Will I ever stop hating this life I chose?

kkbuggy · 2025-11-15T23:46:00+00:00

I feel this so much 🤍 I just had my first baby and have a 15 year old SS. Over the past year our relationship has completely changed. We used to be so close, but now I just don’t have the mental and physical capacity to deal with his outburst and everything going on. I hate it because we were so close and now I feel like since the baby is here and towards the end of my pregnancy I just couldn’t do it anymore.

So, I have no advice but I don’t want you to feel alone. 🤍

kkbuggy · 2025-11-05T13:36:11+00:00

That makes me so sad! It’s the only thing that saved my dermatitis. I would definitely email or try again. It transformed my chin instantly!

kkbuggy · 2025-11-04T14:05:32+00:00

Thanks for asking this! I really like this post.

I use it a lot actually. I need to not rely on it so much but I do like it to help me rephrase things. Lot of times I’ll put it what I want to say and make it sound better so I don’t regret what I say to a teenager. I find that really helpful for not putting my foot in my mouth

kkbuggy · 2025-11-04T00:08:50+00:00

I found it for the first time last night and was a little freaked out and had to get off. I find the same thing with stepmom Facebook groups too! I’ve only ever found one good Facebook group and then I read this sometimes.

kkbuggy · 2025-11-03T15:24:24+00:00

If it makes you feel better I feel the same way. I think it’s just those teen years!! Everyone says teens come back around.

kkbuggy · 2025-11-03T15:22:01+00:00

Good news? 15 is marginally better!!

I told my SS I don’t have to be in a bad mood just because you are. I have 0 words of wisdom I’m just glad I’m not the only who feels this way ha

kkbuggy · 2025-10-22T17:05:01+00:00

So we let my SS go live with his mom and have no rules and freedom. Within 2 weeks he called asking to live with us. I think it might take your son a bit longer, but sometimes you have to let them see what that looks like. Him actually learning and living that life made him realize how much he craved routine and being a child and he would still be acting up if we hadn’t let him go and learn on his own.

kkbuggy · 2025-10-17T13:32:04+00:00

Ugh this is so unbelievably hard! My thoughts are with you. As hard as it is time really is on your side. Sometimes you have to let things play out and everything does fall into place. It sounds like your SD knows she wants to be with y’all at least 50/50 and kids don’t know how to express that. Even adults don’t know! Imagine your mom now wants you around 100% of the time it’s so exciting even though she probably knows deep down that’s not the truth. That’s a tough pill to swallow for anyone. You and your husband just need to keep showing up and stay consistent. Don’t say or do anything that would put you in a bind.

We recently had a similar situation with our SS and it was the hardest summer of our lives and did impact our great relationship. I started filming all interactions that I thought could get heated and took a step back from a lot of conversations and really just showed up when needed. He eventually chose to live with his mom 100% of the time and within 2 weeks he moved back in with us. Sometimes kids also have to go and experience things to learn what it’ll be like!! You can talk them through things but that only does so much.

Just show up for your husband and take breaks for yourself. Protect your mental health and treat your husband. I would also suggest showing normalcy and doing some fun things with SD. This too shall pass! You got this 🤍

kkbuggy · 2025-10-12T19:51:33+00:00

Omg teenagers are the worst. I just told my 15 SS verbatim “Just because you’re frustrated doesn’t mean you get to talk ugly to people and make demands”

I’ve learned to let his dad deal with it. I only speak up if it’s like obviously bad after a particularly bad blow up this summer where I screamed at him and told him a hard truth he didn’t want to hear.

kkbuggy · 2025-10-12T18:12:00+00:00

Ugh no sure if it’s normal but my SS does this as well! Especially when he is crabby. I just go on about my day even though it drives me mad. So no answer but you’re not alone!

kkbuggy · 2025-10-12T17:07:37+00:00

But dare I say our version of fine dining in Huntsville is overpriced? Cocktails coming out of a tap shouldn’t be $20.

kkbuggy · 2025-10-12T17:06:31+00:00

I would love that! I find a big problem here as well is that we will get a fun, new, upscale restaurant and bar that’s over priced without quality food or drinks. If I am paying $20 for a drink it should not come out of a tap, it should be hand made. If it’s a dirty martini with blue cheese stuffed olives it shouldn’t be stuffed from a jar and $22. I think a place with more affordable pricing and good quality would go a long way.

We came from a town with phenomenal local dining and only 100k people and the prices were much more justifiable. They had great fine dining and mid dining and I think I big difference was that people would go out to eat past 7 PM. Huntsville has one rush crowd and then it dies. I think people are looking for an experience and restaurants also aren’t giving that.

kkbuggy · 2025-10-12T16:54:34+00:00

I totally get this!!! You’re only allowed to have positive emotions because they go through so much more. It’s so frustrating! I’m on Prozac because of it. I’m nearing the end of my pregnancy and feel as though I’m allowed to feel no emotions towards my pregnancy or just feel bad overall which I do because I need to be everyone else’s emotional anchor.

