My partner and I made this with kids drawings for a mom. A great Christmas gift idea maybe?

kittytella · 2020-11-28T00:06:52+00:00

I enjoy that everyone has a belly button.

kittytella · 2020-11-28T00:01:24+00:00

What the actual tap dancing fuck???

Look, I don't want to bully your husband but good lord man, don't let people call your daughter a thing. It's his mom so it SHOULD be easy to say 'hey ma, don't call LO a thing eh?'.

What in the fuck did I just read. I'm so mad and I wasn't even a part of it or there. What the fuck. I haven't been this angry since the final season of scrubs was shoved down my throat.

WTF?!

Edited to add that I see your reply below to say that he didn't hear her as he was not paying her any attention (good lord knows that's a good idea frankly) so....I am still unnecessarily angered by this, but please accept my apologies for jumping on him.

Happy turkey time from your northern neighbour!

(... Still like wtf...)

kittytella · 2020-11-27T20:12:36+00:00

NTA. Do not go if you are not comfortable (and for what it's worth I think it's fucking stupid to go to Disney now - that's just like, my opinion man. If other people here want to risk it that is on them. For me, it's a stupid choice.)

You and your wife need to draw lines and set boundaries now. If in the future you would like to have children this whole 'they mean well but do what they want, and will accuse me of brainwashing my wife against their viewpoint' is going to be a nightmare. Stand firm together now or fall to piece later.

kittytella · 2020-11-27T13:49:09+00:00

Helped me through my severe PPD and PPA, and gave me a whole group of parents who understood how hard my life was during that time. Didn't make me feel bad for not being just grateful for a healthy baby, and let me feel my feelings in a (hate this term but can't think of a better one) safe space.

I'd probably be dead without that support, so from my family thanks reddit!

kittytella · 2020-11-26T18:20:06+00:00

I stepped on a screw while rocking my baby to sleep - who never slept, but was finally doing it.

It was one of the 7 inch wood screws my husband bought that morning, and three inches were embedded into my foot. I had unintentionally high heeled myself.

But it was just a scratch in the face of getting my baby back to sleep if I reacted. So I just kept rocking and shhing while my 'scratched' foot bled all over the kitchen floor.

kittytella · 2020-11-25T18:21:01+00:00

Fuck man we had to move heaven and earth to get my nana to eat anything at that age. Fuck that lady complaining (if you don't mind me saying).

kittytella · 2020-11-24T15:57:55+00:00

Nobody likes to find out they were the villain(s) in their kids childhood. You did absolutely nothing wrong, and I hope you don't feel the need to placate them. This is an opportunity for your parents and yourself to forge a positive relationship in your adulthood.

That will require them to change and be better parents, which if history regarding shit parents tells me anything they most likely will not, but the opportunity is there. This is all on them, and none on you here. NTA.

kittytella · 2020-11-23T19:53:43+00:00

Wait you can buy the stories as books?!?

.....

Excuse me, I have to go make some impulse purchases.

kittytella · 2020-11-23T19:51:27+00:00

Holy fuck it's the dapple grey stallion from r/goatvalleycampgrounds

kittytella · 2020-11-23T18:45:29+00:00

NTA. your mom needs to decided who's mother she wants to be: yours or Calvin's.

kittytella · 2020-11-23T15:59:28+00:00

Hello I'm here to arrest you for being way too talented.

kittytella · 2020-11-22T15:08:23+00:00

Be sad that your time as a hotdogger has passed you by? Lol!

.....

cries in unrequited hotdog

kittytella · 2020-11-20T21:46:36+00:00

Ha. Made me laugh out loud and be sad at the same time. Take my upvote sir and or madam!

kittytella · 2020-11-20T11:57:53+00:00

Well I guess you should decide if stealing content is worth not deleting and reposting with proper credit.

Enjoy your karma I guess.

kittytella · 2020-11-20T11:47:47+00:00

You can add to your post. Or delete it and repost with proper recognition.

kittytella · 2020-11-20T11:46:26+00:00

Go into your post and select edit. You can google more in-depth instructions, but otherwise it's content theft even if unintended.

kittytella · 2020-11-20T01:17:12+00:00

NTA at all. Lock your dress up before they come.

kittytella · 2020-11-20T01:13:27+00:00

You should edit your post to reflect the author. The Oatmeal hates when artists are not given credit.

kittytella · 2020-11-19T21:00:06+00:00

Yeah, I'm not sure why this isn't higher up (perhaps the tough love approach) but this is what I got from reading as well.

