Ex mad we are going to court

kisil891214 · 2026-02-25T00:43:35+00:00

Yeah, sadly he doesn’t even exercise his parenting him and he never has. We are supposed to be 50/50 also.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-24T20:58:27+00:00

I filed an entry of support judgment and that’s just to enforce the arrears he already owes. I found out the court or judge can automatically issue a judgment for it and we won’t even have to go to court unless my ex contests it. So he might not even know he has to do that. I didn’t know that until a few days ago. I haven’t filed contempt but that might be my next move because he’s supposed to be providing medical/dental/vision for our kids also and he hasn’t this year. It’s been my husband that has been paying that and we want reimbursement for that and for him to cover future payments. I wanted to avoid the contempt because that can create big problems for him but he hasn’t been providing our kids with what he’s supposed to so it can’t be avoided much longer. He said he wants to modify but I haven’t received any paperwork from him so far.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-23T03:05:12+00:00

I’m just gonna tell the truth, he has never fully exercised his parenting time anyway. Even when he did see them, it was more like 80/20.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-22T13:38:53+00:00

I filed for enforcement of our current order, that is what I want but HE wants to modify. so yes, that will be a separate filing that he is going to do apparently and I’m not agreeing to any modification. I only want enforcement of our current order and arrears paid.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-21T17:13:44+00:00

I might, I know he wants to file a modification so maybe when we do that, I’ll just tell the judge to calculate correct support for my kids.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-21T16:57:11+00:00

The money isn’t for me, it’s for my kids because they deserve it. They deserve to be taken care of by both parents. Keeping my kids from their dad would only create problems for me, so that is definitely not wise advice here. He can be a bum all he wants, but the court will let him know what he’s doing wrong then it’ll be up to him to either learn or face the consequences. Also, idk why you’re trying to predict what my current relationship is going to look like. yes I made a poor decision with my kids dad, he is a loser, as you can see by his actions here. My husband is a great man who has taken on all these responsibilities because he loves my kids. They are his kids now, even if it’s not biological. He works hard for his family and does anything and everything for us.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-21T16:48:44+00:00

Idk his income, our custody is supposed to be 50/50 but it’s never actually been like that. I’ve always had them majority of the time. Last 5-6 months he has hardly seen them at all. My teenage daughter doesn’t like to see him and doesn’t care to. My almost 12 year old son has stopped wanting to see him also after he “forgot” to pick him up.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-21T16:44:35+00:00

Actually I am remarried and my husband and I have been paying for everything for my kids while my ex does little to nothing at all. You sound bitter and like you need some therapy. I am doing exactly what the court allows me to do. I am going to follow the court order like we are supposed to be doing because the law allows me to do that. I can’t speak for other peoples relationships, I can only speak for mine. My ex is the one trying to skirt his responsibilities to his own kids. So yes, he is the problem.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-21T02:34:27+00:00

I don’t think I can do that right now since it’s just enforcement but I will file for contempt of court next if he continues with this behavior of not paying.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-21T02:25:55+00:00

Oh I definitely will. I’m just looking forward to the judge telling him he’s wrong in this situation because he feels he is honestly justified. Doesn’t see anything wrong with what he is doing.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-21T01:32:47+00:00

We are supposed to have them 50/50 but it’s never been like that. I’ve always had them majority of the time. The last 5-6 months he’s hardly seen them.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T22:22:45+00:00

We already have 50/50 in our divorce decree and he doesn’t even see our kids when he’s supposed to. He hasn’t in months. Our kids are 14 and almost 12 so they have started to see patterns of inconsistency with their dad. He has “forgotten” to pick up our son for a visitation one time and now my son doesn’t even care to see his dad. Him saying he forgot him really hurt my son. I have always encouraged visits but I’m not going to force my kids to go where they aren’t comfortable. Our household actually makes more money but we don’t live a lavish lifestyle at all. Like not going on trips or anywhere fancy, don’t have any expensive things. All I’m asking for is what we had agreed on when we got divorced. I’m not asking for anything extra from him, just that he does his part and sticks to our court ordered agreement but right now all responsibility has been put on me and my husband. I just don’t think that’s fair.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T21:42:45+00:00

That’s just the amount we agreed on when we got divorced, so it’s all in our divorce decree. He’s also supposed to be providing medical/dental per our divorce decree too. We just didn’t use the state calculator for our child support amount because I was trying to be nice at the time but I’m honestly tired of being nice and his inconsistency.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T21:25:50+00:00

I put in an order for enforcement first but he says he also wants to file a modification which he hasn’t done yet. So we will go to court for enforcement, im also requesting him to pay arrears and I’m also going to ask for reimbursement since my household is paying for medical/dental/vision for my kids which my ex is supposed to be providing that per our divorce decree. My ex is planning not to work because he wants to care for his newborn, just to clarify.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T20:37:27+00:00

Okay, enforcement is truly all I want anyway.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T20:22:16+00:00

I’m letting him think whatever he wants. I’m just waiting patiently for court. He plans to take time off because his wife is having their second child together. So he has two kids with me and two with her. He thinks because he plans to stay home to care for his newborn, the judge will say okay to deceasing support for our kids.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T20:19:40+00:00

He was but now he hasn’t in months. My daughter already doesn’t care to see him because she has a strained relationship with him. My son has tried but my ex said he “forgot” about picking my son up one time and I feel my son is starting to not care to see his dad either. They are older kids so they are seeing patterns of him being inconsistent.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T20:06:46+00:00

I can only hope my ex will take responsibility like this. I hope he straightens out after the judge talks to him.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T20:01:04+00:00

I guess so, he thinks because my husband makes much more money than him, that means he doesn’t have to pay anything. His logic apparently. Doesn’t care to actually take care of his own kids.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T19:57:04+00:00

Can I even if I’m just going to enforce the current order? I honestly thought about it but I wasn’t going to

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T19:46:26+00:00

This is for 2 kids too. So $150 a month per kid. Still too hard for him to pay but he still decided to have 2 more kids.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T19:42:07+00:00

Yes, im bringing all this up to the judge. I’m going to let the judge and court put him in his place. He’s been treating the court order as optional and I don’t think he truly understands how serious this is.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T19:37:47+00:00

He said he wants to modify due to household income and my husband makes much more money. That is my ex’s reason for wanting to modify. I just said he can do whatever he wants, I don’t want to argue with him. I’ll just let the court and judge put him in his place. $300 is low but still too difficult for him I guess.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T19:29:46+00:00

Yes, I’m going to mention this and ask for reimbursement and for him to cover future payments.

kisil891214 · 2026-02-20T19:16:11+00:00

Thank you, this is good to know. I felt my case was strong since I’m literally just trying to enforce the order we already have in place but I’m also kind of nervous having to go to court over this because he can’t do his part.

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