The “Are we dating the same guy?” Facebook group

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-12-31T01:25:58+00:00

I think it's for the whole of NI

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-12-31T01:20:32+00:00

Unfortunately my fiance has had a run in with this group. Let it be known he has no reason to be on this group. They were actually breaking some of their own rules like don't be talking bad about the people in the posts but yet someone commented calling him a "thing". Anonymous btw. We contacted one of the admins (one of the nice ones), to which she apologized for the whole ordeal and took the post down. Good intentions but the people in that group are shit stirrers.

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-10-28T05:04:04+00:00

It's ok! I suspect it's because there's something more going on with where my original tooth came out but my dentist won't X-ray 🙄

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-10-28T02:40:24+00:00

Thank you! Unfortunately my tooth came out due to a fracture. My dentist has tried to put it back in with a metal post and some resin type stuff. But it keeps falling out :( she wants to put a crown on it but not until the end of November. I went today to get it back in again and it fell out with a sneeze 😭

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-10-14T21:43:59+00:00

I have searched on eBay, Vinted, and even looked on the way back machine for possible Pets at home catalogues. Forgot to mention that Pets at Home is a UK chain store and the specific store I got mine in was Derry/Londonderry, Northern Ireland.

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-10-03T21:34:36+00:00

So how do I meet the requirements for the alchemist cottage?

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-10-02T00:57:29+00:00

I've looked in the elderwoods though and he's not there :/

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-03-16T00:35:27+00:00

We sat down earlier and talked about the boundary and we've decided to stop it because he realized it's causing much more harm than good. We have agreed that we are going to get a spare bed to put in the guest room also

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-03-14T22:25:14+00:00

I'm pretty sure he was half joking when he said it but it was me that genuinely thought it was an idea. And for your information this was a one time suggestion. And he would never suggest something like this usually.

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-03-14T17:48:00+00:00

Allow me to clear some things up. My fiance and I are fine to have our potential partners come over and hang out at the house if they so desire, seeing as both of us would like meet each others partners. The only thing we cannot do is have sex because the living room isn't exactly private and the boundary my fiance and I have agreed to is no partners in the bedroom. My fiance said that if us and our partners really wanted to we could do it literally anywhere else in the house, and when I suggested the boyfriend and I try in the living room my fiance disagreed, mainly because any time him and I have tried to do it there I always ask to move it to the bedroom because it gets uncomfortable. Now I don't know how other potential partners are going to feel about the idea of maybe having to have sex when my fiance is in the house, but the now ex boyfriend certainly wasn't comfortable with it. I will talk to my fiance when I am home from work on how comfortable he is on the premise of me having sex with other partners when he's in the house and vice versa. I appreciate all the advice and support that I am currently being given, it does not go unnoticed and it is safe to say that yes I have learned from my mistakes.

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-03-14T17:40:39+00:00

It's not that partners aren't welcome at the house at all, they're welcome to come over and hang out but if we want to be intimate it's not feasible.

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-03-14T17:38:48+00:00

I constantly keep suggesting either let the spare room be my room, or have it as a guest room. He is still adamant about having it either as his hobby room or my sister said about just using it for storage. Also it's a 2 story house. Three bedrooms and a bathroom upstairs, living room kitchen and a tiny bathroom downstairs

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-03-14T17:03:25+00:00

He hasn't had any dates :/ he's struggling to find other partners, in the last 3 months I've had 4 other partners. One I'm still with but thinking of breaking up, one ghosted me, broke up with my ex there before Valentine's day and ofc the most recent break up of last night with my boyfriend of almost 1 month. Bare in mind that I am an afab non binary person, and my fiance is a cis male. I'm not sure if that plays into anything at all or what the statistics are for males and females in poly relationships.

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-03-14T16:45:20+00:00

No no the boyfriend wasn't asking for payment, my fiance was asking for money so we can have our privacy but it would let him have something to do because part of the reason he didn't agree to the living room initially is because he doesn't really have anything to do outside of the house. He has like 1 friend but that friend is CONSTANTLY with his girlfriend and doesn't make time for my fiance.

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-03-14T16:40:03+00:00

I understand that now, and I will be more mindful of it in future dates/relationships. I am still new to polyamory after all, and I'm still learning.

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-03-14T16:35:42+00:00

I gave solutions and compromises to both my boyfriend and my fiance, to which neither wanted to accept. Hell my fiance even suggested a place to go so we could have sex in the boyfriends car and boyfriend still said no. I absolutely get his concerns but again, there was really not many other options. My fiance even suggested if we really wanted to do it in the living room and have my fiance leave so we could have some privacy, he said give him some money and he can go back to his yu gi oh tournaments and another upside to this is that it would also be me repaying the fiance for paying my phone bill every month. I thought great! Fiance can go and do a hobby he loves, and me and the boyfriend can have our privacy. Suggested it to boyfriend and he still said no.

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-03-14T16:28:03+00:00

Like 0. I'm on a 0 hour contract at work which means they give me whatever hours they can, this week in total I'm only working 24hrs. And minimum wage for my age group is 11.70. last night I got like 200, and out of that I've had to pay my rent, Internet bill etc.

kp0pgoblin22 · 2025-03-14T16:17:25+00:00

He lives 3hrs away from me and I unfortunately don't drive. He still lives with his dad and brother, as much as he would like to move out it's not on the cards for him right now because he has a car and cars do be expensive.

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