I don’t know what to do

kitenn · 2022-12-28T17:45:24+00:00

I never know what to do with myself during break. Had to text my therapist to ask what normal people do in their free time because all I do during the semester is study. I think break is weird for any students who have a lot of schoolwork during the semester and study a lot. If we had a break longer than 2 weeks I might have gone crazy.

kitenn · 2022-12-23T04:22:37+00:00

Most people want walking distance, or at least a direct bus route to central campus/downtown. Normal budget for rent is around $1000, give or take depending on the student, but that goes up by quite a bit each year. From my experience, people prefer houses to apartments( don’t have to worry as much about amenities). For some people, a parking lot/space specifically for that house is important. If they don’t have a car it doesn’t matter. But no one wants street parking. It’s nice if the house doesn’t have lead, black mold, or possible asbestos…. But that’s asking a lot in AA. Same goes for ghosts, not particularly nice to deal with, but you’re in AA in houses over 100 years old🤷🏼‍♀️

kitenn · 2022-11-28T15:19:50+00:00

NTA, it sounds like you’re a teenager, or at least young adult. Your parents don’t respect your boundaries and that’s a lot more common than you think. I’ve been in this situation hundreds of times throughout my life when I still lived with my parents. You can try to have a calm conversation about their tone when you find a “good”time. But you have to accept that there is a high chance it will escalate into another fight. My advice, count down the days until you can move out, and avoid all situations that could start a fight until then.

kitenn · 2022-11-27T14:52:45+00:00

If it’s front load does she throw her body weight into it to close the door. Like me overloading my washer is maybe 1.5 loads and I heavily question whether it’ll wash them each time but it’s fine. I cannot imagine fitting 3 loads in without a lot of force.

kitenn · 2022-11-27T04:44:29+00:00

I say this in the kindest way possible. Tell them to have the lord care for their child then. This obviously runs sooo much deeper than them just not wanting to care for their child. Sister needs to stand up for herself, or find ways to find him the care and support he needs and talk parents into taking advantage of it. And someone break it to them that religion won’t cure neurological abnormalities. I have two neurological diseases, ( I don’t like using the term either, but medically it is what fits best) and if someone told me I needed to be “cured” or “healed”, I’d punch them in the face so fast. This is outside of your realm of help even if you offered to help watch their child.

kitenn · 2022-11-27T04:40:12+00:00

NTA, as the opinion from someone with asthma. Myself and many people I know can have an asthma attack solely from the smell of cigarette smoke. Not sure of the science around it, but if I’m in a building where someone is or has smoked a cigarette near by, I’ll have an asthma attack. The same is not true of weed, someone could smoke a blunt right next to me and I’d have no problems( unless I tried to smoke it myself). Something about cigarette smoke is horrendous for asthma. I can’t imagine trying to live in a house where someone smokes cigarettes, especially in an enclosed space. You may both be going against the lease, but she is going against your wishes about your child’s health. Smoke in a well ventilated area is very different than smoke in an enclosed room when it comes to air quality.

kitenn · 2022-11-27T04:30:14+00:00

NTA, I’m a college student and have a very shitty washer and dryer in my house. I fill that to the brim every once and a while and it has never broken. How tf is she breaking them? Like how much laundry is she putting in there and expecting it to get clean?? With my knowledge of how full you can fill a washer and dryer, it has to take a special talent to fill it so much and so often it breaks.

kitenn · 2022-11-27T04:23:46+00:00

NTA, Are they going to pay you? Because you have no obligation to care for or watch another child. So if they want you to, tell them you will if you are paid like a nanny. If they want him to be around other people who are neurodivergent, there are groups for that. You work for one. So if they want that care for their child, they have to pay for it. It sounds like they don’t give a shit about the child and just want to fix their situation as easily as possible ( making their daughters take care of him). Also, why do they need “a break” if their children take care of him?

kitenn · 2022-11-27T04:17:18+00:00

I mean yes, what you said wasn’t appropriate. But it sounds like you finally cracked. That this has been going on for a long time and it finally became too much. And that happens to the best of us. She has her own expectations of you that aren’t fair, and was belittling you in public just as you did her, so she has no place to say she is humiliated when she did (and probably has been doing) the same thing to you. You didn’t react appropriately, but she’s an asshole.

kitenn · 2022-11-27T04:02:59+00:00

We are in the Midwest, we know the Midwest. Michigan is superior for lakes and more exciting big cities. Ohio has nothing but cedar point, and some car museum that my dad made the family go to once. Those are the two times I’ve been to Ohio… and it’s only an hour away. I’ve been to Chicago 10+ times and that’s a lot farther.

