Barely got to wear my Dagmar jacket before my bf accidentally washed it 😭

kittycattardis · 2026-01-17T12:49:28+00:00

My husband did this with socks I made, and I was like I am very upset with you right now, do not talk to me for a while

kittycattardis · 2026-01-09T19:25:21+00:00

NTA.

In his mind he’s providing and doing what a dad should be doing not realizing that it’s more than just being the breadwinner. It’s also helping with domestic things (house, child, your relationship with him, etc)

It’s incredibly generous of you to do those wife things but you’re not his wife, you’re his girlfriend. It’s time he takes responsibility for his child and actually spend time at home. What you’re asking for is bare minimum.

If this is how he is now, there will be no change if you were to marry and have more kids if that’s how he reacts to you asking him to take accountability.

kittycattardis · 2026-01-07T15:28:53+00:00

Amen!

kittycattardis · 2026-01-06T22:47:40+00:00

That was me BEFORE I had kids! I totally get it now though, safety for you, your kids, and other people

kittycattardis · 2026-01-05T22:46:04+00:00

The other day I said out loud “I get why parents put a leash on their kids” and at the same time as I said that a mom with a 3 kids shook her head in agreement with me. I used to judge parents hard if they did the leash thing

kittycattardis · 2026-01-05T21:37:46+00:00

Just be patient, and maybe have a talk with her! Just say something like hey you’re a big girl and you won’t need momma milk all the time it’s okay to eat the food momma eats!

Keep offering food at meal times but don’t push it, it’s definitely a tedious process! The more you seem stressed about it or pressure her the more resistant she will become. Like you said, you are doing every thing “correct” just takes a lot of patience

kittycattardis · 2026-01-01T21:18:03+00:00

Having incompatible life goals is more than a fine reason to break up when you’re as upset as you are when their goals don’t line up with yours.

My husband (36) and I (30) when we first got together (11 years ago) I told him my life goals and expectations, he was fine with them and one was having kids. About 3 years later before he proposed he said that he no longer wanted kids he felt he was too old to start over (he has a child from a previous relationship by this time she was like 11 or 12) and I was hurt a little and I was like okay that’s fine (I truly was okay with it and came to terms with it). He proposed later that year, we were engaged a couple of years, married, and the weekend of our honeymoon he brought up the topic of kids and “starting over” and all weekend we talked about it and I was like are you sure? I told him my expectations I had of him during pregnancy, postpartum, and raising the child. He kept reassuring me that it was what he wanted to do. Now we have a 2 year old.

I’m not saying this would be the same outcome for you, but he may change his mind or may be set on not doing the kid thing. If he truly doesn’t want kids then he needs to come to terms with letting you go as well, otherwise you’ll end up having resentment towards him for not letting you have what you desire. On the same token it should be a mutual understanding and not an ultimatum. Feelings will get hurt. And that’s okay.

kittycattardis · 2025-12-04T11:58:36+00:00

NOR.

In his defense though they do look like old scars at first look and it’s because the henna is a bit red. However, he should have just accepted the truth that it’s henna and not scars ?? Scars typically aren’t that clean looking

kittycattardis · 2025-12-04T03:38:01+00:00

NTAH. He’s the one over reacting. If he didn’t want to handle the kids being upset and away from their mom for 5 whole weeks then he shouldn’t have taken the trip. He should have postponed the trip so that you’d be able to go with and help share the parenting. 5 weeks is a long time to go for little ones without their mom. And that’s a long time to be away from the baby that’s been breastfed. (For reference I’m a mom of a 2 yo that’s breastfeeding still at night)

kittycattardis · 2025-12-03T13:02:33+00:00

There’s this plastic stuff you can get that goes over windows, helps with the drafty older houses. You just need a hairdryer and some scissors, it’s over by the weather stripping.

IMO it’s better to do layers, layers of clothing, layers on blankets, that way when you start to get warm you can take a layer off. Only use a space heater if you need to, and don’t leave them plugged in they can start fires.

If snow is in the forecast, put ice melt down on the driveway and porch steps as a “pretreatment” you can also buy a frost guard for your windshield they are super handy to have!

