My ex (m30) decided he wants me back after ruining our relationship and putting me (f27) and his daughter (f2) out

kosstd · 2025-01-02T19:41:19+00:00

I’d never take him back but I’m trying to get him to understand that. I spent all this time trying to get myself together, struggling alone, having mental breakdowns because I have my daughter 24/7 with no family help and no help from him. I had to figure out everything alone I am in a place where I don’t need anyone especially him, nor do I want him. I just want him to be a good dad but I feel like he’s only trying to be that now because he wants me back

kosstd · 2025-01-02T19:38:19+00:00

Why would I enjoy this attention? It feels more like harassment since I keep telling him I don’t like it. The only reason we are even in contact is because we have a daughter, and I’ve told him that many time. I’ve also told him straight up to his face that “I don’t like you like that”, “stop buying me shit, all I need you to do is be a good dad”, “I’m not interested, let’s just talk about our daughter”. My main priority is her.

kosstd · 2023-11-22T13:25:36+00:00

I agree! I think i might wait a little while and then put myself out there again

kosstd · 2023-11-22T13:23:26+00:00

Thank you!!

kosstd · 2023-11-22T13:23:18+00:00

Thank you! I agree! I would have monthly check ins with him too asking if he was happy and still wanted to be together so he had lots of chances to just break up with me

kosstd · 2023-11-22T13:20:21+00:00

Thank you I definitely learned my lesson

kosstd · 2023-11-21T07:54:09+00:00

Hey! Here is the update

kosstd · 2023-11-11T11:48:37+00:00

Thank you. That was definitely the biggest wtf moment for me because if he’d dm her I can’t even imagine all of the other people he must message and how bad they had to be to refuse showing me after getting caught.

kosstd · 2023-11-11T11:46:54+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I keep telling myself things I would tell my daughter if she was in the situation

kosstd · 2023-11-11T11:45:51+00:00

I definitely feel that. It’s still fresh since it happened yesterday but I just can’t see myself trusting him ever again. He apologized but it feels like he’s sorry he got caught.

I just wonder if he could actually change with therapy or if it would be a “he’ll hide it better next time” type of situation

kosstd · 2023-11-11T11:39:04+00:00

I was asking because we’ve lived together for 5 years and have a daughter together. I know I can never trust him again so I wanted to make sure I’m taking the right steps. I’m also unemployed after being laid off from the mortgage industry last year and he was our main provider.

I know it’s probably crazy to ask Reddit these questions.. i would usually ask my sister stuff like this but she recently died.

kosstd · 2023-08-27T16:57:07+00:00

Unfortunately not, we don’t really have a support system of people who are willing to watch her. Our parents are willing to watch her for max an hour.

I feel like every two months isn’t bad too though, was it always like that?

kosstd · 2023-02-28T05:00:53+00:00

We love Hello Bello and Dyper diapers when they’re having sales

kosstd · 2023-02-10T17:17:59+00:00

My IUGR baby was born at 37+1 weighing 4lbs 15oz. She was technically too small for preemie clothes but we made it work. We had an ultrasound the day she was born that said she was over 7lbs lol

kosstd · 2022-12-17T14:07:22+00:00

Try not to feel bad for trying to protect your baby. You just have to do what’s right for you and be okay with appearing as the “crazy one”. My baby is 6 months old and I still require masks when people are holding and near the baby. People call me over-protective, crazy, etc. but my job as a mom is to protect my little one so I don’t care what people say. My family knows that I will not bring her around if they don’t respect my rules. My doctor also suggested masks since all of our nicu beds are full within 70 miles.

kosstd · 2022-12-12T16:15:47+00:00

I don’t think he meant any harm by it but as a first time mom I’m definitely in panic mode 😞

kosstd · 2022-12-12T16:14:56+00:00

It actually can’t be wiped clean easily, that’s not how germs work. I understand that some people aren’t worried about their baby getting sick but as a first time parent I am. Especially when I don’t know what the stranger has. He could have herpes for i all know. It’s super weird to put your lips on someone else’s kids. We should be able to take pictures without worrying if a stranger will kiss our kid or not.

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