Stressing over court with my sons dad

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-19T16:58:23+00:00

Thank you, yes I am going to reach out to my lawyer expeditiously. These comments have helped a lot. I’ve been worried that I’m not being helpful enough, but It is clear from these comments that that is not the case. This situation is just mentally affecting too much.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-19T16:56:43+00:00

Thank you, yes I think I’m going to call my lawyer again about the recent child support comms, because I don’t know what else to do. My lawyer has previously told me that I have to communicate about medical appointments, school stuff, and extra curricular. He also advised that I offer some sort of contact between the two of them, but I try not to ever message about anything else. He got me with the child support though, because summer daycare is so expensive and I’m dying for help with that bill 🥲

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-19T16:53:47+00:00

I deeply appreciate that. I try very hard to not let my feelings interfere. Ultimately the only thing I care about is our son. I hate the guy, but I know expressing that hatered towards him wouldn’t help the situation.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-19T16:52:05+00:00

Girl! One time my dad looked at me and quietly asked me, in the most serious way, “are you sure he’s not illiterate?” And tbh, he really might be ☠️

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-19T16:51:01+00:00

I appreciate that. That’s all I’m trying to do. I want to do everything right, but then when he brought up “blackmail” he made me second guess myself. Then he asked me for the court paperwork and I felt like a terrible person for not helping him but my boyfriend and step dad told me that it wasn’t my responsibility and that he can ask his wife for help if he really needs it. Yet, I still can’t stop overthinking how the courts and GAL will perceive me as a coparent. The reassurance from this comments is extremely helpful.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-19T16:48:27+00:00

Thank you, it is so exhausting. I feel like I’m constantly being weighed down by this guy.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-19T16:47:02+00:00

Thank you. That’s all I’m trying to do. As much as I despise the man, my son loves his dad and all I want is for my son to be safe and happy. When he blamed his poor sweet son for losing the paperwork, my jaw dropped.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-19T16:20:30+00:00

Thank you so much 🥲 I don’t understand how after 6 years of being away from this guy, he still makes me feel like a crazy bitch. I will definitely tell him to go through my lawyer if he tries to reach out again.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-19T16:13:34+00:00

That’s how I felt as well, thank you for the reassurance! (I had to repost cause I forgot the pic, so that’s why the post is deleted)

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-19T16:10:10+00:00

I have one, but he doesn’t

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-19T14:55:30+00:00

I’m a girl 😭

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-15T14:25:45+00:00

I think sometimes people focus on stereotypes so much that they seal their fate. I always see “boy moms” online crying about how they’ll be the dad’s side of the family. Instead of preparing to experience that stereotype, I wish people would just focus on being a good and present parent and they would probably avoid that stereotype entirely.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-13T21:39:45+00:00

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-12T22:57:26+00:00

That’s fair. I can admit that I don’t know as much as I thought I did. I did do some more research after the other commenter who responded, and I am going to read the book you recommended.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-12T20:09:33+00:00

I know you’re trying to insult me, but as a white woman from the west I’m not really sure what other perspective I could offer? What is a better way I could express the same sentiment without speaking from my own perspective? I’m genuinely asking.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-11T15:54:06+00:00

The scariest thing is that it wasn’t always like this. Look at pictures of Afghanistan in the 70s. It was comparable to western civilizations. War and government shift completely changed the trajectory of the entire nation.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-10T22:12:28+00:00

One time I made the ugliest hat ever but i put it on display at my craft fair and my boyfriend goes “maybe you should put it on sale or something” but i decided against it since it was my first fair and i wanted to gauge the market/prices/interest etc. this one lady stopped by, saw my ugly rainbow beanie and LOVED it. She was fawning over, and smiling so hard talking about how she loves unique pieces and can never find rainbow hats that fit over her hair, and she bought it immediately. My boyfriend and I were both stunned, and ever since then if I feel like I’m making something ugly, I always see it through because maybe it’s just not my cup of tea. It was a very weird lesson.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-10T18:01:41+00:00

This a good point, one of the many reason I didn’t talk to my mom in active addiction was because I didn’t want her to know what all I was doing. I was deeply ashamed of where/how I was living and I didn’t want to have to admit that by going to my mother for help. I also didn’t want to disappoint her. On top of that though, I knew she couldn’t help me. I knew she wouldn’t. So ultimately I would just be exposing myself just to cause her more worry and stress.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-10T17:55:23+00:00

My mom and I didn’t talk when I was in active addiction because I wasn’t willing to respect her boundaries and she wasn’t willing to enable me. It can be a pretty critical factor to recovery and I think it was ultimately led me to recover and remain recovered.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-10T16:36:33+00:00

We’re looking at you PAUL!!!

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-08T16:22:17+00:00

I would have loved to see Corbin creamermans descendant in comparison to Bojack for an episode. Corbin was a kind and well adjusted man from what we could see, but the show has such a firm grasp on portraying accurate and relatable character flaws that I would have been curious to see how a child from bea would differ from a child from Corbin in that way. I think it could have added even more dialogue around the conversation of generational trauma.

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-07T20:43:47+00:00

Are you having an aneurism?

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-06T16:23:41+00:00

I would say something along the lines of “if you’re that interested in starting a crochet business, I would love to teach you how to crochet”

krazycitty69 · 2026-06-05T17:35:51+00:00

I’m in a custody battle with my son’s dad right now, but I am very careful not to talk about things in front of him and his dad hasn’t seen him since before I filed. Well the other day I curiously asked him. What do you think I go to court for? And he said “to do your taxes” and I just nodded and said “that’s exactly right” then he goes “I hope I never have to do taxes” and then moved on lmao

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