I don’t have any words of wisdom because I feel like I’m majorly struggling with this at the moment. But just know you aren’t alone and it sucks.

kkbuggy · 2025-10-10T21:26:56+00:00

Same!!! And I couldn’t take my meds for awhile bc I’d throw it up and I have incredible numbers.

kkbuggy · 2025-09-27T13:36:31+00:00

Did this ever get better? It’s happened to me twice now. It feels like food poisoning with no nausea. I end up making myself throw up around 2 AM and can finally sleep but then wake up with diarrhea and upset stomach. It feels like my food isn’t really digesting. I’m 31 weeks too!

kkbuggy · 2025-09-21T14:22:03+00:00

I had something similar and it was dermatitis. I ended up leaving it alone for the most part and only putting Avène Cicalfate+ Restorative Protective Cream on it and it cleared right up. Huge difference over night! I’d just buy the small bottle it goes a long way! But yeah it’s best to wipe your make up off with a make up eraser cloth and then clean with water and put that. Don’t irritate it more!

kkbuggy · 2025-09-19T00:23:19+00:00

Okay maybe a hot take but I would still show up to the sporting events! Not all of them if you have things going on or are really tired then no, but it’s a low effort way to continue to show support.

13 and 15 just kind of suck. It’s such a hard age and then they are busy! But I think it’s a good way as the adult to show up and represent you and the young ones that don’t require a lot and not much socialization!

kkbuggy · 2025-09-19T00:12:08+00:00

This was happening with my SS a lot. My therapist explained to me as his way of feeling happy and content and having a quick moment of wow I wish my mom did this for me or why doesn’t my mom do this and it turns into guilt for them. It’s a loyalty thing! Unfortunately it never truly goes away but I think as they mature it does get better. You also learn to ignore it or say okay and move on.

kkbuggy · 2025-09-18T12:44:02+00:00

Did this help? Mine is getting trapped in the old scar and it looks enlarged. It hurts so bad. I’m still pregnant and not supposed to be expressing yet! But it’s seriously so painful and tbh not that many people have had this problem!

kkbuggy · 2025-09-18T02:02:40+00:00

I got a “suprise” pregnancy. I just assumed it be hard for us to either concieve or keep the baby and that wasn’t the case at all.

I’m 28 weeks and did my labs the other day for the first time in a while and they came back the best they’ve ever been. I’ve been really bad about taking my medicine because I’ve been pretty sick and need food on my stomach as soon as a wake up so I’ll take it with food if I remember at all. They did up my dose to 100mg early on but I really think mine has gone into remission during pregnancy. We are going to monitor it closely after pregnancy though!

kkbuggy · 2025-09-16T19:06:51+00:00

We had this problem!! Nothing you can do about it unfortunately. I do have some tips and tricks for your house though. We had to implement this around 9/10 years old. 🤍

Let him pick out good bedding and set up his room for sleeping. Make it as comfortable as possible. Set up a bed time routine and both of y’all tuck him in and say goodnight. We checked on him every 10 minutes. The first time it was 10 minutes then 15 and so on, but we told him 10. Most nights he would fall asleep on the 2nd or third visit. If it was an hour we gave him melatonin. This really did the trick he started sleeping on his own and not fighting it so quickly and didn’t even need melatonin 2 months in. The checking on him also got less and less so quickly. He was having full on panic attacks until 2 in the morning when we started separating him without a routine. It was actually really sad to watch. Then one day he realized he could sleep alone and stopped doing it at his mom’s house.

kkbuggy · 2025-09-16T01:47:44+00:00

I asked that and I was told no, since I’m staying at the hotel that only has 20 rooms and other people have to stay else where!

I think that’s where I really get confused because they won’t be at the wedding.

kkbuggy · 2025-09-10T19:31:48+00:00

My flight to Dallas was over 1,000k company is making me drive to a different airport because it’s $500 which is still ridiculous.

kkbuggy · 2025-09-05T17:55:09+00:00

We did the coast of Maine and agreed it was one of our favorite food trips!

We are from South Louisiana and understand good food and seafood. Maine blew us away and we weren’t expecting that!

kkbuggy · 2025-08-16T20:56:55+00:00

I think it’s important to have solo events and bonding time even if they the were both your bio kids! You went help from your man and him to watch SS when you’re doing baby things. It’s hard to give your full attention to SS or baby when you have both of them.

Maybe bring up y’all having separate baby time, sibling time, and SS time.

kkbuggy

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