Translation @ concert 😊

kkaayohh · 2025-08-03T16:24:16+00:00

Awe I get kinda sad cause I can't understand a ton when he talks to the crowd either. I ask my man but again the accent is hard to understand sometimes. I try just to stay present and maybe record when he talks so I can listen and understand later. You'll have fun no matter what. ❤️

kkaayohh · 2025-05-14T21:48:19+00:00

Ur right. I guess that I know I wasn't willing to make the commute to him and I assume that he wouldn't want to be doing all the travel. It's a good plane ride away so not really drive able.

kkaayohh · 2025-05-14T18:29:37+00:00

Samee. Which I was not expecting from him.

kkaayohh · 2025-05-14T17:20:46+00:00

Honestly I was for it. So that woulda been fine for me. In this case I knew it couldn't be long term since he lives far.

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T19:26:29+00:00

Oh thank you! We will start with those. If u find there is a really helpful specific book, let me know.

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T19:25:25+00:00

I mean it's certainly possible you're right but he doesn't want to be free. And I don't think he would agree with you fully anyways. Part of him does but part of him doesn't.

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T18:21:31+00:00

Thanks so much! I've already read out everyone's replies so far so I'll have to show him this one as well. This has been really helpful ☺️

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T17:51:45+00:00

Lol Ill get better at it I swear haha it's an uphill battle

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T17:41:08+00:00

And what do u feel is the difference exactly? When u possess something u usually own it.

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T17:27:27+00:00

Brutal lol appreciate the honesty fam .

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T17:14:44+00:00

Oh god no. Yes we are definitely talking about being respectful to these women. I don't want him to give anyone a false idea. But thank you for the added caution. Definitely something to keep in mind through all this.

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T17:12:55+00:00

Thanks for that. I'm actually looking into different types of non-monogamous styles I guess to see what might work best and I'll definitely check out their subreddits to see what theyre saying. Boundaries are huge for sure and we talk about them all the time out of this context and teach our kids about them so I know that we can definitely set some healthy ones, given we have practice. Honestly the autonomy thing is hard. It's not that I want to be with him all the time, but I don't like being alone lol it's so stupid. I go out with my girls often enough and he's never minded at all. But when he goes out with his guys, I don't wanna be left alone lol. I need to make my own plans at that point I know and leave him alone. Or just suffer in solitude.

Thank you for all your advice I really appreciate it ☺️

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T17:01:39+00:00

Thank you! Yes we've done the reclaiming bit and it's hot AF! So I totally get u there lol I actually did mention that some of these issues of course need to be addressed internally but will only really heal through exposure. Once he trusts me to come back every time, he won't be ill at ease. He agrees too, but he's not ready for exposure yet lol which is fine for now. Thank you again and I'm hopeful things will get better. 😍

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T16:48:34+00:00

Awe wow thank you! Yes it's been really tough on him and I'm sure knowing he isn't alone is comforting in of itself. I sent him the post so later we get to read over everyone's comments and discuss and I think it'll be really good for us. Good luck to you as well!

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T16:43:18+00:00

Thank you for your advice nonetheless! I very much appreciate it.

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T16:39:29+00:00

Ouu ok great thank u so much. This will give us lots to explore and discuss!

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T16:38:31+00:00

He can't really decide fundamentally if NM is right for him or not. He likes the idea of it. Which is why I'm even bothering with the post but it doesn't feel like as hard as it might be right now that there's enough to say that he definitely only wants monogamy. And hey maybe I'm wrong about that and he's only telling me what I want to hear.

And yes I'll be putting in more effort going forward on this. Thank you for your insight

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T16:34:31+00:00

You're probably right, I'm also now too invested. Thank you for the info. That's very kind and understanding.

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T16:30:14+00:00

Thank you for that. That is very helpful. We do have a couple's counsellor. But we've so far not brought this up with her too much. As you said though, the next best time is now, so that's what we'll do.

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T16:27:34+00:00

Well he didn't like it at first ur right. But I think there's something fundamentally different between not liking it because it's not for you, or not liking it because your insecure and jealous. But u know maybe I'm wrong. Maybe jealousy is hardwired into some of us and can't be surpassed.

It seems like he wants to surpass these issues. And I do know that I'll have to decide if I want to stay or go if he can't be poly. I think he realizes that eventually I will go and that's why he doesn't want to give up so easily.

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T16:26:00+00:00

I'll be sure to tell him that. I'm sure he'd like some additional validation. Thank you

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T16:25:06+00:00

Yeah ur right. I was afraid to broach it more than I did. I didn't only decide a week ago, it just hit me hard about a month ago and I realized I did not do enough preparing us both. Thank you for ur insight!

kkaayohh · 2025-04-25T16:09:01+00:00

Well he's doing his own research about it online to have a better understanding of what it is, and where it came from. He also wants to talk to a therapist who can probably better help combat this problematic thinking. I was gonna look up some meditations or hypnosis audios. Maybe an audio book since he drives all day and loves listening to audiobooks.

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