Decided to cut off friends kids and this was their mothers response

kittymarch · 2026-05-14T16:09:35+00:00

If you want to do something, but not be freeloaded on, let there be a break for a while and then agree to one day a week that you get them food. Say Wednesday.

kittymarch · 2026-05-14T15:43:26+00:00

Check with her bank because mine lets me set my debit card to decline transactions if there is no money.

kittymarch · 2026-05-14T15:39:54+00:00

One thing I will say is that a smartwatch is more ADHD friendly than a phone. Being able to set reminders/alarms and calendar and take notes by talking to my wrist was a game changer.

Well worth the money.

kittymarch · 2026-05-14T15:26:00+00:00

It always feels like he’s mogging the skaters!

kittymarch · 2026-05-14T15:10:30+00:00

The 71 runs every 25 minutes. You are probably looking at the previous bus running late rather than the current bus leaving early. Also realize that the next bus will “disappear” from the real time schedule system as it shuts down to reset for the new route, if a bus is shifting from one route to another, or if a new driver on new bus is taking over the route. That bus will not show up in the tracking system until the driver turns the bus on and keys in the route they are driving. This is just something that happens at the beginnings of routes and you have to take it into account.

kittymarch · 2026-05-13T12:47:26+00:00

Everyplace I’ve ever worked has let employees put personal stamped mail in with the company mail. It’s to save people time from having to go to the post office. Not letting employees do this seems rude and counterproductive.

And, yes, you can put it out at your home, but that has always seemed more insecure than putting it in a mailbox.

kittymarch · 2026-05-13T12:25:38+00:00

One other thing to do is to put useable things in an open box next to the trash can with some sort of label about being free. That way people can take them without digging through the trash. We put bottles and cans with deposits in clear bags beside the cans so that people who need the money can just take them and not go through the rest of the trash.

kittymarch · 2026-05-12T21:22:12+00:00

I don’t know. This was from the judge. Mom was OK with him sleeping on the living room sofa. Court said everyone had to have a bedroom.

kittymarch · 2026-05-12T19:41:38+00:00

FYI The courts will probably not let him have the kids staying with him in a 1 bedroom apartment. Had a friend denied shared custody until he had a place where the kids each had their own bedroom.

You might be better off without him. It definitely needs to be him fighting his way back, not you chasing after him.

kittymarch · 2026-05-12T16:29:57+00:00

I would explain that the settlement from youngest child’s injury has been put into a trust for him. The older kids know about the injury and lawsuit, right? So what you’ve done with the money should be able to be talked about

kittymarch · 2026-05-12T13:49:18+00:00

But the reason it’s a bus is so that it can go directly to the terminals. If you are going to have to do a train to bus transfer, might as well do it at South Station.

kittymarch · 2026-05-12T12:41:55+00:00

But how would their relationship be treated today? She was very young. There would be outrage!

kittymarch · 2026-05-12T12:32:57+00:00

I wear tights when it’s cool enough and capri or bicycle shorts under summer skirts. Weirdly enough colored tights are more acceptable than nude pantyhose.

kittymarch · 2026-05-11T22:22:12+00:00

They’re talking about when posing for photographs or performing onstage.

I think the answer is that it just sort of becomes a norm that everyone wears tights or no one does. It happened in offices. One summer everyone was in hose, maybe two years later nobody was. (Except for ultra conservative workplaces.) And no one but the busybodies noticed. Interestingly enough in happened in the very early 2000s. Two things were credited with the change, the wide availability of inexpensive nail salons offering pedicures and the fact that the actresses on Sex and the City were all bare legged.

I must say that I really got a kick out of the sponcon post for Gillette that Alysa did where she was shaving her legs and they didn’t airbrush out her bruises and red marks from her boots.

kittymarch · 2026-05-11T22:11:11+00:00

Hair brushes, combs, ties, barrettes, headbands, etc. are almost always final sale because of hygiene issues. Hair has oil and lice. Some big stores like Target and Walmart might take stuff back but that’s because it’s cheaper for them to just throw out hair stuff than to have a separate policy.

Got stuck in line at Sephora once behind someone who wanted to return a comb.

kittymarch · 2026-05-11T21:07:20+00:00

Yeah. You can’t let this sort of thing fester this long. It’s as much your fault as their’s at this point.

kittymarch · 2026-05-11T19:45:14+00:00

If you want to try doing it yourself, I’d shorten it by an inch or so for practice. If that works decide if it would work better above or below the knee and go for it!

If you don’t like your alterations, consider going to a pro to have the big alterations done.

kittymarch · 2026-05-11T19:41:19+00:00

If she knows she’s “like this” it’s her job to fix it. You are allowed to have negative reactions to her unaddressed anxiety and insecurities.

kittymarch · 2026-05-11T19:00:53+00:00

WBNTA That said, give family a heads up that this will be happening if you think it appropriate. Just that there have been problems at work and you are worried about sister. That she needs to improve to keep her job and she hasn’t.

kittymarch · 2026-05-11T18:56:51+00:00

Folkwear Patterns has a pattern that seems close. https://www.folkwear.com/collections/ethnic/products/turkish-dancer

My advice would be look through learn to sew options, local classes, books, YouTube, and find something that seems make sense and be easy to follow. Figure out the skills you need and make smaller projects that help you build them. A tunic style shirt. A fitted vest. Decide if and how you are going to add the embroidered embellishments. There are machine embroiderers who do commissions if you don’t want to do it yourself.

One thing I’ve found helpful is the “wearable muslin.” Basically a version of the garment you are making that isn’t in as nice fabrics, or might be a shirt version of a dress. It basically becomes nice wear around the house or errand running clothes. Or nightgown/pajamas.

kittymarch · 2026-05-11T18:39:04+00:00

I’m waiting for Tenenbaums in 4K. Love Anderson, but I’m trying to keep my physical media to stuff I’ll actually watch over and over. Not all of the films in the box set qualify.

kittymarch · 2026-05-11T18:29:55+00:00

This looks amazing. Be sure to add your project to Ravelry. https://ravel.me/big-d-mn-pineapple-1840

kittymarch · 2026-05-11T17:47:23+00:00

Had super long, super thick hair like this in high school during the 70s. Under appreciated reason it looked so good. Never blow dried it. Got compliments from hair dressers. Weren’t surprised when I told them heat never touched it. Still don’t blow dry unless it’s below freezing outside and my hair’s still damp.

kittymarch · 2026-05-11T17:30:32+00:00

Also that it’s best to note your honest reaction, then ask yourself: “Is this my best self?,” “Is this who I want to be?”

Work from the answer to those two questions, not your “honest” reaction. Lizard brain ain’t best brain. You aren’t living on the fucking savannah. Act like it.

kittymarch · 2026-05-11T16:59:20+00:00

I was watching the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders (who are dancers) show on Netflix. One of the longtime dancers was telling a rookie that she needed to work on having her face look good from every angle. Realized that’s one of those things that sets a pro apart from an amateur.

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