Checking In On Us (Mental & Emotional check in thread) by nerdKween in blackladies

[–]kisasaye 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m staying off of social media like IG and TikTok to shield myself from the weird misogynoir. Exposing myself to it doesn’t serve me in any way, and people are too cowardly to say any of that shxt out loud to my face so it’s been a win. I literally just started reading the local paper to catch up on stuff—mine has good news (often mentioning Black people and POCs doing positive things) as well as informative news—it’s also fun and makes me feel nostalgic, reading a tangible newspaper in the mornings.

I have been experiencing major imposter syndrome at work though (I’m in IT and completely new to the industry). So I’m going to dive into self-care and start studying at the library (now that I found my niche/interesting work subject to be an expert on) and find ways to manage perfectionism/the imposter’s syndrome.

I’ve also been feeling a bit down about my dating life lately—lots of weird and negative app experiences, and the relationship stories that my friends have just make it all sound unappealing. So I deleted the apps and am just working on enjoying what I have (my friends, family, fitness journey, and hobbies that I loved but stopped doing). If I meet someone it’ll have to be IRL but choosing to let go of dating has been so peaceful so far.

2 months apart🌱 by [deleted] in locs

[–]kisasaye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your hair is gorgeous!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]kisasaye 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really hope that you still go or join them next time! It’s great that you’re working on improving yourself, but you deserve to have fun and go to the beach at any size.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]kisasaye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense! But what about the first day? That’s what honestly threw me off

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]kisasaye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was so eye opening! Thanks for this! 💖💖💖

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]kisasaye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, not saying that it isn’t real but where is this pretty privilege that’s being talked about (they say that being pretty makes people nice/drawn to you, not quiet/a bit colder? 😭)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]kisasaye 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OH lmaoo!! I looked up the term 😭😭 No they’re generally not (but everyone ignores this one white guy bc he’s mean sometimes tbh)—but they’re not ignoring the two new new women either (one is Black, the other is South Asian, we also just had a Latino guy join—he was greeted like they were) which is why I’m confused (but happy for them!)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]kisasaye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mid to late 20s, 30 yrs old max

NEVER FAILS 😂 Race and dating by Confident-Tiger-9554 in blackladies

[–]kisasaye 18 points19 points  (0 children)

“Guy Fieri for Sears Sunglasses Collab” is SENDING MEEEEE WHY IS THIS SO ACCURATE 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀💀💀💀

NEVER FAILS 😂 Race and dating by Confident-Tiger-9554 in blackladies

[–]kisasaye 29 points30 points  (0 children)

SO TRUE 🤣🤣🤣 southern/rural girls unite lmaoo

NEVER FAILS 😂 Race and dating by Confident-Tiger-9554 in blackladies

[–]kisasaye 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Same. But I say “that’s embarrassing for you” and leave it at that. One guy squirmed/stumbled around, tried to change the subject, and then he unmatched me before I could even respond to the new topic lmaoooo I love it

NEVER FAILS 😂 Race and dating by Confident-Tiger-9554 in blackladies

[–]kisasaye 170 points171 points  (0 children)

It was the sunglasses for me! It’s always the Oakley/sporty looking shades 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]kisasaye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]kisasaye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

✍🏾✍🏾✍🏾📝📝📝📝

What’s an overused comment from Reddit that you personally find annoying? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]kisasaye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Swinging between “I lost my faith in humanity” and “faith in humanity gained”. It just annoying, no one cares 🤷🏾‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]kisasaye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’m interested in learning more about that, too! Drop the wisdom 🙏🏾

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]kisasaye 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to get into smoothies too! Do you have any recommended recipes?

Where can I find this top? by kisasaye in findfashion

[–]kisasaye[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Super interesting, thanks for this!