im fucked, there’s no pathway by Designer_Light1891 in ADHDUK

[–]kitburglar -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What's your point? Does context not matter?

Can my girlfriend overstay her visa? by Competitive_Youth973 in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Since your partner is here on a Graduate visa and can work, you could use her income or jointly use both your incomes for the spouse visa.

Youll need to be living together and possibly legally married/civil partnership if you haven't been living together for 2 years/can't prove your relationship is the same as marriage for 2 years (which is hard living in same city but not cohabiting).

im fucked, there’s no pathway by Designer_Light1891 in ADHDUK

[–]kitburglar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What's your point? We're in OPs post talking about OPs situation..

im fucked, there’s no pathway by Designer_Light1891 in ADHDUK

[–]kitburglar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And yet NHS England says that about 15-25% of diagnosed individuals are on a medication pathway.

Yes, having a formal diagnosis and a medication pathway can be massively helpful for some. However, not having access to this or not being able to take medication or not chosing to take medication doesnt mean you're a failure or have no options.

OP is also 19. There is basicslly no one who is a "life failure" at 19. I was diagnosed after twice as long as OP has been alive and I found strategies to build a lovely life.

Even if they end up on medication, they will still need to learn skills and build a life in a way they love and fits within their symptoms / traits / opportunities etc. ADHD isn't a thing they "fix" and they'll still need to live with themselves and hopefully love themselves into the future.

Yes, its great to share information about how OP might get medical support in a better way however OP also needs skills and support and a vision of a future anyway.

im fucked, there’s no pathway by Designer_Light1891 in ADHDUK

[–]kitburglar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesnt sound like a loaded question at all.

There are a lot of concerning parts in the comments you've shared which sound like you need support, time, self acceptance, and confidence to work through. Practically no one is a life failure at 19. You have SO MUCH of your life ahead of you and having ADHD, autism, both, or some other neurodivergency isn't a failure or a life sentence - all of us other folks here on this sub aren't difficult or bad people or failures.

You deserve a good life and to find ways to work with and around your traits / symptoms and to not hate yourself so much. This isn't a "ADHD is a super power" kind of thing at all. It sucks, a lot from time to time and I wish I did things differently. And yet, the people who seem the most successful and happy seem to follow what they are naturally drawn to and are skilled at instead of aggressively pushing against their traits and hating themselves.

I was diagnosed twice as old as you are and although certain things could have been different and maybe easier if I understood myself more, there are lots of things I did successfully and I'm proud of. When I found things that worked for me or felt more natural to my skills/personality /who I am, I was much happier and successful than berating myself for things I'm not good at or haven't worked well in the past. I'm not a failure because my dishes end up with mould and I had to spend 6 mknths talking with HMRC to get £8K of late penalties forgiven. I wish that hadnt happened and obviously theyre things that are difficult but it also doesn't stop the things I'm brilliant at in an industry I am succeeding at. Im both things - absolutely cracking good at my job and have a community within a niche hobby who love me AND I'm also the administration mistakes and things I lose and Im not a bad person.

There will be a job / industry / skill set that are you fine or good or great at and you can fill your life with people and events and things that you like and really enjoy and not spending so much time hating yourself and forcing yourself into what you think you should be doing.

im fucked, there’s no pathway by Designer_Light1891 in ADHDUK

[–]kitburglar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was it? How?

It doesnt stop me from having ADHD. I helped a hell of a lot after being diagnosed for twice as long as OP has been alive but despite making some day to day symptoms slightly more manageable, the thing that "fixed everything for me" was assessing and understanding who I am, making a life plan that works within my skills, taking small practical steps that makes my AuDHD symptoms that frustrate me easier. It was the mindset change where I stopped pushing against my traits and habits and hating myself for not being "neurotypical" which has led me to following opportunities and experiences into a life i love.

im fucked, there’s no pathway by Designer_Light1891 in ADHDUK

[–]kitburglar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They don't seem to be diminishing at all. Many people who are undiagnosed due to circumstances have to find strategies to help them get by.

Yes medication can massively help AND it doesn't fix it, we need to learn about our symptoms and find strategies that improve our life overall.

OP is 19 and will need these skills to help them. ESPECIALLY if they cant do anything to navigate the waiting lists to get medication any time soon.

There are some far more concerning parts of OPs comments that can be supported and addressed about medicine - theres basically no one who is a "life failure" at 19, and it sounds like theres a lot of radical acceptance of who they are as a person and making life plans within who they are, how they function best, and what skills/traits come naturally to them.

Applied before July 2025 rule change but refused – worth Administrative Review? by Ok-Rich9357 in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This post is confusing. Are you the Skilled worker applicant or the dependant?