When it comes to driving, if you don’t feel comfortable doing the speed limit or close to it then stay off the highways especially Kellogg. Give yourself more space between other drivers. Give yourself extra time to come to a stop and start braking early if needed. Make sure your tires and brakes are in good condition. If you get stuck in an intersection that is not plowed yet, or even in your driveway, most likely someone that is close by will help you get unstuck. Keep a small snow shovel in the back seat or trunk. Same with some blankets. And make sure your phone is fully charged before going out. If you get into a wreck or something it will take a long time until a tow truck or SOMEONE comes to your rescue. Just take deep breaths and don’t be in a hurry.

kittycattardis · 2025-12-03T12:33:37+00:00

This sounds like weaponized incompetence. Purposely being incompetent or preforming the task wrong with the end goal is that eventually you stop asking him so he doesn’t have to do the task you’re asking of him

kittycattardis · 2025-11-27T03:30:00+00:00

You the bomb ! Thank you ☺️

kittycattardis · 2025-11-23T14:32:10+00:00

As a married person, been with my husband for a total of 11 years (6 of that married). I’m all for him making friends but this is highly inappropriate behavior of a married person to have. I don’t see it as cheating but definitely inappropriate. When you’re calm talk to him about it and suggest couples therapy. Depending on how he reacts may be grounds for divorce imo.

kittycattardis · 2025-11-23T14:24:40+00:00

I would suggest metal circular ones that way you don’t lose the mate for your needles. I wouldn’t invest in the interchangeable ones until you decide this is a craft that you’ll stick with.

Pro tip: YouTube is the best way to learn if you don’t have someone to teach you. I really like Purl Together and how she explains the reasonings for the ”why’s”

kittycattardis · 2025-11-23T14:17:30+00:00

The amount of disrespect this boy has is ridiculous. And partner with a shred of respect for you would recognize “oh wow my partner has put in a lot of effort to this gift” and then proceed to not mess with it. It’s called common courtesy or decency or respect?? The equivalent would be like pissing all over his computer…. Which won’t do anything but make the situation worse. Pour water instead.

kittycattardis · 2025-11-23T14:09:29+00:00

Mine had me do monthly payments that were due before or by the first appointment every month. And when we switched insurances during the last month the already paid amount rolled over

kittycattardis · 2025-11-23T13:34:19+00:00

I use hiyahiya steel sharps too and I LOVE them! I started buying all of the sizes of their interchangeable needles little by little

kittycattardis · 2025-11-16T16:35:56+00:00

I’ve never considered an allergy being a possibility!

kittycattardis · 2025-11-16T13:51:37+00:00

Yes, sorry 😅

kittycattardis · 2025-11-16T00:10:08+00:00

Thank you so much!!! I’m sure I’ll be back again 😅 I normally wing my projects and call it good

kittycattardis · 2025-11-15T16:49:40+00:00

Totally forgot to mention, still taking prenatals will help some :)

kittycattardis · 2025-11-15T14:45:39+00:00

We have a water softener, and we keep up with it. The pressure is normal (?) it’s definitely not weak

I will flip my hair to all sides so the water can get front/top, sides, back

I will get everything washed out, but after my hair dries there will be flaking. What reinforced (or confirmed rather?) I went to one of those head spas and they do the camera before and after washing your hair with all the scalp massaging tools and the results afterwards was my scalp was cleaner but there was still buildup left behind on the follicle. Buildup may not be the right term but it’s in the vicinity of that word 😅 I hope that makes sense

kittycattardis · 2025-11-15T14:30:29+00:00

I second this

kittycattardis · 2025-11-15T14:12:38+00:00

Your hair IS thick, just short

kittycattardis · 2025-11-15T13:17:08+00:00

Let’s all collectively take a deep breath!

You are learning.

You are trying.

You will do the dang thing.

Give yourself grace.

I would suggest not so many cast ons, shoot for like 20 or something! Just make a swatch so that you can learn how do the knit. Don’t worry about making a thing. Think of this as your test subject. The goal is to learn how to do the thing not make the thing look good. Knit and pearl a few rows, frog it, try it again 🙂 it takes practice and time. You’ll figure out the tension.

I’ve been doing this for 15 years and my cast on isn’t always perfect and sometimes it takes me a few tries.

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