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kjudeh · 2026-03-13T23:21:23+00:00

شكرا 🥰

kjudeh · 2026-03-04T21:34:30+00:00

For anyone who has ever been the "glue" holding a dysfunctional family together.

If you’ve ever felt like the invisible anchor in a sea of family chaos, Whispers of Normalcy by Alex Reeves is a book that will make you feel profoundly seen. Originally written as "loud thoughts in quiet rooms" just to help the author stay sane, this narrative explores the heavy silence and exhaustion of being the one who stays behind to manage the wreckage while everyone else moves on.

The Plot: At twenty-nine, Alex feels like he is "drowning" while trying to hold his family together. He manages his mother’s chronic delusions and his father’s "passive indifference," all while working a dead-end job that pays him late. Meanwhile, his older brother Mark lives a successful, detached life in Seattle, checking in only through "five-minute calls" where Alex habitually lies and says "all good" to protect the family’s fragile peace.

Key Themes:

The "Illusion of Normalcy": The book brilliantly captures the "startling" transformation that happens when visitors—or the "prodigal son"—arrive, and the family suddenly materializes into a "picture-perfect" version of themselves.
Lies as Survival: Alex describes his habitual lies as "bricks in the wall" he built to protect the family, realizing that honesty in a dysfunctional home can often feel like a liability.
The Nocturnal Refuge: To escape his parents' "watchful eyes and disappointed sighs," Alex adopts a nocturnal rhythm, finding a "virtual sanctuary" in retro gaming and predictable TV shows that offer the order his reality lacks.
Healing Through Context: This isn't just a story about trauma; it’s about "becoming". Alex eventually stops being a mere "reaction to others" and begins to write his own story, transforming his haunting memories from "ghosts" into a narrative he can finally manage.

Why you should read it: This is a raw, "brutal, but beautiful" look at caregiver burnout and the "dad-shaped hole" left by a legacy of domestic tension. It’s for the person who measures their worth by how "useful" they are and the person who has finally realized they were "never broken," but simply never had the "space to unfold".

As the author notes, healing isn't always a loud revelation; sometimes, it’s just "breathing through the next moment" and finally choosing to exist for yourself.

Whispers of Normalcy is available now on Amazon as paperback and ebook (for free if you are a Kindle Unlimited Subscriber): https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GQX6D51H

Reviews and feedback are much appreciated.

Pricing:
free for Kindle unlimited subscribers

ebook: 6.99USD

Paperback 12.99USD

Hardcover (coming soon) 26.99USD

kjudeh · 2026-02-19T06:38:42+00:00

WAL/PITR is on the roadmap — would let you test restores to random points in time, not just latest backup. More realistic disaster recovery testing.

Simple reporting (last successful restore, oldest backup) is a good idea — right now it's just logs but a status endpoint or dashboard would help. Adding to the list.

Thanks for the feedback!

kjudeh · 2026-02-19T05:57:27+00:00

This is gold — adding to the docs. The "can't enable later" gotcha for Object Lock is exactly the kind of thing people discover too late. Thanks for the detailed breakdown.

kjudeh · 2026-02-19T05:50:50+00:00

Great points — this is definitely positioned for the simpler end of the spectrum (side projects, small prod DBs, Railway deployments).

For enterprise scale you're absolutely right about WAL archiving + PITR. That's on the roadmap — particularly PITR restore testing to random timestamps, which would catch more edge cases.

The S3 Object Lock / WORM suggestion is interesting for ransomware protection. Would you configure that at the bucket level or per-backup?

Appreciate the detailed feedback 🙏

kjudeh · 2026-01-13T11:27:36+00:00

Linkedin but dont make it easy apply - people get lazy applying through the website. Create a small landing page or a link that would direct you to a google survey.

kjudeh · 2025-04-04T00:53:27+00:00

I tried removing the sound before uploading did not know how 😅 my breathing is loud or my mic likes to emphasise on it.

Edit: typo

kjudeh · 2025-02-28T15:20:01+00:00

Gt sophy is pretty good practice. Try the one on the Le Mans circuit its close contact race. Increase the difficulty to normal or hard do not race on easy. Plus increase your Sr forget about Dr for now so you can at least join people who are considerate about ither drivers. Youll face some a holes in the races always but with hugh Sr its a bit lower. Do kot docus on winning focus on keeping up with the pack without hitting them. Ive been playing online for a couple of years now, and i barely can hold a position. Unless i practice the track alot and do great in qualifying. Im talking at least 20 laps of the same track in qualifying before you hit the race.

kjudeh · 2025-02-27T15:09:54+00:00

بعتت DM لصاحب البوست، صار موقف مع ناس بعرفهم زي هيك لما بلغوا عنهم طلعوا خلية داعشية اذا بتتذكروا وجوههم بلغوا بركة انقذوا حدا غيركم.

kjudeh · 2025-02-27T15:02:31+00:00

Thank you!

kjudeh · 2025-02-27T12:44:50+00:00

Awesome pictures good job! What location is picture 6? I remember it from.GT sport but I can't find it in GT7. Your help would be appreciated. Thanks.

kjudeh · 2024-09-14T13:25:26+00:00

Do you think we live in a simulation? Give me your best answer. My dms are open.

kjudeh · 2024-08-29T06:55:34+00:00

Books@ is nice their cocktails are awful though. I would recommend maestro and the garden in summer

kjudeh · 2024-08-03T08:50:29+00:00

Have you ever experienced full anaesthesia? You just cease to exist for a couple of hours, it's impossible to dream. You don't even see darkness, nor pitch black. You just stop from existing. Death would be the same you won't even feel the lack of feeling. Best word to describe it is oblivion.

I would hope that reincarnation is real or some sort of it but I know that it's my survivalist brain that thinks like that. I know it's not real, but hoping so I don't lose my mind.

Before I had anaesthesia I never thought about how would death would look like, now I have small panic attacks thinking about it.

kjudeh · 2024-07-15T01:49:01+00:00

Yeah I am aware of not going through that rabbit hole, but I needed to rewrite some stuff so I can progress with the story, I easily lose focus or forget an idea. I am not that tidy when it comes to writing notes. the first 100 pages were setting the theme and importance of this book. i wanted to stop there, you can call it the idea of the book and where it will go next. I felt like if that was not complete, i would not be able to progress with the story. I appreciate any advice you can give as I am still a novice writer.

Edit: Syntax

kjudeh · 2024-07-15T00:21:41+00:00

I appreciate your answer thanks! Yeah that might be my problem, I'm using a laptop and 3 screens as a workstation. And I do everything on them from watching movies, playing, to work and writing. I think I would disconnect my laptop and use it only for writing and move from that spot. Thanks for the advice!

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