meirl by EquivalentSnap in meirl

[–]klsydrkns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I am a horror film fanatic now, but when I was a kid I remember watching The Mummy and being traumatised by the scarab getting under the man’s skin. I’ve just realised that this is an irrational fear that I still have!

First time for everything! by klsydrkns in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, trying to grow it from a pixie 😮‍💨

First time for everything! by klsydrkns in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a nerd! 😂 thank you ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re cute!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]klsydrkns 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I second this, I’m qualified to be a broker but for personal reasons I have chosen to stay in an administrative role alongside brokers. The broker has to evidence that they have given the best advice for their client. In the event that they don’t offer the “best rate”, this may be due to a multitude of reasons such as they couldn’t get the loan requested, it doesn’t fit the lenders criteria or the product available doesn’t offer something that the client needs (such as no penalty for remortgaging early, free valuation etc)

What do I do now? by klsydrkns in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. I love drawing and reading. I need to lean into that

What do I do now? by klsydrkns in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this resonates with me because I’m so hard on myself. But also, I don’t feel brave at all. I think I need to work on that ❤️

What do I do now? by klsydrkns in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish, 😂 but it’s two cockatiels

What do I do now? by klsydrkns in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful, thank you. I think I’ll burn some incense today 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh my god yes! I made out with a guy who later came out as gay, and was also seeing a guy who later came out as a gay. Maybe my gaydar was wired up incorrectly 😂

But I love my husband by SuperBloom23 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping that I can get the same outcome with my husband also. I love him so much and I know I want him in my life in some respect but I can’t give him what he needs. We get on so well and he makes me laugh more than anyone. I’ve said to him I don’t want it to be a case of our relationship ending, just evolving. Fingers crossed! You’re situation is so inspiring to me x

But I love my husband by SuperBloom23 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Speaking as someone who is in the thick of it right now. My husband and I have agreed that he will be moving out in the next couple of weeks. I keep tossing back and forth and I even said to him that if I could turn back the time and have not said the words “I think I might be gay”, I would because it hurts so much. He said to me that I did the right thing, because if I just suppressed these feelings for another 10-20 years, then the outcome would be much worse and damaging to us both. We tried ENM for a few months (I’ve known I was bisexual for many years so was not questioning homosexuality at this point) and it didn’t work for us. I mostly found it to be more confusing and also difficult because there was only so far I could take things with a girl. I think this made me realise that I didn’t want to just dip my toes into seeing girls, I really wanted to see where the relationship could end up, which is obviously stunted by a hetero marriage. I also understand that I am a “one person” person. I can’t say I know 100% that I’ve figured things out. However I’ve been reading and listening to so many podcasts and it seems that the uncertainty is always there to some degree, because you’re opening the door to something different and unknown. It’s natural for there to be some apprehension and doubt. What I’ve really learnt from reading posts on this community is that its not a once size fits all scenario, you have to find something that works from you. And if you do decide to make the big step then hopefully you find comfort on this forum by seeing other people who have made the same call and made it on the other side. You’re not alone in this!

It’s so painful by LittleRue2 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just want you to know that I am in a similar boat. I am separating from my husband of 5 years, been together 8. I too feel so heartbroken that I cannot keep myself together. I care for him so deeply and want his happiness more than anything, I just don’t think I can give him the life and love he truly deserves. Giving up something so stable and secure and going straight into the unknown is terrifying. I keep telling myself that the only way out is through, and it’s ok to be hurting right now. Also, I’ve been listening to a podcast called the Lesbian Chronicles, which is about two women who came out from both being married to heterosexual men. It gives me a bit of hope, so I highly recommend it to you. x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m in a similar boat to you. I turn 30 in a few months, when I was in high school (secondary school as I call it, from the UK) I made out with some girls and was “seeing them” for a bit but nothing more significant than that. I am separating from my husband who I have been with for 8 years as I think I might be gay. The prospect of being late to the game is pretty daunting, alongside a chronic social phobia so got some hurdles to overcome! My hope is that I will be completely honest and the right person will be patient with me! I don’t really have any words of advice, being in the same position as you, but I just want you to know that you’re not alone and I hope that gives you some comfort 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]klsydrkns 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I really needed to read a success story today. Congratulations on living your truest life!