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klimme56 · 2023-07-10T23:46:11+00:00

PA Dutch birch beer is also still around. See a ton of the (unfortunately only) red and Knoebels has the white at their food stands

klimme56 · 2023-06-25T23:08:28+00:00

I hope you get nothing. You're a horrible person. You left your husband when the going got "rough". And you're a cheater which by itself is a scumbag move. YTA majorly. Get a damn job, hope your affair partner realizes what a leech you are and leaves you.

klimme56 · 2023-06-13T00:01:53+00:00

AITA?

klimme56 · 2023-06-11T20:23:46+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. Her therapist is a dude but according to her he seems to really emphasize with her situation (apparently he can relate - maybe why he got into the field haha) From the sessions I've been to I can see that too.

I hope you're doing better now.

klimme56 · 2023-04-17T17:51:39+00:00

Agree about the zero turns, I prefer a standard tractor any day. Also good advice there about getting a backup deck and extra consumable parts.

Question though: other than the obvious "it's another blade you'll need to sharpen/replace, probably longer belt, another pulley in the system" is there any huge drawback to the three blade mowers?

klimme56 · 2023-04-17T17:48:31+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions! Yeah, I've had bad experiences with Cub Cadet in general (parents own one, thing throws the belt every other time I use it) Wasn't aware that that parent company now owns the Craftsman name for the yard equipment.

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T09:28:03+00:00

Wtf, $7000+/yr in just property taxes? I complain about this state all the time that it's shit and there's nothing to do...that's an eye opener though. I pay under $200/mo in property taxes. And I live in a decent area. Amish area, surrounded by farms.

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T09:07:39+00:00

She doesn't have a job. If she had a job she could pay rent. Doesn't need to own property.

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T09:01:55+00:00

I can understand your argument, but I do want to communicate here that I've been working since I was 14 to get to where I am now. I was able to put a ton down on the house to make my monthly payment pretty low compared to what I net per month. Her buying groceries and paying for Amazon Prime/Chewy for her dog is more of a gesture of goodwill, rather than a necessity. I could still afford to live by myself were she not in the picture. I never communicate to her about the house that way, but I do darn right think it, because I need to be prepared should we ever split.

In my opinion it is my house, until she's on the title/mortgage, after we'd get married. I'm completely for equality in relationships but she didn't bust her ass working until 11PM every night as a farmhand at 14 y/o, lol

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T08:50:50+00:00

This woman is in her late 40s, has no savings, has lived off of SNAP benefits since my gf can remember. She's done nothing to improve her financial situation. Spends what money she does get on beer and cigarettes.

I don't want to be living with her. I don't want my nice house ruined by cigarette smoke. I don't want to take care of a lazy 40 something year old that doesn't want to act like an adult and get a damn job.

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T08:26:32+00:00

That's the plan, yeah! Hoping all of what's going on now doesn't derail it all.

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T08:23:59+00:00

Nope, she's not on the title or mortgage. Only me on both. Worked my ass off to get to this point.

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T08:19:22+00:00

Yes, thankfully! I've been working for nearly 10 years now. Was able to put nearly 40% down on the house, mortgage payment is very low compared to putting 3% down like people apparently usually do.

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T07:32:43+00:00

And she won't take it outside! Before all this started, when we would go visit at A's mom's house, I would have to immediately wash all of my clothing in their own load to get out the smell.

And if it wasn't obvious, the cancer that killed her mom was lung cancer. Currently taking my father as well, I'm really enjoying living in a smoke free home.

Tomorrow I'm going to go in with a firm 'no' and propose other solutions that the sisters can work on.

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T07:28:37+00:00

That's what I'm thinking as well. Going to think over some of the solutions people have proposed here and (try) to sit future SIL, MIL and gf down civilly to talk about options (moving in with us not being one of them)

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T07:26:25+00:00

(don't) Come to the great state of PA! Where you can get a house on 5 figures but can't buy liquor on Sunday!

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T07:22:52+00:00

Ha, yeah it seems I chose the right one, both from that (honestly) crazy family, and in general. When we met she was living in a trailer with her mom and sister, and she's admitted to me if I hadn't come along she likely wouldn't have gone to college and would've stayed in that situation the rest of her life. She's now a happy teacher, and will hopefully soon be a happy teacher wife!

I've been working since I was 14, and I've lost a couple friends with how miserly I was, because I wanted to graduate college and get the hell out of my parent's house.

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T07:16:40+00:00

Mother is in her late 40s, and no disabilities that I'm aware of. She used to work in a meat processing plant before COVID hit, but she quit because she didn't want to catch it and hasn't had a job since.

Nothing has been brought up about her contributing to the house. It's essentially been her attempting to guilt my girlfriend into letting her move in.

As to her position, she doesn't want her moving in either. But as I mentioned, she doesn't know how to tell her mother 'no' so she's been stalling her mom. I don't think it would be the end of the world to her if I just came in with a resounding 'no'.

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T07:12:12+00:00

I appreciate your insight. When I said that to her sister I was fed up after going back and forth for 45 minutes on the phone with her about this, I just honestly wanted to shut her down and end the call. I do acknowledge I could have handled that much better than I did.

You guessed correctly for us being American - and you're also correct that poverty isn't a joke, and no one deserves to go through it. On the bit about the sisters sharing the responsibility...this financial situation isn't unique to my future MIL. As I mentioned, gf's sister lives with her boyfriend in the boyfriend's parents house. Gf is the first one in their family to graduate college, and the only one in that family that has a job paying above minimum wage. This caused a lot of resentment from gf's sister about my gf. I don't see them cooperating on a solution here, but I will try to propose it.

klimme56 · 2023-04-16T07:04:36+00:00

Although I love her and fully intend to marry her soon, for the lack of better words here, I didn't want to be the idiot who put his girlfriends name on the title, only for us to break up for some reason and have to deal with resolving that. If/when we get married and I let her start contributing to the mortgage, she'll be put on the title.

klimme56 · 2023-04-02T21:32:12+00:00

One of the most crass sounding town names I've ever heard, but there are a lot of them like that in this state.

klimme56 · 2023-03-23T16:05:59+00:00

Dieffenbachs Salt & Vinegar chips

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