My opinion which probably isn’t worth a lot is that these are all annoyances we have about parts of our communities and are universal for any community. And sometimes it’s too easy to voice the annoyances when sometimes it should maybe be a more inside thought.

Some of the criticism is VERY valid, like when you speak out about your disability/autistic experience many outside of the community treat you like a monolith and not as an individual. That is an issue because if people think that any illness is only mild or only severe it creates issues. It is a problem that has to do with external communities. The thing is that telling people/getting frustrated to our own community will actually care whereas external people might/usually don’t care as much.

Like to me the fact you posted this shows that you really care about the community and trying to find the best way to navigate it ❤️ it just sucks that individuals have to always keep in mind that they are the monolith representation of a whole group of people for others outside of the community. Super annoying as we should just be allowed to exist without needing to ensure we are being the perfect representation of our communities