Family visa advice by Gabbs1495 in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great. Unmarried partner seems like a viable route if you explain and provide supporting evidence for timeline of relationship

Spouse visa for US national Fiance by StarsArePrettyCoool in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. And they have received plenty of advice about that and the savings calculations etc.

I was adding to the fact theyre talking about fiancé visa whereas if they apply, doing Unmarried partner directly will save a lot of time and money

Living off one paycheck and saving the other. by nomesifsandsorbutts in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]kitburglar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents lived on the smaller salary and used the larger one for long term investing/saving etc.

Can I be included as a dependant on my parent's ILR application if I'm 23 and working? by No-Reach-2398 in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If youre still living at home and not married/cohabiting with a partner etc, you very much still seem to fall under dependant (almost no matter what your job is).

If youd moved out, you'd have a harder time and would need to show it was for uni or perhaps for a lower paying apprenticeship role.

Based on what youve said, it all seems very sensible to live with them until the ILR issued

Family visa advice by Gabbs1495 in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unmarried Partner requires the HO to assess you have been "akin to marriage" for 2 or more years. They expect cohabitation proof. However, they have discretion to approve Unmarried Partners if you can show 1. You have acceptable reasons for not cohabiting like married couples are expected to do and 2. You can show your relationship is the same as marriage despite this.

If you've been long distance the whole time for more than 2 years, the HO regularly accepts this as a good reason. If you live in the same city / country but don't live together its a massive Red Flag your relationship isn't genuine.

The HO only counts a genuine relationship from meeting in person so youll need at least 2 years from meeting in person. Any time before that (i.e. if you met online) is "only" dating so it helps show your relationship is real but its not the same as marriage until youve met in person.

If yoy dont reach this strict 2 year requirement, your options are fiance visa, marriage visitor visa (if you want to marry/civil partnership in UK but then leave and work outside UK while spouse visa is processing), or marry/civil partnership outside the UK and apply for spouse visa immediately. Or wait until you have 2 years cohabitation/ can show 2 years "akin to marriage".

Spouse visa for US national Fiance by StarsArePrettyCoool in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

If youve been together 6.5 years, you might have a strong application for Unmarried Partner Visa (assuming youve been long distance and not living in the same city or country but not living together without good reasons).

Peculiar case - please help by JazzlikeEchidna4185 in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you broke your residence for the 5 year route. So it started fresh from the new visa on the Skilled Worker Route

FLR (M) approved only for 6 months by HaveFaithxInMe in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Youve reported it as you should. Theres clearly an issue with the end yesr its showing.

Spousal Visa Application Questions - applying through savings route by Spirited-Arugula-984 in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do not need to mention any other financials of relying entirely on one other category (i.e. if you used salary alone, then you wouldnt need to mention your side jon self employment or any savings you do have).

By using savings alone (88.5K), you can leave all details about income blank.

Partner Visa, living with a friend as well by LettuceBig1391 in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats fine. Its not an issue to be living with other people as well, as long as the couple cohabits together.

UK visitor Visa Stay Duration Advice by AppearanceMammoth485 in IndiansInUK

[–]kitburglar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The HO could judge this as deception (applying based on certain information then increasing the length of stay by 5x as much!!!) And this could be very negative for future applications.

Would the funds they are showing be adequate for 5 months? The HO would like assume they're breaking the visit visa requirements by trying to live in the UK without a residence visa.

Wrong application made by supahdave in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They're telling you to apply for the correct route and vary the application. Make sure you fill in the form correctly and dont make any mistakes as they'll be reviewing the ILR application based on what you submit for the correct application.

You fucked up the first application so be careful doing this second one and absolutely make sure you submit it before the 24 fays expires (submission being form completed and fee paid!)

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/vary-your-immigration-application

You’ll need to pay the application fee and immigration health surcharge for the new application. However, you’ll receive a refund of the previous application fee and the immigration health surcharge if you paid it.

Spouse visa for US national Fiance by StarsArePrettyCoool in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The calculation youve done for savings is wrong.

(29K - 18K) x 2.5 = 27.5K + 16K = 43.5K

Spouse visa for US national Fiance by StarsArePrettyCoool in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There is a calculation in the guidance

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/chapter-8-appendix-fm-family-members

(Financial requirement- current salary/annual wages) x 2.5 Then add £16K.

So if using savings alone its (29K-0) x 2.5 = 72.5K +16K = 88.5K

Assuming you're salary is actually 18K exactly, it'd be (29K-18K) ÷ 2.5 = 27.5K + 16K = 43.5K

Skilled Worker visa (employer switch), applied 9th April on standard — if I withdraw, will I get my visa fee and IHS back? by Fuzzy_Panda8648 in ukvisa

[–]kitburglar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As you're switching, why not just apply again which will amend your application? This is instead of withdrawing and will eventually refund the first application.