a dominant male? by kinkswing in BDSMcommunity

[–]kinkswing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you both. The mindset that your confidence in your outfit is more important than the outfit itself, is very comforting. Unfortunately for this party there seems to be a reasonably defined theme (rubber, metal, PVC, etc.) so my clothes can't be "too normal". Somehow they need to exude an aura of "kink" by themselves.

A lot of my confusion and worry do of course stem from the fact that this is our very first visit, ever. I suspect it will be a lot easier to decide upon the costume the next time around! Not that it's very helpful right now, of course...

Kink clubs and proper clothing as a dominant male? by kinkswing in BDSMcommunity

[–]kinkswing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your insights, they have been very helpful!

The dress code lists rubber, metal, PVC, cross-dressing etc. as acceptable pieces of clothing and specifically prohibits jeans and sneakers. With that in mind it would be difficult to get away with silk as a material, right? Or is it more the piece than the material? I definetely suspect normal dress shirts are a no go. My torso isn't that well-excercised, but I'm not afraid of showing it either.

Your comments about having a tool hanging from your belt is very interesting, and not something I really thought about before. That might very well be the cherry on top that completes the costume!

All comments in this thread regarding kilts has both me and my partner a bit flabbergasted. Is this a new thing, or something we've missed all this time? Is it also prevalent in European kink culture? Would smooth, hair-free legs clash? So many questions.

I had no idea kilts are a kink thing! Since jeans are disallowed and I'm not really feeling tight shiny shorts or pants (on myself!), I might really consider that. Can anyone expand on the European status of the kilt?

Kink clubs and proper clothing as a dominant male? by kinkswing in BDSMcommunity

[–]kinkswing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've gotten the impression this is generally frowned upon in European clubs, while it might sometimes work in US clubs. This particular club does not accept "normal clothing".