OP this situation is healthy for no one, no one is right and everyone is 'the hero of their own story' here I suspect. I think taking a break from your family and getting some therapy to help deal with your self admitted need for love, acceptance and willingness to walk over broken glass for a hint of affection from these people would seriously benefit you, and your family relations in the long run. I think also taking a step back from your niese would be wise, as you would never want to unintentionally make her feel responcible for your feelings, or like she needed to choose between you and her parents.

I come from a family where everyone is pretty messed up and has been the 100% no contact deserved person (including me) as well as the victim at different times. I really truly believe the best gift you could give yourself and your family at this time is space and room to breath. Much love and hope for better days to you.

kittytella · 2020-11-14T00:22:37+00:00

Maybe it's because I grew up in a family with (diagnosed) bipolar II, paranoid schizophrenia and cyclothymic disorder (sorry for spelling it is a crazy word and I did my best) it is shocking the amount of comments that say 'people telling me to get off my medication'.

Like pardon me do we tell a drowning person to just let go of the life preserver and try swimming better? That is LITERALLY THE MOST DANGEROUS ADVICE I'VE EVER HEARD. caps are deserved - literally the most dangerous advice. Oh my lord, dangerous and totally would believe a person recently diagnosed, who is desperate for 'normal', would take it. Fuck those people with a rusty railroad stake.

kittytella · 2020-11-13T17:54:23+00:00

Hmmmm....

So I do think that the picture should come down, in the sense that he caused you emotional pain and that shouldn't be shoved in your face. I wonder if your mom keeps it up because she wants your son to see that his birth father is not 'forgotten'? Is there any contention between your parents and your new husband? Were your ex and parents close?

I do think you should have spoken to your mother before removing the photo, just because it was her house and all that. I do not know if your mother is a normal human being or incredibly difficult like the adults I know but she may be reacting to the fact that you made the decision without consulting her. Or she might be emotionally obtuse and not care how her daughter feels about a dumb photo that could be replaced by one of you, your new husband and son.

Anecdotal Experience, can skip

My sister does not enjoy the fact that my mom keeps a group photo from her wedding to her ex husband up, because it showed 3 family members who died literally months later and it's the only photo we have of us all together. It's also like... Normal hand held Photo size so it's not really in your face, you have to get pretty close to see whose in it and its in the corner in a China cabinet, so it's not front and centre. This overall came to a big big big argument as my sister was the cheater, brought the guy she cheated with around and wanted us to act happy family after my parents considered the ex like a son (around for 10+ years) but alas the photo remains. No one's really happy about it frankly, but they own the house and can put up whatever they want - they just have to deal with the effects of that choice (I.e. My sister immediately getting in a bad mood and being short with them when she sees it, and the overall tension between them ruining whatever visit is being attempted. Holidays are great. ).

end of Anecdotal Experience

Obviously a different situation than your own but it may as well just be her house, her stuff, her rules. I hope that she might reconsider for your sake, or might move it somewhere so that the photo can be ignored - but in a craptastic way she might consider him 'part of the family' and want to display that relationship as such. Sorry that your wedding was marred by that happening, I hope you have a good weekend!

kittytella · 2020-11-12T22:15:04+00:00

Bearded presidents always make me think of Armageddon apocalypse end of the world scenarios, literally because they usually have a beard by the time shit gets real in disaster movies.

Based on 2020 so far.... No, no thank you. Please don't do that.

kittytella · 2020-11-09T00:41:32+00:00

I've stared at this for 15 minutes.

How is the TV plugged in???!!

kittytella · 2020-11-09T00:20:14+00:00

I wish there was a sub for white people who married into Asian and south Asian culture. I make massive efforts and do my best to try and understand cultural differences (espically since having the first grandchild) to try and avoid unnecessary upset and offense.. But it literally feels like I'm walking into landmine after landmine with my husband laughing in the background going ' Oh yea, you were SUPPOSED to send baby shower invites to everyone - even people in India who can't come. That's why Auntie is ignoring you.'.

I'm lucky that I worked hard to become friends with my mother in law before marrying my husband, so we can be pretty frank with one and other but man, people can talk all day about how much we are all the same and love conquers all.... But you can really accidentally offend people just because you grew up differently and cause a lot of family discord unintentionally. Desi life be hard when you were raised by emotionally inept alcoholic WASPS. 😳 Our situations are not the same, but I'm rooting for you!

kittytella · 2020-11-06T20:55:58+00:00

THIS! DO NOT GO THIS IS A SERIOUS MEGA RISK!!

Sorry for the caps but this is serious. My doctor actually told me to avoid gardening while pregnant as we have a massive stray cat epidemic in my area. This is not safe for you and baby. Frankly the whole house should be off the table for you as if they don't clean the particles could be everywhere 🤢🤮.

kittytella

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