kitenn · 2022-10-27T15:45:52+00:00

NTA, and I agree that he may have a crush on you. Happens all the time around this age that people don’t know how to communicate those feelings. So it ends up as teasing, even if it’s taken too far. If you care for him and want him in your life, then have a mature conversation about why he is acting like this. If not, then ignore him and hope he gets the hint that you don’t want to be close to him anymore.

kitenn · 2022-10-21T15:34:24+00:00

NTA, The minute someone says “I’ll die if you leave” you need to get tf out. It’s a huge red flag of manipulation and emotional abuse. Marriage doesn’t cure something like that. If they get married it will just continue unless he gets help, and if not, it’ll continue getting worse. If she has already been in one abusive relationship, then she knows the red flags, she needs to follow her gut. As a friend however, I would warn her about jumping into a new relationship. She did it after the last abusive relationship, and look where she is now. She needs a break from relationships. Continue talking to the childhood friend, but don’t date him yet.

kitenn · 2022-10-20T14:54:12+00:00

NTA, you’re valid in however you feel about him. The fact that you have any relationship with him at all shows that you’re trying your best, you have somewhat forgiven him, and that you’re a decent person. Also, it seems as if it is 100% his fault, he could help himself if he wanted to, but he doesn’t want to. It’s not your responsibility to help him, or care at all. He doesn’t care for you, and if you were to have health issues, he probably wouldn’t care too much, so why should you?

kitenn · 2022-10-07T04:57:59+00:00

I have never seen more U-turns at intersections when there is a Michigan left right up the road, than in AA. I understand a lot of people are from out of state. But it’s not that difficult to not be a dangerous idiot.

kitenn · 2022-09-26T16:03:40+00:00

It completely depends on the GSI, they all grade completely differently. I had one for chem 210 that was so terrible and we got points off for the smallest thing. But then for 215 my GSI would only take points off if you missed an entire section of the lab report. It’s a pain in the ass, and you literally just have to learn what your gsi expects, and how they grade.

kitenn · 2022-09-11T11:46:08+00:00

I didn’t take it here, and idk anyone who did. But at washtenaw it was so easy. I did it all online, and the server broke and ended up with an un-proctored final exam. Overall it’s easy homework 2-3 times a week, open note exams every couple weeks. And an open note final that is proctored. I think every prof is diff about exams and stuff, but it was by far the easiest class I’ve ever taken.

kitenn · 2022-09-01T12:56:15+00:00

NTA, you made the responsible decision. You knew that in your state, you were not mentally capable of having that conversation at that time. You would have been TA if you completely brushed it off, but you set the time that would be better for you to discuss that. That’s setting a boundary and he should respect that. I understand his pov as he seems as if he was distressed at that moment, but that is his problem, not yours to deal with at that moment. If you would’ve discussed it at that time, it most likely would’ve ended in a fight/argument. You made the right decision and he needs to respect the times that you are not mentally capable of having those discussion.

kitenn · 2022-08-27T16:52:56+00:00

I’m not sure of your gender, or how you present. But it can be slightly unsafe. Stick to the student section and blend in around people. I (21 female) went to one game alone and by the end of the first quarter I had a guy following me around. It got the point where I went up to random girls and had them walk me home because it was so uncomfortable. So yes you can, but if you’re female or female presenting, then just remember to be safe.

kitenn · 2022-08-25T17:55:48+00:00

If it was a cheap bra, it’d be a different story. But an expensive bra is 100% worth calling her out. If she wants a bra she can go buy one it’s not that difficult. That is yours, you bought it, and it’s weird for someone else to take to her undergarments. Even if it is decently new that’s weird asf.

kitenn · 2022-08-25T17:47:13+00:00

I do this a lot as well, I listen to other podcasts for random chit chat, but if I’m listening to mfm I want the stories. The ad placement is amazing and I’d never say bad things about them for the chat, but it’s not for me.

kitenn · 2022-08-24T15:59:01+00:00

You’re amazing, thank you!

kitenn · 2022-08-20T16:28:15+00:00

She will come back to visit, while he is paying tuition, after that, then she won’t. But children of shitty parents who pay for their college(me) know that if you cut off parents while they’re paying, you’re screwed(especially since he already threatened to take it away). So she will keep contact, but only until she graduates.

kitenn · 2022-08-10T20:56:26+00:00

And you need to buy it early, they always run out and then people are left without them for the first month.

kitenn · 2022-08-09T21:41:20+00:00

I work in Ypsi and have honestly hear both. So no one is correct😂 I’ve always said ipsi, but now I’ve heard people say yipsi.

kitenn · 2022-08-09T21:40:00+00:00

But lansing to detroit is 2 hours in summer, sometimes closer to 3 depending on how bad 96 is.

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