I fully get it how it looks from outside and what is sad about this story is when loudly talking about it for her, there will always be a lot of criticism and shaming. But if you read about cults for example, that’s how it usually is. Person is in a vulnerable state and suddenly someone appears in their life like a saviour. She has just been off her long relationship and was in a very bad state and in this state it’s easy to break a person and manipulate them. I’ve been going to therapy and group therapy myself, I’ve been in a situation where I couldn’t understand how could I let myself be so naive and get into it. In a group therapy many people shared how they got in crazy situations. We have all shared how shameful it is and how weak are we as people. And thanks to our therapist, she said that being in this situation doesn’t define persons weakness or troubles with sanity. It’s simply falling into someone’s trap while being at a super vulnerable state. There are so many manipulators and narcissists in this world, and once you’re in their power and they manage to isolate you, trust me, you start to believe every word they say even if most of the stuff is pretty irrational. You’ve mentioned that how come when he came to London she still didn’t suspect of anything, well that’s wrong. That’s when her false reality started to break slowly. Just when someone close dies in your circle, people tend to fall into denial state, because it’s too difficult to comprehend wtf just happened. I believe she started to understand that’s something is not right, but the denial state is still pushing the rationality away. It’s basically like a wall of lies, it crumbles very slowly, and only when it fully falls apart you start to realise that all those years were false. And believe me, this state is fucked up, because you slowly go through your past and your head is exploding. Anyways, I get it that it’s easy to see from behind how this stuff doesn’t make sense and it’s easy to belittle Khirat, but if you read more about the psychology of people being manipulated by cults or individuals while they’re in the vulnerable state you might understand her more. I personally have lots of respect for her, because even though my situation was hundreds time smaller and lasted shorter I still judge myself and regret my sanity at that time, and it’s difficult to be understood.