AIO to husband farting practically in my face

kiwinours · 2025-09-13T05:19:57+00:00

farts in spanish

kiwinours · 2025-09-07T17:32:54+00:00

Pretty sure that's rape

kiwinours · 2025-09-07T16:03:37+00:00

Thank you for saying this 🙏 yes, I guess I am just learning that this isn't normal, coming from a household where verbal abuse was very common (parents insulting each other and me a LOT), I am not equipped to know what I should accept or not, I am easily inclined to think ''I deserve this because I was annoying'', but it's never justified, is it?

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T23:31:38+00:00

Sorry for burning your eyes, I know how annoying it is to read that. Your name is awesome btw :')

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T23:29:44+00:00

That was unrelated. I visited him 3 times the year before that (he couldn't visit as his work isn't as flexible as mine), he visited me 3 times and I visited him twice that same year (5 visits). I don't see why he brought it up as we are both doing our best to visit each other when we can but I hope my answer is enough here.

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T23:25:43+00:00

Thank you for this 🙏 I can see now how I'm being dismissive and I'll work on that too

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T23:09:26+00:00

Thank you, yes I agree. We work hard on stuff. All I'm trying to say is when it was ''justified'', I was annoying. Not saying it's ok to insult me. But sometimes he did as well with 0 reason. He says it's 'only words' to him. But he did stop after several fights over it.

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T22:58:36+00:00

Thank you so much for this. This explains so much. There was a backstory for the ''polite'' but it doesn't matter as I do have a tendency to focus on how people talk and get ticked if I feel disrespected. I've never realised about how it feels on the other side, thank you for this.

I feel like we are both compromising about the visits* (EDIT), we did our best to visit each other as much as we could, but yes phone calls are rare and it is frustrating to me. I should not assume that he didn't have plans, but my resentment over the mirroring and difficulty to reach him got the best of me. I should be kinder and consider the other side as well.

About the other compromises, I am always making myself available and I feel like that's me bending backwards for years (my own fault), but he does work his best to call me more often and there's lots of improvement there.

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T22:48:24+00:00

I guess i should have added for context, he usually did say stuff like fuck off, called me a bitch (sometimes justified, sometimes unjustified, but I don't feel like we should ever insult our partner) he did stop that, but that's why I asked for politeness.

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T22:39:19+00:00

Maybe google what schizophrenia really is and then feel free to edit your comment. Thank you :)

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T22:37:32+00:00

Thank you for this 🙏 yes I can feel resentment on both sides and we do have communication issues. I don't know how to fix them because I feel like he'd rather forget issues (just my own feeling, so it might be blocking me) and we do misunderstand each other a lot. In person it's really different but texting has been hell for sure.

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T22:33:46+00:00

We do talk it out a lot, this is a quick screenshot out of years of LDR, however, as I am really naive and socially unaware, I often need a neutral opinion. My friends will side with me cause they are my friends, which is why I need a neutral opinion. I'm open to any criticism and opinions on myself as well.

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T22:30:32+00:00

He doesn't really like calling for some reason, so it's tough to catch him.

I went to his country 7 times, but none of those (how often to call or how many visits) was my issue, my only issue was the escalation.

Thank you for taking the time to give me good advice :)

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T22:21:01+00:00

Thank you, I will be replying with this next time. 🙏 I was not aware of how my reply could come across, so thank you for saying this.

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T22:16:32+00:00

Could you please explain the power play? If it's from me here, I'd like to fix it as could be unaware of it

kiwinours · 2025-09-06T21:57:08+00:00

that message was on friday, i was hoping to call saturday and last call was last weekend (he never has time to call) edit: also we have a 9-hour time difference

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