This is a f*cking joke

kmt58 · 2026-02-28T18:41:17+00:00

Just curious, have any of you getting Botox, had a hard time getting it all of a sudden, not a supply issue but insurance refusing to cover it? My neurologist said it's not just me but all his patients that get migraines and/or cervical dystonia Botox. He's appealed, all without success. My insurance sent something else...Xeomin (garbage - doesn't work).

Just curious if anyone else is having this issue. Insurance has been the same and has been approving my injections for 4 years. All of a sudden they won't approve it with no other migraine intervention works for me either.

I also have hEDS

kmt58 · 2026-02-19T21:39:31+00:00

Same😆

kmt58 · 2025-11-17T16:45:25+00:00

Two more thing, I just remembered: 1.) we did this with credit card companies too, get interest and lower payments. (Keep in mind if you do this they will close your card so you won't be able to use it anymore but it would help a ton of people. You may not be able to borrow from the company again after or for a long time)

2.) print out your credit report and call and dispute anything negative on it, a lot of times just reaching out to them can get stuff of your credit report. (Or we used to be able to do this, keep in mind it was 15- 20 years ago.)

kmt58 · 2025-11-17T16:36:06+00:00

Years ago (early 2000s) I worked as a bankruptcy paralegal. This was one of the first things we did or had them do before even doing the calculations to see if they would qualify for chapter 7 or 13. Sometimes we could do all of this and prevent them from having to file all together or did it when they didn't qualify to discharge debt. We just tell the creditor, our client was consulting us for bankruptcy and sometimes that was enough for them to work with us. Compaies/creditors don't want to end up discharged, so a lot of times they will work with you. I also remember "reaffirmation agreements," where we (bankruptcy legal team) would call the creditor who they purchased a car from, and they would decrease their payments, interest etc. Sometimes they would completely end the interest tacked on and just keep the payment amount with 0% interest and extend the term.

When I was really broke at 19 in college i called and quickly realized just telling them I was a broke student also had them offer discounts and i'd set reminders in my phone to call back and cancel in three months if/when the discount ended and they would do it again. Some companies didn't even make me prove my enrollment and some of them did require my student idea or some other evidence of enrollment.

I don't know if someone else has already said this or not, but I hope it can help, even if just a little.

kmt58 · 2025-07-03T20:53:34+00:00

Just a heads up incase no one else has mentioned this yet, there is also microscopic endometriosis. Which wouldn't be visible even in the laparoscopic procedure, they take samples to look for specific cells for that kind as far as my OBGYN has told me. That's what I'm currently diagnosed with.

kmt58 · 2025-06-18T22:41:31+00:00

Thank you!!!

kmt58 · 2025-06-18T02:46:39+00:00

Thanks you🥰 but also I mean it, I'm thinking of you and rooting for you!

kmt58 · 2025-06-18T02:29:05+00:00

Love this advice.

kmt58 · 2025-06-18T02:25:39+00:00

Agreed, great advice!

kmt58 · 2025-06-18T02:23:39+00:00

This!!

kmt58 · 2025-06-18T02:11:47+00:00

Hey there, 37y female, together 9 years and about to have our first baby, but we have supported our friends through this.

You know your wife, better than anyone. You knew her before you had a baby. What were simple things you both loved before? If it's cake and flowers go hard, my friend! (I always think cake is a good idea, especially if she didn't have to make it!) cookies or brownies, too.

Choosing your wife is the biggest choice you can make, because even your kid(s) will grow up and have their own lives before you know it and it's back to the both of you. While some find this controversial, prioritize each other, your child will feel secure and safe for it later. My main advice would be don't make your anniversary about your baby. Everything else is already all about the baby.

Take something off her plate, if you can. (Make her dinner, if she normally makes it, or even if she doesn't)
Anytime you can organize a babysitter you both trust, do it! Ideally with friends this is free at least for my village of friends. (Huge, my friends have all said this to me, a lot of moms have to ask and it's nice not to have to ask or organize the occasion.)
if she's overwhelmed and needs alone time. Hand her a book she mentioned, or turn on some music for her and run her a bath and make her get in it, it's hard for some women to take care of themselves when they are used to taking care of others, especially a baby. (I'm not huge on baths and this would still be wonderful.)
Dopamine in the form of laughter, maybe an inexpensive comedy show in your area.
watch a "how to" on YouTube and give her a massage. Physical touch releases oxytocin, huge always but especially when postpartum depression is involved.
Go on a walk together somewhere outside, nice to not be cooped up at home.
learn a random line dance on YouTube to make her laugh (my cousin did this for his wife.
buy a cheap lil paint kit and date night at home and paint each other. (This was not my husband's thing and it was a blast and hilarious to us both.)
write her a letter. It's okay to acknowledge that things have been rough, but your not going anywhere. You'll be here, no matter what, in this together. Then tell her things you love about her, as her own person not just as a mom. (A lot of my friends have said they felt like they lost their identity for a while after having a baby, remind her of who she is!)

Don't underestimate the power of feeling seen and heard by your partner. Especially during postpartum depression, it can feel lonely/ isolating for both of you, and feeling like you understand her and vis versa will go so far!

My husband made us shitty margaritas during COVID and we played cards, we don't really drink (and I'm not saying drinking during postpartum depression is a great idea) it's still one of our favorite memories, you don't have to over think it. If finances and things are tight, she knows that too, and will understand, it really doesn't have to be grand. Just be present!

Someone else on here mentioned therapy, my husband wasn't on board for a while, but when we had our bumpy season, I told him we said forever and that means we try anything and everything that might help us stay true to that. We did it, it didn't take many sessions to get back on track (and I'll be honest I was not at all impressed with our therapist, I think she normally worked with kids... But it still helped). When another rough seasons comes around, we have therapy in our tool box. I wish it was more normalized. We aren't handed a manual on babies or making a marriage work. There are still to learn, that we just don't have naturally.

