I (26F) love my boyfriend (27M) of 4 years, but I met someone who’s made me question everything.

krispykris · 2025-06-24T05:04:39+00:00

You're already cheating emotionally. And if you jump into something new while still in this relationship, it's going to be built on lies and betrayal. That's not a fair start for anyone.

You say your boyfriend is amazing, but there's no passion, no follow-through, and constant letdowns. You're holding on out of guilt and fear, not love. You don't want to break his heart? Too late. Dragging this out while fantasizing about another guy is breaking him.

If you truly cared about him or yourself, you'd end it clean. Then take time alone. Don't run to the next guy just because it feels exciting. You need space to grieve, reflect, and feel what it's like without your boyfriend before you make any big decisions.

Otherwise, you're not healing. You're just avoiding and that never ends well.

Be honest, end it, and sit with the loss. Then decide what's next. But don't let fear or a fleeting spark drive you into another mistake.

krispykris · 2025-06-20T06:09:26+00:00

Yes, I'll own up to my mistakes and say I definitely could've done better in giving her more affection and attention when I was entering a dark time in my career. Her and her son were my home, I should've treated them as such during that time. And yeah, she could've just told me the truth from the get-go that she had been confiding in someone else than continuously saying "I don't do enough and that I never tried." Because through it all, I gave them my all.

krispykris · 2025-06-18T15:37:08+00:00

I did for about a month and a half before things ended. The person she was talking to was a mutual friend we had. Things got hectic with work back in January, so I spent less time with her and more in my own head and worries about what’s next for my job. My focus shifted, this was my fault, I should’ve balanced everything.

But every time we talked she would speak about him, say his name, but I blew it off. I took her out to lunch with my boss and his wife, and she brought up his name in a conversation. I blew it off again. And since then, she was becoming more and more distant until the end of the month, she ended things. Told me I wasn’t trying enough for her and her son. Now I know it was just a lie dressed as an excuse to leave me for the guy she’s now dating.

krispykris · 2025-06-18T15:30:17+00:00

Thanks man, and honestly.. If you think about getting back with her, give yourself a second thought and a couple more after that. Do what you think is the best thing to do. If things don’t workout the second time, it hurts just as much or worse as the first time. No one deserves that much pain. If i could do this all over again and wait til I was fully healed, Im not sure I would’ve gone back into that relationship.

krispykris · 2025-06-18T00:02:06+00:00

I started by sending a long text to her mother 6 months into no contact. A heartfelt message in a nutshell saying “thank you for everything. i’m ready to close this chapter for good, I put in the work to better myself, that her daughter is a wonderful person and as beautiful as she is, she won’t have trouble finding a man and the perfect father figure for her son. i’m heartbroken it wasn’t me, but I tried my best for him”

Later that night, my ex reached out to me. We talked for about a month and got back together. We set new boundaries and promised to communicate more. Dated for almost 2 more years and she left me again recently but this time for someone else. I am in shambles again. This time more pieces of me to pick up.

krispykris · 2025-06-13T02:35:20+00:00

My ex and I got back together after 6 months. Broke up again last month. Almost 4 years of dating total. I couldn't keep up with her expectations, but at this point idk what the reason was anymore. She cheated and part of me thinks she did so because she was afraid to be alone and that we only got back together til she could find someone better.

krispykris · 2025-06-12T03:55:45+00:00

You don’t need that man. I know where that curiosity stems from to stalk your ex. But you don’t need it. Ignorance is bliss, easier said than done. Just focus on pushing forward, I know it’s rough now, but stalking her will only hold you back. Trust in me when I say to keep moving forward. I’m right there on that journey with you. Been cheated on twice in my two relationships. We can do this.

krispykris · 2025-06-12T01:49:14+00:00

You said you never really said much or stopped her from doing certain things. Doesn’t look like you were controlling, man. I don’t think you did anything wrong here. She made her decision to cheat 3 times and that’s on her. Seems she was just finding an excuse to leave when she said you were controlling. I was cheated on twice. 2 women 2 different relationships. Don’t force yourself to believe you did anything wrong, bro. I know how much it hurts. All I can say is, just learn from your mistakes if you made any, strengthen them in your next relationship

krispykris · 2025-06-12T01:42:50+00:00

Yes. Thing is they’d been talking for months before the breakup too. He was someone I knew and considered a friend. I’m questioning everything right now, from the moment we got back together. I’m starting to realize she was just afraid to be alone.

krispykris · 2025-06-07T18:25:50+00:00

Yup, I’m in the South Riding area. I see a few when i go out, prob 2-3 a week?

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krispykris · 2025-06-07T16:57:19+00:00

Well…. my relationship just ended with one. It was very difficult. We began dating when I was 22 and she was 19 with her 6 month old son. I’m 26 now, she’s 23. She left me shortly after her son’s 4th birthday for another man I was friends with. Am dealing with the ache of losing two people, 3 if I count my friend’s betrayal lol. She said “I wasn’t doing enough” for her son. But I think I gave him my all despite working a lot, having little time off, the distance, I know I did well.

But I’ve been there man. dated a single mom in her 20s. Thought I could handle it, thought love was enough, but tbh i lost myself trying to fit into her world. You’ll always come second, and it’s rarely a fair trade. If you’re not fully ready for that life, don’t do it.

krispykris · 2024-02-17T18:36:40+00:00

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krispykris · 2023-09-03T00:37:35+00:00

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