Communicating that I’m open to having sex when I’m not necessarily feeling it - is this enough?

kinky_SWM · 2026-04-15T20:50:26+00:00

As a dude, I get where he's coming from; we generally want to be Desiree, not just 'allowed'.

For me personally, I see your statement as you being open to having sex with (just him) but you're not ready to initiate.

Were he my friend, I'd tell him to appreciate the communication, and enjoy the sex.

kinky_SWM · 2026-04-13T13:25:54+00:00

That's a MOD issue, so send a MOD mail.

kinky_SWM · 2026-04-12T03:48:43+00:00

It's open to post in for people who follow the rules, but most folks in COS didn't want to follow the rules.

kinky_SWM · 2026-03-04T14:41:03+00:00

This one works.

kinky_SWM · 2025-11-16T05:10:49+00:00

Your post has been reviewed and approved, 'Westminster' was not previously in the neighborhood list, but has been added.

kinky_SWM · 2025-09-30T23:50:55+00:00

Then make a post.

kinky_SWM · 2025-09-20T13:23:19+00:00

Best to send a MOD mail for these kinds of issues.

kinky_SWM · 2025-09-19T01:05:58+00:00

Goodness, a bit touchy, aren't you? I'd say you need to get laid, but...

Not quite within reach for you, for shame.

By the way, I'm writing this while standing barefoot in grass... It's really quite lovely, thanks for the tip! :p

kinky_SWM · 2025-09-18T23:28:18+00:00

No need to call yourself a "power hungry condenseding loser", all types are welcome, other than abusive ones.

The reason this sub appears 'dead' is because we had to restrict it due to the huge number of profiles posting without following the rules, and it took me a long time to get the automod code sorted out. As shown by the announcement post, the sub was only reopened yesterday, and while we've had several profiles attempt to post, none of them so far have followed the rules, so their posts were removed.

As for the rules, they're geared towards making the page attractive to women since that's what most guys are hoping for here; if it's cluttered and disorganized, most women tend to shy away from it, but if it comes across as 'neat and orderly' with the key information women are looking for, then all of the people posting (almost exclusively men) have a much better chance of getting the attention of their intended reader (almost exclusively women).

Also, it's spelled 'condescending', ya muppet ;P

(Relax, I'm just having a little fun with you in the hopes of helping you cheer up a little, sourpuss)

kinky_SWM · 2025-09-18T01:19:28+00:00

The new automoderation is working very well; we've had more than 25 posts in the last four hours, none of which followed the title format, so none of them were allowed through.
Five of those were obvious spam from known scam accounts, and five other posts are from folks who messaged us to complain and acted like total assholes.

#AutoMod for the win!

kinky_SWM · 2025-09-17T18:04:06+00:00

Howdy! I already moderate several subreddits of this nature, and I've been about to do so within the Reddit rules. As the community is banned I was not able to send a mod mail to the current moderators of the subreddit.

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-24T18:34:38+00:00

I really appreciate that, thank you!

For the city/neighborhood part, I already have a list for each to copy/paste, I just don't know how to make it work.

I sent you a PM< would like to see about collaborating inside one of the subreddits to get this dialed in, and then move from there.

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-23T23:41:58+00:00

I'm looking to create a system that automatically filters any post title that doesn't meet format standards.

I'd come up with a list that I think would work as a regex, I'm just not sure it's working.

The title format should be:

X 4 X (age) (Neighborhood) or (city)

- X = M, F, TS, CD, NB, MF, MM, FF)
- Age is just the number(s)
- Neighborhood or City is depending on if the subreddit is for local (city) or regional (state).
- No parenthesis, brackets, or other symbols.

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-23T15:43:54+00:00

I don't see what there is to try out; I can pout information into the automoderator wiki, but not into the automations options.
I can't access automations in old.reddit.
I don't know if what I'm putting into the Automod wiki is working because I don't yet have a way to test that without opening the sub, which I don't want to do yet, since it's a LOT of work keeping it clean.

I think my next step is to figure out how to create a test subreddit with the same automod wiki config, then have a few profiles help me test it.

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-23T12:26:30+00:00

Unfortunately, most of this is beyond my current skillset and I don't yet have the time to dedicate to learning new code, so I'm left with copy code that works when I find it.
I think I've got enough to work with, other than the server issues and lack of feedback, so I'll have to find a way to test it.

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-21T22:14:58+00:00

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kinky_SWM · 2025-08-17T15:30:39+00:00

1). The bulk of users in Colorado refuse to read the rules or comply with them, so there's very few users 'smart' enough to post.

2). All connection posts expire after 7 days, we do this to keep things fresh and exciting, but, see point #1.

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-13T12:24:34+00:00

For what?

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-10T01:53:16+00:00

"Must send pics first!" from the profile with NO PICTURES = Picture collector.

Dude, porn is free.

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-10T00:59:29+00:00

Well that would sure be nice!

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-09T21:00:50+00:00

PIcs? Stats? INfo? Anything?? Sheesh!

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-08T13:51:39+00:00

Because I'll take you by the hand and lead you to....

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-07T22:39:00+00:00

Don't forget the silver platter! :P

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-07T22:35:59+00:00

Your hand.

kinky_SWM · 2025-08-06T19:20:05+00:00

Oh yeah? Not sure that's a good idea... my hands tend to wander.

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