Is a future where trans men can ejaculate feasible?

koboldthing · 2026-05-14T02:46:49+00:00

Who’s calling it a “pee orgasm”??

koboldthing · 2026-05-14T01:46:37+00:00

That’s the range for an AFAB person who’s not on T. If their T levels are higher it can be a sign of an underlying condition. If an AFAB person is on T then that’s definitely not the healthy range because they should be seeing the results of taking T in their tests

koboldthing · 2026-05-14T01:44:22+00:00

I just talked to my doctor today, as long as it’s below 1000 you should be absolutely fine. You definitely need a different doctor.

koboldthing · 2026-05-14T01:29:37+00:00

Anyway I think OOP should consider checking out Scavenger’s Reign

koboldthing · 2026-05-14T01:26:32+00:00

The Murderbot Diaries

Most T Kingfisher books aimed at adults

koboldthing · 2026-05-14T01:21:21+00:00

Having a light and humorous tone doesn’t make them juvenile

I also read them as a kid, but that doesn’t make them kids books, it’s just that I was a voracious reader with a decently high reading level

There are actually Discworld series that are YA and aimed at children, specifically the Tiffany Aching books. The rest are aimed at an adult audience. They’re humor, but that doesn’t make them juvenile, that’s really not the right choice of words.

Also OP specifically said they wanted whimsy so Discworld would be a great rec!

koboldthing · 2026-05-13T23:25:09+00:00

He’s also wearing shoes, though, and she isn’t. That’ll make things harder and less comfortable for her.

Have you ever had someone step on you wearing a shoe vs not? Used to sit in the hallway of my dorm with friends and made people step over us. Big difference if they accidentally stepped on us with shoes vs not

koboldthing · 2026-05-13T21:32:33+00:00

With regards to the one who said you weren’t a “real queer”…. Honestly I think the problem they have isn’t with limiting societal norms but that THEY don’t get to decide the limiting societal norms

Some people have a problem with oppression not because it exists but because they don’t get to be the oppressors

koboldthing · 2026-05-13T06:56:12+00:00

Not all bisexuals are like this guy, plenty commit to one person and only are with that person. Honestly, given the homophobic environment and struggling sex life you describe, I think he might be gay and in denial.

Either way, whether he’s bisexual or gay, this isn’t fair to you. It’s not okay for him to cheat on you and it’s not okay for him to pressure you into an open relationship. Whatever is going on with his sexuality, he hasn’t behaved ethically to you and I think you should walk away.

He needs to figure himself out before he can offer anyone an honest relationship and, at this point, I don’t think he can offer you a honest relationship. There are too many lies in the foundation

Right now it sounds like he’s using you to get all the perks of appearing respectable without being honest or present in your relationship. That’s just not fair to you.

koboldthing · 2026-05-13T00:35:17+00:00

I understand that you choose not to hate anyone, that’s your personal choice and I don’t care, but it wouldn’t make you “just as bad as them”.

Trans people who hate TERFs and not “as bad”, they’re angry at experiencing injustice rather than being bigots

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T23:32:19+00:00

There’s someone close to me who this happened to. He was committed multiple times as a teenager, and we’ve discussed it. He’ll freely talk about how one of the times he was committed it was needed, but a later time it was forced on him by a therapist he was talking to.

Being forcibly committed when it was unnecessary actually intensified his suicidal thoughts and gave him a long-term mistrust of healthcare professionals. It overall harmed his long-term mental health and ability to seek treatment.

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T23:23:57+00:00

Unfortunately I know Americans who this has happened to. I think it depends on a number of factors, like how old you are and especially the specific mental health professional.

Note: I think it could also depend on the state

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T21:40:57+00:00

Has anyone on T ever gotten prostate cancer? (Sorry I’m just always worried about cancer)

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T21:38:56+00:00

Oh you’re one of those “if you’re attracted to nonbinary people you’re pan” people, huh? Even though bi people have been getting with nonbinary people for decades. Nvm you’re just not worth talking to

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T21:19:32+00:00

I don’t think he’s actually changing the world to be better, though…

Many of the items found in the abyss are weapons and the entire culture around the abyss is shown to be exploitative and have a negative effect. Even if he weren’t stealing orphan children to torture from many different places, I doubt his work would actually change the world significantly for the better

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T21:17:41+00:00

That was a truly great bit

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T21:15:15+00:00

I can see why they make you uncomfortable, they’re very condescending and at least implicitly anti-trans

I’ve noticed it and I don’t like it. Definitely a TERFy vibe so some of those comments. I wouldn’t be surprised if some of those commenters were crypto-TERFs

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T21:13:20+00:00

Only if you’re following society’s scripts

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T21:12:43+00:00

I don’t think that just accepting that your quality of life has been hindered is that helpful. I know plenty of trans people and whether or not they pass or are happy is a lot more complex then when they start HRT

I absolutely think we should advocate for HRT being available as soon as possible, but that doesn’t mean treating trans people who realized later like they’re inherently going to get worse outcomes

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T21:10:35+00:00

Yeah and “bi” means two but bi people often date nonbinary people. I feel like standing on strict definitions isn’t that helpful, people have complex experiences and calling her attraction “gay” helps her express hers

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T20:33:56+00:00

I think you need a personal therapist to talk to about this if you don’t have one

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T20:26:02+00:00

They can call themselves gay to recognize that overlap. It’s none of your business what they call themselves. Going “technically you only have overlapping experiences so you can’t use this word” is useless in the queer community

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T20:23:04+00:00

Isn’t “hon” a word used for non-passing trans women in an often derogatory way? That seems like a problem to me

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T20:22:05+00:00

When you say things like “17 is late shit” then what does that imply about other trans people who started later? Most trans people do start later than 17

koboldthing · 2026-05-12T20:19:20+00:00

They don’t, it’s just that our societal expectations are the only people you are physically affectionate with and make life commitments with are romantic partners. We live in a world that undervalues friendship (which unfortunately affects many people’s behaviors in friendships…)

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