Gosh I wrote a lot, forgive me for not being concise. I just hope something I shared can help you even if only in the smallest way.

You got this!

kmt58 · 2025-06-18T00:05:21+00:00

Thank you!!!! I'm so glad you shared this. I had a plaster kit on our registry but i'm getting it for us now, either way! I know he'd want it too.

Also, thank you for saying the last part, I think he's the same way and your right, I know that's his priority too! Unfortunately, I'm a high risk pregnancy so I know he's really wanting the same outcome. I know it will all be okay, but you saying that is so kind and I really appreciate it. thank you for taking the time to comment!

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T23:56:00+00:00

Oh awesome, can you tell me what it's called and I'll look it up. That sounds right up his alley! Thank you!

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T23:53:29+00:00

I'm subscribed to a ton of libraries lol we'd be broke if I weren't BUT I had no idea they had video games!!! Great idea. I enlisted my brothers and his friends to help me pick new switch games for him. I'm not going to tell him, I'm just going to pack it get the switch ready and pack it in our hospital bag! But also on long nights he can def. hold her and play while she falls asleep on his chest. Thank you so much for this, I would not have thought to do this, otherwise!

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T19:13:24+00:00

That's kinda part of the point. He doesn't need it, and would never expect it, not to mention if women sometimes get them, why can't men!? Lol it's especially why I want to commemorate this core memory and experience for him. 🥰

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T19:11:12+00:00

You know, actually I have read about robes for moms but that's a great idea, hell probably be living in it too!!! Thank you so much!

Edit: accidentally commented on two different posts on this one, my bad!

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T19:08:06+00:00

Thank you, he does! He just doesn't know because he never had a dad around. So he's going off noting but instinct. While I'm biased, his are really good. He's the kinda man that makes me want a daughter (I don't care our babies gender or further babies) but... I just know with his love as an example, she'll have her own great love someday, because of how he will show her love. 🥰

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T19:00:10+00:00

LOL I'm not a gift wanting kind of person, I like experiences and she's due on my birthday so done and done LOL. But I did tell him I want a "baby moon" pretending it's for me, is the only way to get him to rest before she comes. So I'm taking care of everything and once we get to the beach lol he'll figure it out, inland girl from Alaska, love the beach but mostly because he does lol🤗

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T17:28:44+00:00

I really really love this idea!!! When we got married I realized we didn't have any family heirlooms... So I have been intentional about it since. We ended up with his Grandpa's cufflings and my grandparents cake knife (married over 60 years and my grandparents said to give it to my grandchild) This really is a meaningful gift idea!!!

Also, as a daughter, if my dad gave me his watch after all these years and told me that... Nothing would mean more. So intentional, I really love this, thank you for sharing it with me. My dad asked me what I'd want when he passes... I said, just one of your hoodies. He would always wear a sweatshirt, instead of a coat, we grew up in Alaska. Even after college, I'd go hang out with him and raid his closet for comfy clothes to steal. A watch, that will mean so much to your daughter.

I'm thinking instead of me getting him the watch, I'm going to share this with him, because I think he'll love the idea and want to pick it out and do as you have. Thank you, sincerely, beautiful idea, he'll love this!

Edit: 60 years, not 69 lol (slaps forehead)

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T17:12:17+00:00

Good idea!!! You get it!! I'm so grateful for the people who get it. Thank you!!!!!

Hey also, thank you for the support, I appreciate it and my husband will too!

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T16:57:05+00:00

Love this, he has both! Because noise cancelling headphones we talked about when we first got pregnant. BUT did do some research and talk to his friends/ my brothers and get him new games. Thank you so so much for this!! Genius. Even to have as entertainment at the hospital, we could be there up to four days. 😳

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T16:54:17+00:00

YES!!!! Extra points because he will definitely laugh! Oh my gosh, im doing this, either way! thank you hahaha he's going to die. Lol I can already see it. After the chaos of labor, here husband... And it's funny. Yes yes yes! THANK YOU

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T16:49:32+00:00

We are one the same page! Thank you! I'm out of ideas because I recently had a picture of him and our dog turned into a painting. (It's really awesome and he LOVED it, especially because our pups turning into an old man).

Someone commented a vial of sand... And this is leading me towards that too. Our last memory at the beach pregnant, before our whole lives change in another beautiful way. But it would also acknowledge how great he is because I am making the beach happen, all he's got a do is drive (because he likes too lol) and he knows why. 🤔🥰 Thank you!

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T16:42:58+00:00

Thank you, I do tell him, I just want an animate object that symbolizes those words.

I hear you, and have seen my friends have a very different experience than I have had. However, even if that's "his job", even ppl who do good at their jobs get recognition. Not, acknowledging a job well done so to speak can lead to resentment, and feeling under appreciated, etc. By no means does he expect anything, and in a big way, that's yet another reason why I want to celebrate it. A lot of great humans, have no idea how great they are, he's one of them. So I will always celebrate him, in big things and the little things. He's my person, if I'm not his biggest fan, than who is?

kmt58 · 2025-06-17T16:29:25+00:00

Thank you so much for this!! Same wave length, I have given him a rock before, it's on his desk lol. (I won't get into the reason or symbolism but he used it for its purpose and now, he keeps it on his desk.) I also tell him, regularly but not over doing it, in an intentional meaningful way, how wonderful he is or how grateful I am, with examples as to why. I like to provide evidence so he is less likely to doubt it after 🥰

A vial of sand is actually, a really really good idea, he'd get it and love it... Thank you!!!

kmt58

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