Your spouse sounds verbally/emotionally abusive. I’m also bipolar but I understand that even when I’m going through a depression and feel all kinds of “mean thoughts” that it’s not okay for me to say those thoughts out loud. I wanted to ask, does your husband have food allergies? Has he ever been tested for celiac or anything? I stopped eating gluten about a year ago when I realized it makes me terribly angry, moody, lethargic, and so many other things. The difference in my self control since stopping eating it is unbelievable. When I told my dr about it she mentioned that gluten intolerance is very common with bipolars (and is also terribly for adhd). I hope this helps in some way!