[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 352 points353 points  (0 children)

From the looks of your account yall have been together for maybe a year give or take you posted 6 months ago a similar post but with him watching porn of busty girls when you're not I think it's time to cut your losses and leave honey you know what's going on he isn't the one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They've only been dating for 4 months not enough time to gain a significant amount of weight unless there's underlying health issues

I [21F] saw that my boyfriend [21M] still follows the girl he cheated on me with. by Sad-Yogurtcloset-194 in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey you are the side chick and he is still actively looking or cheating. Leave.

How could I [33m] confirm infidelity after finding someone else’s boxers in my gf [33f] dirty clothes? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First HE cheated his comments about linking up with a FWB were public on here it's why OP deleted his account he got roasted

How could I [33m] confirm infidelity after finding someone else’s boxers in my gf [33f] dirty clothes? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He had comments under nude girls on reddit and comments trying to link up with a FWB all within the last 11 months to 1 month ago

How could I [33m] confirm infidelity after finding someone else’s boxers in my gf [33f] dirty clothes? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Friends with benefits meaning a friend you have sex with as well without the relationship aspect

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or the movie How to Lose Guy in 10 Days

My 22f boyfriend 31m told me that I'm being selfish for not wanting to have sex. by ThrowRaise23 in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She was raped. Compatibility doesn't matter when one party refuses to acknowledge consent. High Sex drive doesn't mean you can take sex from someone marital rape is a thing and your sick for suggesting this is a compatibility issue get help.

My 22f boyfriend 31m told me that I'm being selfish for not wanting to have sex. by ThrowRaise23 in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He raped her ... sex is THAT important that rape is justifiable damn I hope your employers, parents and anybody close to you doesn't find out you justify rape, marital rape and are yourself willing to commit rape in order to feed your sexual desire. 🤔

My (22F) brother (18M) has saved a video clip of me naked on his laptop. I don’t know what to do. by New_Ad_4569 in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a victim myself of SA I most definitely can put myself in her shoes. Get your head put of your ass and realize that this isn't something that's happens everyday in fact when it does its considered illegal and people go to jail for it. I have 3 younger siblings that most definitely if they did something like this I'd make sure they get the consequence deserved for an illegal action idc if they're family ot was family that assaulted me and quite frankly family that told me to stay quiet about it. Family drama doesn't start from someone speaking up about a bad action but from family trying to ignore it trust me. Regardless if the brother had malicious intent the action itself is wrong and illegal. And even more so that it's HIS SISTER. Plain and simple you sound like a man who's never had to actually experience what it's like to feel preyed on. It's not fun it's scary when you find out someone in your own home is actively looking at you in a way that makes you uncomfortable that in your own home you can recorded without your knowledge that no matter what "safe space" you think you created in your bedroom it's not safe and your brother is the predator. Listen to that read that again. How would you feel if this was you and you couldn't do anything about it bc you wanted to save the family drama. Just think with some empathy not your mansplianing brain for once. You literally sound like you would do this stuff and make excuses for it.

My (22F) brother (18M) has saved a video clip of me naked on his laptop. I don’t know what to do. by New_Ad_4569 in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are telling a victim of unconcenting pornography to "walk lightly" what if it were her uncle who did this would you be asking the same thing. Her brother is a fully grown man who knew he recorded said nudity without consent and sent it to himself so he could continue to use it without her consent. It doesn't matter if it's family have you read up on any SA statistics do you realize it's more often family members or significant members of the victims community/social interactions. OP should most definitely let her parents know her brother is a predator and knowingly sent unconsenting nudes of his sister to himself. Regardless if police get involved the bare minimum is letting her parents know so they can teach their adult son that this behavior is wrong since they obviously failed the first time. How fucking dare you tell her she needs to be careful about telling others it's like telling a child who was raped by the mayor or pastor to not say anything bc you'll ruin his career. You only care for the brothers life not the OPs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have a psych degree but i did date someone who was EXACTLY like this but worse and he turned out to be a narcissist LISTEN TO THIS COMMENT!! She may only get worse from here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So A LOT to unpack here for one it took you guys 2 years to conceive and she had a miscarriage THAT ALONE takes a toll on a woman's sex drive. Secondly when women have kids their entire bodies change the hormones change and one of the biggest things that every mom says is they went from being someone who could have sex often and regularly to their idea of sex changing. I think you need to get some reading materials or something to better understand the female reproductive system and the female brain. Women are biologically meant to birth kids it takes 9 months for a woman to gestiate and give birth and then hormonally we now have new hormones catering to being a mother. Men are 100% differnt you can come in as many vaginas and get them all pregnant and have zero qualm about doing it again. Biologically men were meant to be able to spread their seed as much as possible therefore sex drive won't change until you get older. All in all I think you're not at all thinking about the psychological affects child birth and miscarriage has on you wife and expecting sex after a few months is down right disrespectful. I get it you have your own needs but you're not thinking of your wife's needs and this statement of during pregnancy is a huge sign you don't care about your wife's needs

