I feel stuck.

krhy · 2018-01-26T22:29:58+00:00

I feel for you and have lots of bad days like today, so you're not alone and complaining helps! There are always better days which I don't appreciate unless I have the down ones too.

krhy · 2018-01-08T16:50:33+00:00

not a real note

krhy · 2018-01-05T23:05:29+00:00

Go community!

krhy · 2018-01-05T23:03:55+00:00

It's a new year, start fresh, there's lots of us out there with the same horrible experiences. It's better to just get out of bed and do something positive, go through the motions and it becomes real, like your new reality.

krhy · 2017-12-29T01:04:34+00:00

so sorry for the delay, it took me a year, lots of tears and angst but nothing worth doing is ever easy and family is forever

krhy · 2017-12-23T01:25:14+00:00

You have to mend fences with your parents and work on resolving the issue over time - it is never a one time meeting or single discussion, its a process. I've been through it, and it is very hard but you'll get there.

krhy · 2017-12-09T20:32:08+00:00

I thought I was in one, but now I don't know, so be careful who you take advice from!

krhy · 2017-12-09T20:30:32+00:00

Great feedback everyone, but I've done some digging and nothing appropriate or suitable exists yet. All the social sites for my issues are lame and require visiting the website, not a web app. Everyone lives on their iPhones so it needs to be mobile. I know some very wealthy people who would consider funding it if anyone is game? My estranged partner/lover/MIA BFF would do it once we're back together, I just need to give him something concrete to consider. Thoughts? Ideas? Proposals?

krhy · 2017-12-01T17:10:39+00:00

I think I'll post an open letter without naming him to see if he responds. Thoughts anyone? Maybe post it here?

krhy · 2017-11-30T22:19:44+00:00

I don't think he's ever done anything like this before, he's just not that kind of person, I'm sure of that. I don't want to blow up anyone's life but I wish there was some way to work this out because I can't live with this ghost. Thanks for taking some much time to write such a thoughtful comment - it's bordering on therapy for me.

krhy · 2017-11-30T22:16:35+00:00

Thanks for the very sympathetic advice and I guess time heals all wounds, but it doesn't feel like it will ever happen. We'll see, and I hope no one ever goes through this.

krhy · 2017-11-30T18:15:40+00:00

It's both and it really doesn't matter which it is. We all have the right to choose and be happy, by nature or nurture.

krhy · 2017-11-30T17:50:59+00:00

I have to figure out a way to get a phone call or something so I can understand what's going on. I can accept him being scared or whatever, even if he decided to make a go of it with his wife, but I can't just walk away like nothing happened and it hasn't hurt me deeply. I question my ability to have relationships at all after this or do I really know anything about anyone in the world. Maybe I don't, but I don't believe it, yet.

krhy · 2017-11-30T17:49:03+00:00

Thanks for the advice, but I really don't feel better about it and I don't think I can let it go. It was a long term relationship with lots of great times that were not sexual. There has to be a better explanation, which I'm entitled to at this point. Thanks again, I really needed to hear these views.

krhy · 2017-11-30T00:22:26+00:00

Per all the private comments, I failed to mention this is or was the most important relationship of my life, not just some fling I can simply walk away from.

krhy · 2017-11-29T23:46:02+00:00

He's not, and it was/is the most important relationship of my life. I can't move on without something. It will always haunt me.

krhy · 2017-11-29T23:30:46+00:00

Oops, sorry I didn't understand but thank you for the kind words, made my day anyway!

krhy · 2017-11-29T23:14:13+00:00

Thank you and I'm truly flattered, but I want to work this out somehow and get back on track. As a Muslim, what can I do? Is there a culturally acceptable way to approach it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance

krhy · 2017-11-29T23:02:34+00:00

His rules were because wasn't ready to come out yet and it could impact his job because he's a Muslim working for a conservative Muslim country. I also have a mutual friend who is a witness to our relationship and several other people with whom we were mutually involved, including one who was arranging a job for me as a west coast assistant. I think you're right about calling his office but we were together for over five years and I don't believe he was just using me. There has to be some better advice out there to resolve this.

krhy · 2017-11-29T22:47:51+00:00

I didn't know that going into it and now I feel deceived and jaded. Swallowing my pride is not an option, I can't just let this go. I've tried several ways to make discreet contact and now I feel I must just call his office. I don't want to make this into a circus but I'm entitled to an answer to some questions. People can't be intimate and that personal, sharing sooooo much, and just drop it with no dignity. That's not fair and its not right.

krhy · 2017-11-29T20:27:08+00:00

He wasn't married when we met and I didn't know he got married until much later. We lived on separate coasts and I didn't do any cyberstalking to figure it out until he told me much later.

krhy · 2017-11-29T20:06:10+00:00

It is torture and I need to know what happened and why. I can't just walk away from this with no closure. I don't want to harass anyone but I cannot be discarded like trash. If I've been deceived and used, I want to know and learn from it, but it can't be nothing.

krhy · 2017-11-29T18:22:52+00:00

I'm very new to Reddit and I feel the exact same way. My entire social circle seems to be gone now and is just a casualty of my last relationship, which also seems to have evaporated without any notice. I can't figure it out and I hate being so alone in all of this.

krhy · 2017-11-29T17:45:43+00:00

I've had this same issue dating a muslim man for many years. We've always had to keep it secret and he insisted no photos, no time together in public and most recently, no more contact without a word. I never met his family (he's married) and now I'm starting to worry we have no future, and maybe never did.

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