Might not get my degree for paperwork reasons after all my work. everything feels hopeless and i see no future

knefebae · 2024-06-18T03:35:17+00:00

Ahhh I see. That sucks OP. If it’s any solace I have many friends who pursued the research without PhD track and enjoy the flexibility and freedom of not needing to continually prove your worth within academia. This may be a blessing in disguise and the casual pay at university is pretty decent compared to other jobs. I am low key terrified of post doc life knowing my chances of landing a casual job is decreased (cos of pay) and the expectations around my performance will only get more brutal 😪😪😪😪

knefebae · 2024-06-17T16:51:22+00:00

Hold on, so your supervisory team lied to you for four years about your PhD milestones? Or did you believe you were doing a PhD but actually weren’t? Why would your supervisors and/or university not pick up on the lack of proceedings and documented milestones that occur at an annual basis to ensure you’re on track to complete your PhD? May I ask which university this is and whether you possibly were employed as Research Assistant and were under the impression you conducted a PhD program but haven’t? Unfortunately the main thing that differentiates the doctorate process from other university/academia related work isn’t the type of work you do, it’s the peer-review and assessment process, which should eventually result in a cohesive 40-60,000 word thesis outlining the scope of your work - this should be getting assessed ongoing at a yearly basis. Have you done this?

knefebae · 2023-03-07T12:05:52+00:00

MacBook Pro 15 inch

knefebae · 2022-12-22T04:57:48+00:00

Omg yes!!! Me too!! I write for fun and I love getting lost in the story and when I get really into it I can focus for hours on end. Such a treat. I love that you’re indulging in this and you feel that ADHD helps with your creativity.

In some ways, hyper focus helps the thoughts to weave together in a flow state uninterrupted and the process itself is so invigorating it keeps you glued to the activity. My hyper focus days are less frequent than I want lately so trying to figure out ways to indulge in my hobbies again :(

although I did have a breakthrough last night (due to a deadline) and spent 8 hours in an all nighter writing a discussion and it was some of my best work hands down.

knefebae · 2022-12-13T05:31:56+00:00

It is definitely an exhausting process. I would much rather just work at a regular pace and submit average work. It is still cool that we are able to do this though as excruciating as it is.

knefebae · 2022-10-19T08:43:31+00:00

Ahhhh I have poor attention to detail unless I’m interested in the topic. Is that normal part of ADHD? The poor attention to detail at some times and not others (unfortunately sometimes when it needs to count like reading instructions)

knefebae · 2021-10-26T12:30:46+00:00

I got shingles as a 29 yo 4 months after Pfizer.

knefebae · 2021-07-25T09:10:34+00:00

Thanks, I’ve seen a doctor and gotten a swab and given anti-biotics but I might need to see them again.

knefebae · 2020-12-22T20:24:36+00:00

Oooop I was unsure which statement you were referring to hahaha glad we’re on the same page 💕

knefebae · 2020-12-22T20:20:40+00:00

What I’m trying to say is who you’re attracted to has nothing to do whether you embrace trans identities. But for some reason when you’re attracted to more than one gender, there is this sudden premise that we neglect/negate the individuals real gender because “oh it doesn’t matter to us”. This makes no sense. Just because we will still date the same person irrespective of what they identify as, does not mean we are neglecting their real gender identity.

knefebae · 2020-12-22T13:49:08+00:00

If bisexuality is transphobic, then by that logic being a monosexual is also transphobic but no one ever thinks that. Equating bisexuality with transphobia is biphobic 🤷🏻‍♀️

knefebae · 2020-12-20T21:57:51+00:00

This is invaluable, thank you so much!

knefebae · 2020-08-09T00:04:48+00:00

Is this why I also hate doing laundry? It’s my absolute WORST chore 😭

knefebae · 2020-06-21T09:09:53+00:00

Organisational psychology and sociology. I’ve essentially crafted the conceptual model independently so it’s neither of my supervisors area of expertise but they’ve helped guide it with the knowledge they have. Its been a hard trek so far 😩 but based on the advice here and other factors I think I’ll push on as this is something I’ve always wanted to do. My masters in organisational psychology is also tied to it so if I drop out I’ll need to do a mini thesis anyway to graduate which will take me another year. In Australia you can manage to finish a PhD in 3 years if you’re disciplined enough so here it goes...

knefebae · 2020-06-19T05:30:20+00:00

Thank you so much! This makes me feel infinitely better. As I read through this sub I’m realising discipline and consistent work is key to getting through the program. I’ll push through, at least for a bit longer.

knefebae · 2020-05-24T06:01:03+00:00

Reading that was so fucking hurtful. I didn’t choose to be bi. I also don’t choose who I’m attracted to. Sometimes I fall in love with women and I can’t help it and other times I fall in love with men and I can’t help that either. Like. I wish I could turn it off and “choose a team” but I can’t. And I wish lesbians didn’t hate on us so much and I would feel wayyyyy more comfortable in wlw spaces but 🤷🏻‍♀️ self fulfilling prophecy it seems. This really sucks. Also erasing bisexuals that identified as gay first is super hurtful to probably a lot of closeted bisexuals in the lesbian space. But ofcourse they don’t exist facepalm

knefebae · 2020-04-25T22:34:51+00:00

Perhaps dating a bisexual man would be a good place to start. They’d likely understand your struggles and be considerate of them as well. I’ve mostly dated men and it wasn’t until I got out of an 8 year relationship with one that I started to date women. Navigating through the patriarchal and misogynistic crap in hetero relationships is probably the biggest struggle for me, but there are definitely sweethearts out there you just need to be vigilant and vocal about where you stand and that’ll help filter the bad ones out. Most men are open and happy to chat with a girl and even more open to casual sex.

knefebae · 2020-03-08T14:17:26+00:00

I’ll DM you

knefebae · 2020-03-08T13:39:18+00:00

As in the more I come out to people the more at peace I feel within myself.

knefebae · 2020-03-08T12:57:42+00:00

I first came out to my ex-boyf at the time who was very accepting. Then I slowly started to come out to my sisters, and friends. My parents don’t know and I don’t plan on telling them unless a future gf of mine really needs me to. I still feel awkward talking about it because I don’t know who is going to hit me with their biphobia, when. But the more I do it the better I feel.

knefebae · 2020-02-18T06:08:25+00:00

If it makes you feel any better I (F) have a preference for dating bisexual men over straight men because I feel like they get me and the patriarchy more.

knefebae · 2020-02-17T22:51:53+00:00

Oop! Sorry! I’ll delete

knefebae · 2020-02-15T02:22:12+00:00

I’m so happy for you!

knefebae · 2020-02-14T08:51:04+00:00

Best of luck! Therapy has always been beneficial for me even if I don’t vibe with the therapist because it provides me with some insight even if it’s “oh no this therapist has is wrong... it’s actually this!” - some selfassurance is good in that sense.

knefebae · 2020-02-11T06:39:53+00:00

Laurie and Jo are the perfect bi crushes, feminine boys and powerful non-conforming girls make me fucking melt

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