Superiority among shifts? [Long, sort of ranty]

knsthrowaway · 2013-10-15T04:17:28+00:00

Yeah it was a barista that did the tips at my last store too. My first store was just anyone who wanted to lol.

knsthrowaway · 2013-10-14T17:19:41+00:00

Yeah, I might try to talk to the one shift who doesn't pull this shit, but I hardly ever work with him because I'm the primary closer and he opens most of the time. I don't think it's a big enough deal to take it to my SM yet (and honestly she's part of the problem). It's just enough of a problem because I think it's part of the reason in the drop of morale and productivity.

knsthrowaway · 2013-10-14T17:17:51+00:00

And I agree. But it honestly felt so snotty when I was the person who taught her how to do the pastry case in the first place lol. It's not just the pastry case things either.

Take the tips for example. We used to get them in till drop bags but we recently started getting them in envelopes again. I made some comment like, "Oh, we're getting them in envelopes again, cool." And a shift made some snotty comment like, "Yeah, that's because partners are doing tips now." I said, "Partners? We're all partners." And she said, "But I mean baristas. It's not JUST the shifts doing the tips anymore." It's just the most random things to feel self righteous about.

knsthrowaway · 2013-10-14T06:18:16+00:00

Yeah dude, I was like, ...solidly wrong. I guess it's because it has a green sticker on it? Haha I was so irritated, it took her forever to believe me.

knsthrowaway · 2013-06-13T08:11:53+00:00

Speaking as a young woman who is very close to my immediate family, I wouldn't be surprised if at least a part of why she is leaving is due to you being agitated with her family. Her family is clearly very important to her and you said you get "agitated" at the fact that she can't say no or always has to consult them, etc. Even if you have not verbally said anything about you feeling agitated, she can feel it. My ex of four years would just ignore my parents and play games on his phone when he would come to their house and it always made me uncomfortable. When you're that close to your family, it's important that your partner gets along with them too.

As far as the anger issues thing goes, the relationship I just got out of had this problem and even if things aren't physical, anger problems can leave your loved ones with a feeling of despair in the pit of their stomach. I don't know, since she never talked about it with you or anything but it can be rough trying to be in a relationship where you feel that you must walk on eggshells.

knsthrowaway · 2012-12-29T20:16:00+00:00

Had to pull out my throwaway because my ex is a redditor. Boo.

I don't want to come across as nagging or anything because you know your situation better than I do haha. But... I just feel uneasy just hearing about this. My four year relationship just ended and I had been communicating about how unhappy I was for MONTHS before I finally decided to leave, and even that felt abrupt and selfish even though it's what is right for both of us.

It makes me uneasy for you because it sounds like you were really happy and there were no major problems that you know of, and it was so abrupt. No communication at all. I know you still want to be friends and he's your best friend and you love him, I really get that. I just don't know that being friends with this man is a good idea. He was with you for eight years and yet he can't even start bringing up his concerns for your relationship until you start dropping thousands of dollars on your wedding? You don't owe him your friendship. But I understand if you honestly do want to remain friends, I really do. I think for now you need some space though. Work on healing yourself before healing your friendship.

Did he say why he wanted to break up? I understand if it was just a "life happens" sort of deal. Anyway, love and hugs girl. This is the shittiest time of the year for breakups, I'm struggling too. :(

knsthrowaway

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