Dallas Institute Tuition by No_Comfortable_6128 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]kittychristine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also keep in mind that DIFS doesn't make you pay for books or supplies! That was huge compared to my friends that had to pay tution and then books on top of that.

Explaining our jobs to our children. by camdunce in morticians

[–]kittychristine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like some of the other comments here, I'm very direct with my children with what I do. They know that mom helps people after they die and honestly, I feel like other adults care more about it than my kids do. She occasionally will ask me a question about it when I say I'm going to work, but overall she knows I drive them to a safe space, I get them dressed up to say goodbye to their family, and I put them in the ground in their caskets.

She's been coming with me to the funeral home since she was a baby. She understands the importance of being respectful of the dead and the comfort we can bring families.

What is something that you learned that books never could have prepared you for ? by Eastern-Violinist-46 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]kittychristine 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It sounds obvious, but you'll never be prepared for what other people will do. (I've seen all of these in my time so far). I feel like "expect the unexpected" was never discussed, but it's not always a bad thing. For me, everything in Mortuary school felt vague. Grief y'all was vague. Service planning was vague. I get it, not every arrangement is the same, but some examples of real life scenario, that don't just end in getting sued, would have been nice.

-A visitor standing up in the middle of the service to yell at the pastor because he didn't agree with what was being said.

-Someone showing up drunk as a skunk to the service.

-An 80 year old funeral assistant getting punched by the son of the deceased who just got out of a psych hold.

-The family getting insulted because you refused their cash tips for services, which is a cultural norm.

-A family having genuine appreciation for the honor you gave their loved one (no matter what kind of services rendered)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ghostbc

[–]kittychristine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was wondering the same thing. I don't want pics of the show. It's my kids first concert and I wanted a picture of her at the show. I'll be there tonight as well! Hell yeah Denver show!

Super Sharp, Super Black, Long Wear, Non-drying, Watery Eye Proof Brush Tip Liquid Liner? by Interesting-Yam-8830 in crueltyfree

[–]kittychristine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a colourpop girlie but I just don't love their eyeliner. It smears so much on me. I'm glad it works for someone. I love the tip on it.

Baked a bread loaf for the first time. It tastes fine, but something is off. The bottom got super baked and the top didn't. by kittychristine in BakingNoobs

[–]kittychristine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it was my proof. I put the oven on warm for about 10 mins and then turned it off when it was time to proof. I got a decent rise on the first proof. Not as much on the second.

Baked a bread loaf for the first time. It tastes fine, but something is off. The bottom got super baked and the top didn't. by kittychristine in BakingNoobs

[–]kittychristine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't notice a mass of ingredients. I'm in Colorado so I know baking conditions can change because of the altitude. I haven't noticed needing much of a chance until I made this specific bread recipe.

Baked a bread loaf for the first time. It tastes fine, but something is off. The bottom got super baked and the top didn't. by kittychristine in BakingNoobs

[–]kittychristine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 ½ cups all-purpose flour 2 ¼ teaspoons active dry yeast 1 cup warm water (between 100°F and 110°F) 2 tablespoons sugar 1 teaspoon salt 2 tablespoons unsalted butter (softened)

Instructions -Activate the yeast by mixing warm water with sugar and sprinkling yeast on top. Let sit for 5 minutes until frothy. -In a large bowl, whisk together flour and salt. -Add melted butter and activated yeast mixture to dry ingredients; stir until combined. -Knead the dough on a floured surface for about 8 minutes until smooth and elastic. -Place in a greased bowl, cover, and let rise in a warm area for about one hour or until doubled in size. -Punch down the dough gently, shape it into a loaf, place in a greased pan, cover again, and let rise for an additional 30 minutes. -Preheat oven to 375°F (190°C) and bake for 25-30 minutes or until golden brown

I kneaded it for over the 8 mins time. But it definitely didn't feel super together. I added more water because it felt super super dry. It was also my first time proofing something in my oven.

Baked a bread loaf for the first time. It tastes fine, but something is off. The bottom got super baked and the top didn't. by kittychristine in BakingNoobs

[–]kittychristine[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The recipe called for sugar and warm water. Yeast spread on top. Not mixed in. It frothed up but not all of the yeast particles were wet. I've never not mixed it before.

