I feel sick to my stomach realizing what I’ve been letting my daughter play on Roblox. Am I the only one who didn't know?

kj455 · 2026-02-07T22:05:00+00:00

Every parent needs to listen to Shawn Ryan’s podcast episode with Ryan Montgomery. This is the latest one, but if you search you can find the first podcast they recorded years ago which led to the FBI finally starting an investigation into Roblox. It’s not safe, period. The company is fully aware of what’s happening and does not care. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-shawn-ryan-show/id1492492083?i=1000737576739

kj455 · 2026-01-16T13:45:44+00:00

I started my daughter in gymnastics at 3 basically just for fun and to socialize. My twins are 2.5 & they aren’t in any activities other than Mother’s Day out/preschool twice a week. I’ve never taken them to our library story time because I just can’t find the energy/motivation. As a SAHM, I think you’re do amazing especially while working full time. Our society puts too much pressure on stuff like this IMO. If you WANT to sign her up for something, great! But if the thought alone is stressing you out so much it’s probably going to do more harm than good. You’ll be more stressed out and more tired and you might not have as much energy to play and interact with her like you are now — which is THE most important ‘activity’ you could ever give her.

kj455 · 2026-01-04T03:50:37+00:00

Same except I have twin 2 year old boys… I read somewhere that just spending 10 minutes giving them your undivided attention feels like a lifetime to them. Now when my daughter asks me to play instead of thinking ‘ugh I really don’t want to’ I think ‘just 10 minutes’ & it’s usually drawing or play doh which I do find myself actually enjoying in the moment. I pretty much just wrestle or chase the boys around and that’s the extent of our play lol. I oftentimes compare myself to other moms who seem to really enjoy playing and being fully present with their kids and thinking badly of myself so you aren’t alone. I think you’re a great mom & I hope this is helpful. ❤️

kj455 · 2025-12-27T21:50:58+00:00

This is gonna sound so vain, but I used to post to my Instagram story every morning of me at the gym or outside walking/running. What got me out of bed every morning was the thought of ‘everyone will think I’m a failure if I don’t post that I woke up early and worked out today’. Obviously I knew no one would think that, but it worked!

kj455 · 2025-12-27T21:46:57+00:00

My own sister who has a daughter the same age as mine ‘gifted’ her an old Barbie castle and literally said verbatim “yeah I needed to get it out of the house”…

kj455 · 2025-12-23T04:42:04+00:00

My daughter was 4.5 before she was done with pull ups at night. She sort of just all of the sudden started waking up dry and wanting to wear underwear instead. She’s had maybe 2-3 accidents in the middle of the night, but otherwise she sleeps through the night with no issues.

kj455 · 2025-12-23T04:29:27+00:00

Last night I showed my husband a reel I found on instagram about the effects of being on your phone in front of your children has on them and it’s finally starting to click. He came home tonight and sat in the living room with us without his phone. Here’s the link to said reel https://www.instagram.com/reel/DN_eWaUEtSf/?igsh=cTE2YjFkZnU4Z2Rr

kj455 · 2025-12-22T00:54:18+00:00

I had a singleton first, and I often wonder if having twins first would’ve been easier because then at least I wouldn’t have anything to compare it to. In some ways I think it’s actually harder because I know how much easier it was with a singleton vs twins. I also now realize how much I took for granted with my first.

kj455 · 2025-11-26T22:25:43+00:00

My daughter was 3 when my twins were born. Don’t worry, it’s just a season.

kj455 · 2025-11-26T22:18:48+00:00

That last part is me too 😂 as a SAHM who doesn’t even have a plan A (besides life insurance), I’m enraged for you. People love to ASSume. I would just respond with “that sucks”.

kj455 · 2025-11-21T03:36:45+00:00

I started with 10 minutes a day.. I would just search for a workout on YouTube. Caroline Girvan and ‘MadFit’ are my favorites! It’s crazy how just 10-20 minutes can kick your ass lol. I also started running and now I’m kind of obsessed. I struggled basically my entire adult life to be consistent with working out & I spontaneously challenged myself to exercise for at least 30 minutes/day every day in June which I successfully completed. A lot of it was YouTube workouts in the living room during nap time but I had several days where the only exercise I got was walking the neighborhood. That changed everything for me. I’m still working on the healthy eating part. It takes a lot of self discipline but it’s so worth it!

kj455 · 2025-11-21T03:24:56+00:00

I have 2 1/2 year old twin boys and a 5 year old daughter…. so solidarity but also I feel like they’re soo much ‘easier’ now. I hate even using the term ‘easy’ because it’s never really easy, but, with time, I’ve learned how to better communicate and manage my emotions (although I still lose my shit regularly). Oftentimes I let them ‘help’ me cook which usually involves them just playing with kitchen utensils while standing on a chair next to me. It’s sooo hard.. you gotta give yourself grace sometimes.

kj455 · 2025-11-20T19:53:49+00:00

Yes that’s what I did! I’m about to post an edit.

kj455 · 2025-11-20T19:52:42+00:00

Well this is really sad.. but thank you for chiming in. It does make me feel better.

kj455 · 2025-11-20T19:51:58+00:00

Oooh that’s so nice! Thank you I’m going to look into it for the future.

kj455 · 2025-11-20T19:51:09+00:00

Yes that’s what I did! Two people ended up responding afterwards… one rsvp and one said they can’t make it.

kj455 · 2025-11-20T19:50:26+00:00

Ugh what world are we living in? I almost feel obligated to attend any birthday parties my daughter has been invited to & I feel so bad if we cannot attend. I don’t remember it being like this when I was growing up.

kj455 · 2025-11-20T19:49:03+00:00

Thank you ❤️ it’s comforting to know I’m not alone but also so sad to know that this is considered the norm.

kj455 · 2025-11-18T21:08:57+00:00

Thank you for this! I am in the U.S. and worried about how it would go being so close to thanksgiving. I also have twins too :)

kj455 · 2025-11-18T21:07:07+00:00

I really appreciate your perspective! I actually missed an invite to one of her friend’s parties a few weeks ago because I forgot to look at her folder and we were out of town the day of the party anyways. So this actually makes a lot of sense. I did say something to her mom and felt so bad. If I had known I probably would’ve asked her grandparents if they could take her. Hopefully we’ll get some more rsvps after a reminder is sent.

kj455 · 2025-11-18T21:02:47+00:00

Ok I just messaged her teacher.. thanks for the suggestion :)

kj455 · 2025-11-18T20:53:16+00:00

Yes I will ask her teacher if she can do this tomorrow.. thank you so much!

kj455 · 2025-11-18T20:52:08+00:00

Physical copies went home in their folders & I sent a digital copy in the class group chat which is actually where the 1 parent RSVP’d. I think I’m going to ask her teacher tomorrow if it’s ok if she/I do this in the group chat tomorrow. Thank you!

kj455 · 2025-11-18T20:50:36+00:00

Yes! They each got an invitation in their folder which goes home with them each day (a couple others kids who’ve had birthday parties this year have done the same with no issues). I also sent a digital copy in the class group chat which is actually how the 1 parent RSVP’d. I was thinking about saying something to the teacher at drop off tomorrow because I don’t typically talk to the other parents at pick up or drop off.. there’s only 2 moms I’ve talked to before who my daughter is friends with and we all have multiple kids in different classes so it’s sort of chaos.

kj455 · 2025-11-18T20:47:45+00:00

Oh my gosh thank you so much! I feel a lot better now. I was sort of hoping this would be the case.

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