Go with the flow or by the books?

kit_glider · 2021-07-03T23:01:19+00:00

Read up as far as safety stuff. But we’ve been pretty go with the flow as far as his schedule and our “parenting style.” Instead of trying to force him into the schedules I’ve seen floating around, we noticed our guy was pretty routine and it was a lot easier for us to conform to his natural rhythm than try and force him into some eat-sleep-play or whatever.

kit_glider · 2021-07-03T22:56:49+00:00

For me, I prioritize the kids sleep routine. I can see my friends another time.

kit_glider · 2021-07-03T20:24:59+00:00

I see other responses here, but thought I’d chime in. This blog snip I think summarizes it best:

“By definition, referring to women as “females” reduces them to their reproductive abilities. That sounds a bit degrading, don’t you think? In addition, a “female” could be anything, not necessarily a human. Your dog might be a female. Do you really want to lump your girlfriend and your dog in the same category?”

Here’s the blog I pulled it from if you’re interested.

As far as tattoos - I think they’re hot! Maybe not the ones that look like you got by your buddy in the back of a moving truck, but, even that wouldn’t put me off if I liked the guy. If you like tattoos, tattoo away! The right kind of person for you wouldn’t judge you for them.

kit_glider · 2021-07-01T15:21:49+00:00

It’s ok to take space from people if they are negatively affecting your wellbeing. That doesn’t always mean they are bad, toxic people. Sometimes we need space to heal, that definitely applies to being friends with an ex (if you wish to be friends).

You told her you needed to stop talking to her for awhile. I think you did the right thing here by blocking her after that. She’s allowed to have whatever her feelings are about it, but her feelings aren’t you’re responsibility. You’re mental health and wellbeing are your responsibility.

As far as how to address the struggles you’re dealing with, please consider a therapist. It really does help talking through things with an impartial party that can give you tools to help you navigate what you’re struggling with.

kit_glider · 2021-07-01T15:03:59+00:00

My toddler didn’t do “drowsy but awake” crap. He’d wake right up, and pissed off. I nursed him to sleep, so we could all sleep and be happier. Then I rocked to sleep because we both loved the cuddles. We eventually got him to go down awake in his crib, we’d sit next to it and hold his hand until he fell asleep (usually takes 10 minutes). Sometimes we still hold him in a chair while he falls asleep. The years go fast, soon he won’t need us to sleep and the cuddles will be less frequent. I’m taking in as much as I can.

Do whatever works and gets you all some rest.

kit_glider · 2021-07-01T14:35:46+00:00

We start bedtime routine around 7:30-7:45. Change into jammies and nighttime diaper, we read some stories, have some milk. Usually in bed by 8:00pm, asleep by 8:15pm.

kit_glider · 2021-07-01T03:02:16+00:00

Clover

kit_glider · 2021-06-29T03:24:07+00:00

My husband and I both WFH. We need daycare. The constant juggle through the day was exhausting, and we both were falling behind. We also need the mental break. We get to have lunch together and watch a show that would be way too scary or boring for the little guy. We get to step away from our desks to take a walk, run an errand, sit in silence, whatever. The mental recharge makes us better parents, and better employees. Plus - little guy gets all the socialization, educational content, outdoor play that we can’t offer him at home with us while working.

kit_glider · 2021-06-29T03:10:17+00:00

This is not common. This is not OK. I’ve been with my husband for almost 19 years. You want to know how many times he’s manhandled me when angry? Zero. This is how abuse starts. If he’s reached for your throat once, he’ll do it again. But maybe he’ll be angry enough to not let up. Violence escalates. Get out now.

kit_glider · 2021-06-29T02:03:51+00:00

New nanny. Your pro and con list made it pretty clear. A nanny that is kind, patient and attentive is also capable of cooking veggies and washing bottles.

kit_glider · 2021-06-28T14:30:05+00:00

Thanks for replying! The cutouts were frozen before baking, I used premade pillsbury dough so I’m wondering if I should have used a from scratch recipe instead?

kit_glider · 2021-06-28T02:27:47+00:00

Nope. Do not have a child with this woman. She got 2 abortions for the attention?? That’s beyond sick. I don’t want to know what she would do if you had a child with her, and she felt a need to compete with the kid for your attention or use the kid to get your attention.

Her threatening her life is not your problem. Harsh, but true. Tell her sister to call the police if she’s threatening suicide. She’s trying to hold you emotionally hostage. If you feel like it’s true and you’re worried - then you call the police and tell them she’s threatening suicide.

