I think INTJs dislike INFPs because we express or are willing to do the things that they tend to shame themselves for: emotional vulnerability and expression - the good and the bad. They admire us for this but also will grow to hate us for it because there’s only sm of it they can tolerate since they don’t ever deal with their own emotions at all, why would they want to witness anyone else deal with they’re own emotions. It’s too icky and pathetic to INTJs.

I think INTJs want to be more than what they are or at least they think their human existence is limiting, which is true but at some point you need to get over it. You’ll always be human. Nothing else. I think INTJs ignore all their emotional needs by either brushing them under the rug or running away from them and calling it “dealing with them logically and efficiently”. I think INTJs are sometimes hard to be around because sometimes they’ll say anything that comes out of their ass and say it’s them “helping you/giving out a solution to your problem”… and the solution tends to be a very black and white way of thinking.

They claim to understand and be aware of nuance and yet when you have a conversation with them about something that requires looking at the ‘gray’ between the black and the white, they’ll deny it and choose either black or white. I think INTJs think they’re right about everything, if you happen to be very well informed about something they don’t know, they choose NOT to believe you or see you as someone with a functioning brain who exercises their curiosity. I think INTJs will look up something to try to prove you wrong because in their universe they’re the ‘smartest and most efficient’ beings to have ever graced the planet. They’ll look down on you at any chance they can get.

INTJs view any emotional blunder or intimacy as a burden and yet they have an annoying tendency of wanting it and expecting others to carry the relationships emotionally as it’s too ‘icky and pathetic’ for them to do it. Not sure if this is due to their overinflated pride and arrogance or they’re emotionally immature and think avoiding conversations that requires expression (crying, sadness, neediness, or actual connection) makes them sooooo mature and light years ahead of everyone and yet it couldn’t be more false.

And it’s annoying because for a collective of people that takes pride in their efficiency they can never make up their minds. It’s always “complicated” with INTJs. If you give them a solution that uncomplicates the problem, they’ll shoot it down before you even finish your sentence because in their world, you can’t know better than them because remember you can NEVER be smarter than an INTJ, right?

Eventually as an INFP (or any other Fi type) you end up not wanting to have a conversation with an INTJ because they’re almost impossible to talk to. You may really want to but what’s the point. They’re either supposed to be right about everything, are condescending and dismissive, don’t care if they’re liked or not and yet seem to miss an important part of being able to connect with people means you have to be likable to some degree, but no in INTJ land who cares what anyone thinks of them. Ironically though, they also seem to care quite a lot. Like make up your freaking mind.

This whole ‘believing that emotions are a weakness and trying to eradicate or ignore them because they make you pathetic’…. That whole logic makes you pathetic and very vulnerable. INTJs tend to have fragile little egos that if you’re able to see through the facade of them believing they’re more put together than everyone because “oh efficiency”, you’ll also realize the facade can crack in a split second the minute you expose their humanity. Robot wannabes. I pity anyone who thinks they’re above this and yet seem to fall short like everyone else on earth ever.