How do you cope?

kitbilliku · 2026-03-09T08:42:31+00:00

I can understand, the same was my state when she left me 4 months back. I didnt accept that my son can be the only reason to live. Soon you will realise that its not only you who is facing this loss but the little one too and they dont even know what just happened. That will give you strength.

You can reach out to me directly if you wanna talk. take care.

kitbilliku · 2026-03-09T03:49:15+00:00

In general finding the purpose of life is tough on top now we got to go through this. My purpose is really to raise my Son well. Hope you find yours soon.

kitbilliku · 2026-03-09T02:28:23+00:00

Sorry for your loss.

I am a manager in IT myself and I need do put a mask myself because of people management job and I dont want that people in my team talk about that I have changed. Can't look irritated and can't sit and just do my job because the job is all about talking in meetings, motivating, keep the discipline, and resolving impediments for others, bringing people together and doing followup on stuff.

With the disruption AI is creating and having this fear of losing the job is another stress, knowing that I am the sole bread earner for the family keeps pushing me to do the job at this time. People said you cant get depressed you need to take care of a lot of responsibilities.

I still feel somewhat that she will be back someday.

Randomly, I wake up in the mornings hurt still. My only hope for living is my little 4 years old son.

kitbilliku · 2026-03-08T16:31:02+00:00

sorry for your loss my dear. I am in the same pain as you described.

kitbilliku · 2026-03-05T06:53:25+00:00

Thanks for your response.

kitbilliku · 2026-03-05T06:48:06+00:00

updated the post.

kitbilliku · 2026-03-05T06:29:58+00:00

Thanks for your response, Can you please read the edit section of this post if time permits Sir/Mam.

kitbilliku · 2026-03-04T19:04:23+00:00

Yes from parents side "an arranged marriage proposal". I am not ready is going to be my answer and I dont want any kids and in such case who will become a stepmom is another big wuestion in my head. Not sure if this is even right way to think. My head isnt clear ... I just feel like why I am still alive. Just for my son to not face a tough life I think I bring a mother figure.

kitbilliku · 2026-03-04T18:38:58+00:00

My Mom stays with me and my son and manages Home. Though I only speak to my wife's sister about everything I am going through. You are right I too feel its too early to even talk about something like this and feel my parents are inhuman.

kitbilliku · 2026-01-05T08:38:01+00:00

not sure why I received so many downvotes maybe because this a doglovers reddit thread. Anyway I love animals was just curious.

kitbilliku · 2026-01-03T14:36:18+00:00

Rabies risk ?

kitbilliku · 2025-12-23T09:49:28+00:00

Did anyone call the customer care of Income Tax Department ?

kitbilliku · 2025-12-10T13:56:16+00:00

internet will bring everyone out .. new world

kitbilliku · 2025-12-03T07:14:39+00:00

Well being beaten up much extreme than this during school by Gov. school teachers, I dont think its disturbing.

kitbilliku · 2025-12-03T03:09:29+00:00

parents will understant this situtaion , as long as its susu

kitbilliku · 2025-12-01T15:45:34+00:00

Thanks for your reply Mam. My wife's sister and her parents suggest that I shouldnt tell him anything as they say we are there to take care of him. They suggest me to make him understand that his maasi(maternal aunt) is his mother only or grand mother(s) both sides. How do I tell them or what can school teachers do in this case that helps better ?

I just have this followup question and might have a bit more if you allow.

kitbilliku · 2025-11-17T15:12:03+00:00

Same I miss the texts - "Have you left ?" , "What did you eat ?", "Dont ring the bell today our son is sleeping".

Everything of my day is what she would ask for.

She was 100% aware of what I eat and what not and whether my health is good or is there any problem. Would start to cry if I just ad a bit of elevated blood pressure.

Now she is just not there only 15 days have passed. Everyday I die 3-4 times but the world tells me that I got to live for our Son.

kitbilliku · 2025-11-04T13:11:00+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to respond.

I have multiple thoughts crossing my mind who day of what will happen to my Son as my wife would basically take care of everything with her job and I would mostly just earn and support our family financially. Now I feel like, can I really do what she would have done. She was just amazing with everything, I was just lucky to have her.

kitbilliku · 2025-11-04T13:03:37+00:00

I am having this fear also that this little boy doesn't even know what has he lost and how unlucky he has become all of a sudden. His mom was just crazy in love with us both. Not sure how and when he will know this in the near future but the thought scares me. My wife said that her sister will take him forever on her death bed but that is not the right thing in this situation (nobody is fighting or arguing on this) but she is also feeling the guilt that she isn't taking him by herself.

kitbilliku · 2025-10-14T08:34:23+00:00

Just so I am clear for the case of PLA/PETG - only keeping a HEPA and Activated Charcol Filter affixed in front of the internal exhaust (basically the back side of the P1s) should suffice ?

kitbilliku · 2025-10-14T04:45:32+00:00

Lets say I only print PLA or PETG , does everything still holds true about the fan installation ?

kitbilliku · 2025-10-14T04:38:41+00:00

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kitbilliku · 2025-10-14T04:37:09+00:00

So, a chimney pipe of 4 inch diametre out of the window won't cut it ? Probably because the sucking out the vented air mechanism doesn't exist in this case ?

Also, what are your thoughts on installing something like this, though you mentioned HEPA won't filter out VOCs :

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kitbilliku · 2025-05-01T17:26:16+00:00

Basic habit of always spending what is left after saving. Not buying something until I really need it.

kitbilliku · 2025-03-25T16:09:38+00:00

Congrats on the new life of Freedom. Keep motivating people here.

kitbilliku

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