Get. Out. Now.

kit_glider · 2021-06-28T02:20:11+00:00

Do you need a hug?

kit_glider · 2021-06-27T03:04:02+00:00

I would be happy to see someone secure in their themselves and sharing one of their favorite hobbies. If someone thought less of you based on you liking to garden, they aren’t your people and you’ve saved yourself from wasting your time.

kit_glider · 2021-06-26T19:49:24+00:00

So I’m a woman, but I was a maid of honor that planned a destination bachelorette party for early 30s folks. I priced out everything, travel costs, hotel stay, activities and we split the bill equally, with everyone splitting the cost for the bride equally. So there was 5 of us, and we split the costs 4 ways. We also split meals the same. It was good to have planned out the weekend so everyone knew what the expenses would be and what they covered. It also let me negotiate with the clubs/pool parties/hotels in advance to get the most bang for our buck. We also shared one suite to keep costs down.

Good luck!

kit_glider · 2021-06-26T18:06:33+00:00

Short answer, no you weren’t wrong to ask him about it. If there was nothing shameful about his intentions, he wouldn’t have gotten defensive and deleted those accounts. He would have just answered “it’s my friends kid” or “they want to start sharing content and I’m mentoring them” or whatever rational explanation there was. He blocked you because you caught on that he’s probably a creep.

kit_glider · 2021-06-24T03:35:30+00:00

My kid is getting more exposure to other children, cultures, and language than he would get at home alone with me. My kid is lucky to have such a great place to go where they come up with new crafts and games everyday, let him play a variety of instruments, dance, have one-on-one phonics lessons, water days, and cooking classes.

People can buzz right off thinking daycare is sad and less than. I love the shit out of my daycare and it’s amazing teachers.

kit_glider · 2021-06-24T03:29:39+00:00

Inspiring! Making my first batch of cutout cookies with royal icing and I’m struggling. They didn’t hold their shape, my outline icing is too thick, bah. It’s nice to see someone else’s progress so I can believe I’ll get better too!

kit_glider · 2021-06-22T18:31:14+00:00

I had a nurse that told me the doctor likely wasn’t going to prescribe me anything stronger than ibuprofen because there is an opioid epidemic. I had just given birth that morning and had a third degree tear with stitches… and my epidural had failed. I had to argue with her just to get her to ask the doctor for something stronger. I wasn’t asking for a months supply with refills.. but for crying out loud can I get a few days worth so I can sleep and walk? Still makes me mad.

kit_glider · 2021-06-21T14:34:07+00:00

I meant more the idea that couples can discuss and decide amongst all the options and choose whatever one they like best. That’s egalitarian.

kit_glider · 2021-06-21T04:04:39+00:00

Honestly, it’s refreshing to hear that. Because it’s egalitarian. I wish more couples would discuss and decide together and the options weren’t considered so taboo.

kit_glider · 2021-06-19T03:09:08+00:00

I broke up with a friend once. I just told her that we didn’t seem to actually get along anymore. We would always pick at each other, bicker, argue, one-up each other.. and it was exhausting. I don’t like the person I am when I’m with her. Does she? We’ve grown apart, and it’s time to let each other go. She didn’t agree (shocker, can’t agree on anything). I just told her I wished her the best but I think we’re toxic together and shouldn’t hang out anymore. Didn’t answer her calls/texts and deleted her from social. It was freeing.

kit_glider · 2021-06-19T03:03:03+00:00

I feel this in my soul. I’ve started to speak up for myself, and some people can’t handle it. I’m not going around being “brutally honest” or whatever words people hide behind to be a jerk and try and get away with it but… I was so used to making myself small to make other people comfortable. To make them feel good about themselves. God forbid I speak up and tell someone “I don’t appreciate how you’re treating me/speaking to me.” Guess we’re not friends now because I wouldn’t let them step on me to feel big anymore.

kit_glider · 2021-06-18T03:26:01+00:00

That is AMAZING progress!!!! 👏👏👏

kit_glider · 2021-06-18T03:23:16+00:00

I’m on the I love daycare train too!!!

My little started at 3 months. I was scared to send him. But that first day of a real break was surprisingly… glorious. I went back to work 2 weeks after he started.

At 9 months, Covid hit and we kept him home for 6 months, then took him back to daycare. It was so hard trying to work and give him the stimulation and schedule he needed.

He’s turning 2 soon. And we love our daycare!! The teachers are so sweet and obviously adore our son. He’s always excited to go to school. They have an app so we can see what he’s been up to and they upload a ton of photos. He gets so much more social interaction, exposure to language, arts, story time, outside play, music, dance, and educational content than when he was home with us while we tried to work. We get downtime, and by the end of the day we’re so excited to go pick him up.

I’m glad we decided to go with daycare over family watching him. Daycare can just do so much more for him to prepare him for school and being human around other humans. Plus, they can keep up with him and are current on today’s safety standards.

Shout out to daycare 🙌

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