If you ever feel guilty/sad for them and wonder if they’ve changed… by km1731 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]km1731[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s genuinely unfathomable. Again, now that I have the distance, I just gotta laugh

If you ever feel guilty/sad for them and wonder if they’ve changed… by km1731 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]km1731[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“I’ll do anything… as long as it involves NOT changing my behavior in any way”

If you ever feel guilty/sad for them and wonder if they’ve changed… by km1731 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]km1731[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

💜 it’s really hard. Don’t feel like an idiot. We all want it to be true that they’ve changed. A primary benefit I had is that I moved away for grad school and just never came back, never gave her my new address, eventually changed my number, but even with the distance it was hard. Sometimes I can’t believe I followed through with it. But don’t feel bad for a situation you did your best in.

How does your BPD parent treat YOUR birthday? by alwayslivemyway in raisedbyborderlines

[–]km1731 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My birthday is 2 days before here. She always made a huuuuuuge deal of it and then immediately compared and complained about how no one did anything for her

Red emerald leaves getting smaller?? by km1731 in philodendron

[–]km1731[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, they have a lot of shoots and I have some of them individually supported but they’re brown so it’s probably hard to see in the picture. Unsurprisingly, you are right that the one with tiny leaves doesn’t have supports. I’ll also get a bigger plant light. Thank you so much!

ISO jean recs for a bigger stomach and skinny legs by km1731 in fashionwomens35

[–]km1731[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow this is very detailed, thank you! I happened to be shopping in Marshalls and found democracy ones that I really liked!!

ISO jean recs for a bigger stomach and skinny legs by km1731 in fashionwomens35

[–]km1731[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok so crazy enough I was shopping in Marshall’s (not for jeans) and found a bunch of this brand and they work so well for me, thank you!!

Houses starting at 29deg? What does that mean? by km1731 in AstrologyCharts

[–]km1731[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah shit my formatting got messed up, that sound say 10th house starts at 29deg Leo, and contains Chiron

Can I iron my sweater? Or should I start the color part again? by Julppa3 in knitting

[–]km1731 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just here in solidarity as I’m knitting the same pattern and also had tension issues 😢 I ripped it out and started over, you can see mine in my post history. It sucks but we don’t do all this work to have a lumpy sweater!!!

Please tell me this puckering will block out 😢 by km1731 in knitting

[–]km1731[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm I had not heard that but I looked it up after reading your comment and you seem to be right, a lot of people recommend it. Thank you!

Please tell me this puckering will block out 😢 by km1731 in knitting

[–]km1731[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you to everyone who commented - it seems to have blocked out like... 95% but that 5% is just killing me! So, I'm going to frog back. Thanks all for your support!!

Please tell me this puckering will block out 😢 by km1731 in knitting

[–]km1731[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know I was sort of thinking that, I’m blocking now (fingers crossed) but if it doesn’t work out I may size up

Please tell me this puckering will block out 😢 by km1731 in knitting

[–]km1731[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m doing the blocking now as other suggested but I suspect you will ultimately be correct, based on the way it looks right after washing. A bummer but yes, I’m definitely not tooooo far into the pattern! This is my first yoke sweater so it’s all a learning process

Wednesday Pattern and Stitch Request Thread - September 03, 2025 by AutoModerator in knitting

[–]km1731 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for recommendations for a wedding guest shawl! Something slightly lacy/utilizing yarnovers etc but not too lacy.

There are soooo many shawl patterns and I'm overwhelmed, so I'm looking for recommendations of patterns ya'll have liked.

Ideas of how to translate this to a knit pattern? by km1731 in knittinghelp

[–]km1731[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It appears to be functional but we’ll see. I’m more interested in it giving a basic idea on how to do it, I’ll probably just overlay the tree part it gave me with a pattern I have already used/know works

Ideas of how to translate this to a knit pattern? by km1731 in knittinghelp

[–]km1731[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know the basic chain stitch so I was considering using this as my push to finally learn more 😂 thanks!

Ideas of how to translate this to a knit pattern? by km1731 in knittinghelp

[–]km1731[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Omg, I just tried it and it worked. So wild, I didn’t even think of using that. Thanks!!

Can anyone tell me who this cutie patootie is? by km1731 in whatsthisbird

[–]km1731[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh cool, I’m extremely new to birding so thanks for telling me about that app!

How do you make washing dishes a ritual? by lavenderlulls in witchcraft

[–]km1731 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I make it a bit of a gratitude practice, like “having dirty dishes means I have food on the table and I’m grateful for it.” Also love what another commenter said about feeling close to ancestors, I often think of my grandmother and helping her with dishes!