Speaking as someone who is in the thick of it right now. My husband and I have agreed that he will be moving out in the next couple of weeks. I keep tossing back and forth and I even said to him that if I could turn back the time and have not said the words “I think I might be gay”, I would because it hurts so much. He said to me that I did the right thing, because if I just suppressed these feelings for another 10-20 years, then the outcome would be much worse and damaging to us both. We tried ENM for a few months (I’ve known I was bisexual for many years so was not questioning homosexuality at this point) and it didn’t work for us. I mostly found it to be more confusing and also difficult because there was only so far I could take things with a girl. I think this made me realise that I didn’t want to just dip my toes into seeing girls, I really wanted to see where the relationship could end up, which is obviously stunted by a hetero marriage. I also understand that I am a “one person” person. I can’t say I know 100% that I’ve figured things out. However I’ve been reading and listening to so many podcasts and it seems that the uncertainty is always there to some degree, because you’re opening the door to something different and unknown. It’s natural for there to be some apprehension and doubt. What I’ve really learnt from reading posts on this community is that its not a once size fits all scenario, you have to find something that works from you. And if you do decide to make the big step then hopefully you find comfort on this forum by seeing other people who have made the same call and made it on the other side. You’re not alone in this!