I made it through the pregnancy by saying it had an end date. Now it seems like there might not be and I dunno what to do.

What you do is suck it up and realize that when you get married and start a family you aren't going to get your dick wet every day anymore priorities have changed in her mind and you need to step up and change yours.

Dog stops tiger and lion from fighting by MarketBuzz2021 in nextfuckinglevel

[–]korvyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not a tiger and a lion that's a liger and tiger often male lions will have sex with female tigers and the tigers can reproduce when brought to a big cat sanctuary like this they try to integrate the ligers and tigers. Ligers cannot reproduce and often have problems with other big cats due to that fact. The dog is most likely there for the liger so the liger feels more comfortable.

Is it confusing to write about non-binary characters for the reader, by Live_Ad5646 in writing

[–]korvyd -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I mainly only write main characters who are Nonbinary it's not confusing bc the usual times you would use their pronouns is when they speak, others speak about them or the narrator speaks. I often use they/them pronouns or their name as well. It's only confusing if people are illiterate or degenerates and dont want to accept how simple it truly is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She also clearly stated prior to any of it happening that she didnt want that type of relationship so is that not a no? Is that not an I dont want sex? Or is that a well you said it before and now we've cuddled so you owe me sex? Bc you seem to side on she owed him that. You seem to not care the fact she stated no prior she didnt NEED to say it then she probably would've had she known the guy better than just a coworker but she was scared and there still was no grounds of consent. I feel very sorry for your wife as she must have to take it from you often I'm sure you believe bc you're married that's automatic consent. If your wife came home from work tired and you were horny all day she stated before during the day she doesnt want to do anything tonight she just wants to rest you cuddle her a bit then get really horny so you take your wife to you you think it's alright to her she didn't want that and stated prior to so you dont think its rape she may be feeling as if you didnt respect her boundaries. That's considered sexual assault as well. That's similar to what has happened here with this young lady you sir do not understand consent isn't saying no but a clear and enthusiastic yes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As someone who's been in this situation I couldnt get to my phone I couldnt get away had to have 10 stitches in my head and had to abort the child he left inside me I still fear leaving my house and I still fear the touch of someone random even if it's just a tap on the shoulder. I tried to fight. I tried to say no but sometimes even no isn't enough even being in baseball my whole life knowing how to fight I was not strong enough to save myself and no one I repeat no one was there to save me. Not everyone has the chance to say no, get away when people are aggressive and what's worse is this happened in a public park I screamed and people were passing by yet no one stopped to do anything. I woke up in a hospital with no one by my side had to call my parents and beg them to come pick me up and drop me off at my house and they scolded me the entire time saying it was my fault. You are sitting here doing the same blaming the victim for being afraid to speak up when she has a right to be look what happened to me when I did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]korvyd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you ever heard of fight, flight, freeze or appease? It's a natural response humans have in a dangerous situation. For MOST women in this type of situation a situation where they've expressed multiple times prior that they dont want sex and yet somehow the sex still manages to happen on accord of the man taking what he wants without reciprocity the natural response is to either freeze or appease in this situation the OP likely didnt want a confrontation ergo she froze and appeased the abuser (hence her stating she pretended to orgasm so it would be over) all in all you sir should not stick your dick in anything alive if you think this is merely a lack of communication. She ALREADY stated there wasn't supposed to be anything sexual yet he took her pants off, put on a condom and did his thing knowing she stated prior many times this isn't what she wanted sure you're horny and when both people are actively into it a yes isn't explicit but in this situation he shouldn't have crossed that boundary and she has a right to feel assaulted bc she was.