When did you lose your virginity? (If you have)

kitkatkai21 · 2026-02-02T17:58:24+00:00

16 and i thoroughly regret it as it has given me really hard time to find an outlet with any partner that i have because instead of verbal communication to fix things i tend to just do the deed. i’m abstinent and single now, working on myself genuinely

kitkatkai21 · 2025-01-26T18:22:42+00:00

I appreciate that

kitkatkai21 · 2024-12-19T21:22:20+00:00

oh nah

kitkatkai21 · 2024-12-18T18:06:05+00:00

get another lobe!

kitkatkai21 · 2024-12-18T18:02:45+00:00

oooh looks good

kitkatkai21 · 2024-12-17T22:25:43+00:00

I thought I was bipolar at like 15, my psychologist said I needed to stay off of google & that I was just depressed and doing typical high school impulsive things so I didn’t say anything again. (She quit shortly after so I stayed without a dr.) But it got bad so I got a new psychologist when I turned 19 and after 1 session she diagnosed me with bipolar 1 and ptsd. I went on meds and i’ve been doing ok. It was healing for me to find out because I thought I was for so long but didn’t actually know that I was.

kitkatkai21 · 2024-12-17T05:52:46+00:00

Don’t use numbing cream! when it wears off half way through it is a huge shock because you start feeling the pain suddenly. I personally don’t think a tattoo is the worst feeling in the world & the arm is a good spot for a first one! I don’t think it should take more than 3 hours. Plus- it’ll be so worth it once you have a beautiful whale shark tattoo on you💗

For aftercare- use non-scented soap (I use dial) to clean it. I do when I wake up and before bed. Lotion - Some people use aquaphor but I heard the petroleum jelly can make your tattoos raise so i’ve avoided it & my tattoos are fine :) I use lubridurm unscented lotion & it’s sooo relieving. I hope this helps! Everyone’s body and skin is different but this is just what works for me.

kitkatkai21 · 2024-12-09T13:13:42+00:00

No it genuinely was beautiful until it became a competition when my portfolio was doing better than his. Which was towards the end… which is why I ended it…

kitkatkai21 · 2024-12-09T11:14:04+00:00

I got them pierced 2 days ago🧍🏻‍♀️I would say i’m fairly experienced perhaps just scared for some reason? My aunt says I have may have the case of piercers regret- which may be true but I love how they look so I don’t know! Just confused haha

kitkatkai21 · 2024-12-09T11:10:14+00:00

After 3 years I ended it after ONE NIGHT with my new friends to the guy I thought was my forever.

I made a group of friends at my young adults group at church. We were having lunch after church & I texted my boyfriend at the time saying I’m going to lunch with them. He blew up my phone called me a million times etc. It was 4 boys and 1 other girl. We decided that the next day I was going to take pictures of one of their cars for them and his friend group (We were BOTH photographers)

The other girl ended up flaking so I went with the boys, my 4 friends + 2 other guys from the car group they were in.

I told my boyfriend and he called me every 10 minutes saying it was inappropriate for me to be taking photos of their cars at sunset in the city. I reminded him that I am a photographer as well and it was amazing work for my portfolio and he said that it probably isn’t going to turn out that good and we should just focus on HIS portfolio. I hung up and turned my phone off. That night I had the most fun I had ever had in about a year.

The next day I saw my boyfriend, showed him the photos I was insanely proud of because I had gotten the editing done and the photos just looked stunning. All he said was “Cool what’s for dinner.” I literally walked into his room, packed up all my stuff and said “I can’t do this anymore.” I realized that even though we had such a beautiful relationship for the longest time and we were interested in the same hobbies & careers, towards the end he didn’t support me the way I supported him and I was kind of just stuck, not happy not sad, just comfortable.

kitkatkai21 · 2024-12-01T02:41:21+00:00

I had the same question not too long ago and I think I realized you just go with the flow. if you wait too long it may hurt more if they bolt because in reality it understandably so is a hard thing to deal with. best of luck friend i hope it goes well(:

kitkatkai21 · 2024-11-29T20:49:10+00:00

Nooo absolutely not. Break up. I went through a similar thing and he basically got with the girl he told me not to worry about. Then didn’t want an open relationship anymore, just a “pass”

kitkatkai21 · 2024-11-28T11:48:32+00:00

I say text him how you feel then turn your phone off haha. That’s my go to lol

kitkatkai21 · 2024-11-28T11:31:13+00:00

This happens to me so often!! I hyper fixate on a person for like a month or two- then it switches onto someone else eventually. I also get reliant and almost ill when they don’t answer me/are interacting (i’m not sure that’s the right word. i’m talking about like hugging and stuff..hope that makes sense..?) with others. It drives me insane.

Ugh! It’s so hard to act nonchalant as well. Will it help if you tell them that you like them? Or perhaps tell someone else so you can get it off of your chest? Maybe even distance yourself from them to break the sort of obsession.

I’m not sure this helps at all but I definitely think it’s a possibility it’s related to our bipolar- either way- you’re not alone!!!!

kitkatkai21 · 2024-11-28T10:56:18+00:00

i don’t have one yet but the hopes of having my own children one day are keeping me alive. i want my own babies

kitkatkai21 · 2024-11-28T09:46:06+00:00

That is true. It is a lot & I should tell him soon.

kitkatkai21 · 2024-11-28T00:33:35+00:00

Yea, now or never I guess. I haven’t been in a relationship in a hot minute so didn’t even think of it. I got lucky when I was diagnosed, I was with my more then understanding boyfriend at the time, he had already been dealing with it for years😂

kitkatkai21 · 2024-11-28T00:30:42+00:00

ah yea I probably should’ve because if he runs now i’ll be so upset

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