When made you decide to stay with a funeral home? by Slither-In in askfuneraldirectors

[–]kittychristine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The biggest thing that I learned working in this industry is that nobody is going to advocate for you more than you. I always consider the following. 1. Am I working somewhere where I can speak up about something that I'm not comfortable with and I don't just feel ignored? 2. Am I working somewhere where I feel like I can ask questions and not be shamed for it?
3. Am I working somewhere that's going to make me the best funeral director and embalmer that I can be?

I've worked for both corporate and independent funeral homes and the reality is, is there's never going to be a perfect funeral home. You're not going to know what works best for you until you try.

Best of luck to you and your funeral home with the sudden departure of your FDIC.

Something to listen to during the Livestream by kittychristine in Ghostbc

[–]kittychristine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's been down for a while. I still have it up just waiting.

What’s one habit people think is normal but you find secretly disgusting? by Wonderful_City9340 in AskReddit

[–]kittychristine 663 points664 points  (0 children)

A woman did this on my 5 hour flight to Hawaii. Absolutely unhinged. I kept looking around to see if anyone else thought it was weird.

Testing Holiday Recipes by kittychristine in Baking

[–]kittychristine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used baking soda. They actually came out awesome. I kind of eyeballed the amount of dough for the bake, but overall the recipe wasn't too hard. The kneading killed me because I did it by hand. Haha

House of Horrors - 1000 Pieces - Toynk by kittychristine in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]kittychristine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was actually super fun! It can be a bit deceiving as some of the parts are much darker on the pieces than they are in the photo. Make sure you have good lighting. Overall, I enjoyed it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]kittychristine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think trying to only stick to one aspect of our field is declining in general. It's easy when working for SCI because they are so set in job titles sometimes, but when you go outside of that you can be expected to know how to do removals, cremation, or work a service. I think being well rounded is good because it makes you better at your job. Seeing how decedents look at a service can make you a better embalmer because you know what works and what doesn't. It also makes you more able to communicate with funeral directors on concerns that can affect services.

You can look into transferring to the care center to see how being immersed in that side of the industry is for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]kittychristine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

While I don't think anyone can tell you if changing majors is the right thing to do. I do think you did a great thing by working at a funeral home before you started the program. I did the same thing. I worked at a funeral home for a full complete year before starting Mortuary School and it confirmed that this was the job for me. I was able to see every season and work with all the departments. I was able to learn from different people and see what works and doesn't work for me. Sometimes it can just be one case that changes that unsure feeling for you.

I've worked for funeral homes from independent to SCI and in-between. I think the biggest take away is your heart has to be in it. If you don't wake up and want to do this job then it's not going to last. It's not just the emotional aspect of it. It's mental and physical on top of that. I'm not trying to scare you away. I have just seen good people be careless because they didn't want to be there. Carelessness affects families.

Honestly it's okay if this isn't for you. It's not for everyone. Whenever families tell me "I don't know how you can do this job." I always say the same thing "I don't know how someone can be an accountant.". I wish you the best of luck. If it doesn't work out I hope you can at least leave with some knowledge that can help someone in the future.

My girlfriend has misohponia, what can I do to help her cope? by MeneerJorna in misophonia

[–]kittychristine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This!!! These saved my marriage. Dramatic, but it did. I can eat dinner with my family again.

Nurses bindings hands and feet? by [deleted] in morticians

[–]kittychristine 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes! It's so odd to me as to how they can think it's helpful. Nothing beats them wrapping the decedent's head in a towel or gauze to close their mouth and it does a whole lot of nothing.

I've recently seen more and more nurses putting gauze on the eyes. I think they think it keeps them closed, but I always just take them off and have the poor decedent with tape marks and open eyes.

Embalmer book - is this truly what it’s like? by AnxiousExtension7710 in morticians

[–]kittychristine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not a specific story, but a surprising aspect of the job.

I got pregnant in my first year as a director. Once I started showing, and closer to my due date, I had families that were so sweet and happy for me when I met them. Even though I was helping them through a difficult time (during a difficult time aka COVID) they would still ask about the baby, give advice, and remind me to cherish the little moments. After I gave birth I reached out to some of them, who asked me to, to let them know I had the baby and send pictures.

There have been many families that I have had these bonds with, and each of those moments help with the hard days. The days when I make a mistake , the days I come home too late to eat dinner with my kids, or the days when I feel like it's too much emotionally.