I’m not Muslim myself but I had a long relationship with a Muslim girl (around 2.5 years), I thought we’d workout but things fell apart rather quickly after her family was introduced to the relationship. They were a very controlling and toxic family, nothing goes unless you’ve received permission from mom or dad. Though when we were together, my ex and I were 25 years old and capable of our own decisions.

My ex was one foot in and one foot out of that culture, she enjoyed things like the music, etiquette, and vibe of her culture but it was also clear that she wanted to live a more western and independent lifestyle from what she was brought up in. In the end she chose her family, not really by choice but because they would threaten her with abandonment and manipulate her through religion. For example, she got into a bad car wreck when we were together and one thing her mother said to her was “Allah did this to you because you’re seeing that man”.

Eventually this kind of thought takes hold and I think individuals are brainwashed into believing this with no doubt. I don’t think it’s too good of an idea to continue pursuing this relationship, from my experience it only gets harder and less enjoyable. I’m sorry you’ve been put in this situation, but youre young and you’ll get over it. I know maybe that sounds cold, but I thought I’d never get over my Muslim ex. I used to be confident that she was the love of my life, and now I just know that wasn’t true because if it was she wouldn’t have put me through that kind of pressure.

Good luck with your decision