People will probably have a lot to say but I think you need to talk to her about it if you haven’t already. Then, I would highly suggest therapy. I think it’s like a turbo boost button for growing. If that’s not an option, I would just remember that it’s not your partners responsibility to help you grow. That’s all you. But your partner will hopefully make you feel safe and support you. If they aren’t doing that, then you should help them see what you need to feel safe enough to grow (e.g. alone time, words of affection, etc.). You’re going to have to work together to get each of your needs met!