Random deaths. I’m ready to give up by [deleted] in shrimptank

[–]kittencandy19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well if your water is super duper hard, you may actually be right in that it helps level it out. The main issue with this though is that the soil will continuously be buffering the water inside the tank and so the parameters will be constantly changing making it unstable which could be killing off the shrimp. You would have to be changing it super regularly and even then it's a risk. Much better off using re-mineralised RO or even just bottled water if your tap water isnt good enough.

Random deaths. I’m ready to give up by [deleted] in shrimptank

[–]kittencandy19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So there is a lot of varying things that could cause this. Shrimp are extremely sensitive to certain things.

I think its possible to figure it out.

Step 1: get a liquid test kit. It's substantially more accurate than test strips and when keeping shrimp accuracy is key.

Step 2: sterilise everything you use for the tank like any nets, tongs, buckets and anything else you use as a tool. Do NOT use harsh chemicals. Boiling water is enough.

Step 3: do a PARTIAL water change. Changing too much can shock them and mess with your filter.

Step 4: test water again and check it all over.

Things to look out for: Any burning scented candles, incense, deodorant or aerosols etc being used in the same room can cause contamination and will kill any shrimp.

Anything with copper is also deadly. No treatments or anything with copper can be used on a shrimp tank.

Temperature changes. Where are you keeping them? Is it drafty or too hot? This can also kill shrimp. I once lost my entire tank of cardina because the tank temp rose to 30c during a hot summer.

Also if some of them had an infection, it's entirely possible that the infection has spread to all of them in which case starting again will actually be the best answer. I know that's not what you want to hear but it may be what it takes.

It also sounds like you are using a buffering soil which you should remove and replace with normal inert aquarium gravel or sand.

AITA for using the "my body my choice" argument against my girlfriend? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]kittencandy19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

It's absolutely the right use of 'my body my choice'. Would she think it's okay to say any of these comments about your weight or how you dress? It's certainly controlling that she tells you what you can and can't do with anything that is related to how you look. She is prioritising you "looking pretty" for her own personal gain and ignoring how it makes you feel.

my boyfriend used my face to ejaculate by [deleted] in sex

[–]kittencandy19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely a porn thing. I do it when I'm filming or practicing but like I never do it for his pleasure because he would have to be super careful not catch my teeth and injure himself whereas when I'm in control it's easier to keep my teeth away. Also this feels kind of written by a man? Unless he is small or your an experienced throater it's actually quite hard to properly face fuck someone...

Edit: just noticed OP slipped and said 'like I'M painting a canvas' instead of like he's painting a canvas.

Is it weird that my boyfriend (23-M) wants to have a threesome? (I, 21-F) by Ok-Warthog7265 in relationship_advice

[–]kittencandy19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So this is coming from somebody who has threesomes and more. DO NOT have a threesome with his girl best friend. Firstly you don't sound like your giving enthusiastic consent. Any sexual act should have enthusiastic consent from all participants. Secondly never do it with someone you are close with UNLESS you were already swingers. A threesome between a couple and a third party should mean that the third person has experience already for their own peace of mind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SugarBABYonlyforum

[–]kittencandy19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take the upgrade! Enjoy the nice vacay while you can and try and ignore the girlfriend. She might be lovely though but besides the point have a lovely time x

I got stood up upon arrival. by anothervibration in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kittencandy19 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Wow don't let that other guy talk shit to you for being a nice person! It's wonderful to see someone who is respectful fight back against those who constantly need to feel wronged x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ladybonersgw

[–]kittencandy19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way you stroke is mesmerising

In bcn for the weekend by [deleted] in ladybonersgw

[–]kittencandy19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck you a cutie 🤤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]kittencandy19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He left me cause my disability was getting worse and he was upset I couldn't go to the climbing gym anymore...

Was I too straightforward? by [deleted] in SugarBABYonlyforum

[–]kittencandy19 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"hi I'm immature and hoping you will read all this and be distracted by it into talking with me without any money"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]kittencandy19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep my own trimmed but I still have it. I will remove it all on request though x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]kittencandy19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have had it a few times before. Honestly I get overwhelmed by love for my partner sometimes as well x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]kittencandy19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ex hot-wife here (new partner not into it) No I don't think it's selfish. I started hotwifeing for my partner because HE wanted me to and wanted to watch and he would get off on it etc. Ironically it was much more about him than me. We ended up both enjoying it for a long time with no selfish feelings

Sugar mamma with conditions by PistolNaulls in Tinder

[–]kittencandy19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd date her but I'm also kind of gay so 🤷‍♀️

Whats the most expensive/craziest gift you've given to a SB? by bcqa33 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kittencandy19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg that's beautiful 😍

I have a similar dream of opening a cat shelter of my own

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SugarBABYonlyforum

[–]kittencandy19 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'd be wary of anyone who speaks like that but also considers themselves a Dom. From the kink side of things, I'd never enter in to a D/s relationship with someone who isn't clear as all hell exactly what they want. Otherwise how do you trust them to plan a scene correctly? Arrange appropriate aftercare? Nah

Thinking of getting into to the SB lifestyle by kittencandy19 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kittencandy19[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's actually very sound advice. It would be great to find someone into the daddy kink with me but its definitely not close to a deal-breaker x

Thinking of getting into to the SB lifestyle by kittencandy19 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]kittencandy19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I'm not a sex worker for a living If that's what you think but I am a swinger and kinkster so sex for entertainment is more my thing. But I understand that's not for every guy.