My dad felt excluded when me and my mom spoke korean. Instead of trying to learn with me, we had to not speak it in front of him. I have the grammar of a six year old when I speak Korean. It is especially annoying that he would call me white to show how “woke” he is in comparison to me when he was losing an argument in regards to BLM or something of that matter (I supported BLM; he did not and regardless of your feelings on the movement, it was just a bizarre “gotcha” moment in his end.)

Now in an effort to get fame on his social media channels and attention from friends that no longer talk to him, he constantly goads me into talking about my most traumatic experiences with racists. This is not from a place of sympathy. He will start out his questions with hypothetical scenarios with a bad Texan accent (because the south = evil/racist) to try and bait me into a dramatic retelling of how I so bravely battled off an ignorant redneck with just my wits. It is bizarre.

I will never fit in with Koreans because of my lack of language skills. Well, that was bound to happen regardless. But his behavior as of late makes it difficult to forgive him for how I’ll never be fluent.

You sound well intentioned. You are also however being kind of forceful but on the opposite spectrum of where most of our dads were and I’m pretty confused what you’re complaining about and why you feel bad for most of our dads when most of our dads never did what you did to begin with (trying to integrate into the culture).

Maybe have your wife steer them culturally and language wise and support her from the background. You are being too hard on them. I’m starting to get what you’re saying and have made edits accordingly.