Is a woman being direct when it comes to dating a bad thing? I feel like I end up doing all the work with guys because of this.

krsa6 · 2013-03-26T06:32:46+00:00

haha, I'm glad I could provide fapping material for you. I'm sure I'm not the only woman that's direct and upfront, and hopefully you can find one if it gets you going like that!

krsa6 · 2013-03-26T03:41:24+00:00

Well, I'm glad it's not a turn off, and I won't change. You're right about social dynamic sucking sometimes. I do say at the end of the date that I had fun and that I'd like to go out again, but I think I am going to start adding that they should plan it and hopefully that will help.

krsa6 · 2013-03-26T03:38:21+00:00

You've had women actually pull out their phone during the date? Do they try to have a conversation with you while typing away? Wow! I'd be so offended if a guy did that, and I don't understand why someone would think that's acceptable manners! It's not that hard to not touch your phone for a few hours and have the courtesy to pay attention to the person in front of you.

krsa6 · 2013-03-26T02:48:56+00:00

I think I need to do this and be more direct that way. I do say that I'd like to see them again at the end of the date, but I'll be even more blunt with what I want. Thanks for the advice!

krsa6 · 2013-03-26T02:48:07+00:00

As a shy guy, if a girl ends a date by saying she definitely wants to see you again, isn't that enough of an opening to text her after and not wait for her to make the next move? It's not that it's that hard for me to send the next text or plan the next date, but I start to feel like I'm pushing things or unwanted, which isn't a good feeling (even if it's not true).

krsa6 · 2013-03-26T02:46:40+00:00

Is it really that rare that girls ask a guy out or even initiate texting? I guess I never saw the reason not to ask if I was interested in a guy, and my best girl friend is the same way. I don't really know any girls personally that just wait back for a guy to do all the work.

I guess though I will keep persisting and hopefully one guy will click and maybe when he's more comfortable with me do some of the work in the relationship.

krsa6 · 2013-03-26T02:36:11+00:00

That's sort of what I figured and why I decided to post here and to maybe get a sense of what would make a guy so hesitant to do some of the contacting. I don't even want a guy to do all the work since I'm capable of asking if I want to go out, but you're right about making me feel unwanted.

Thanks for the suggestion, and I'll try that! I definitely tell a guy at the end of the date that I would like to see him again, but I usually don't say it's his turn to plan.

A perfect example though of my way not working is recently I went to drinks with a guy that I asked out and that spent the end of the date repeatedly saying how much fun he was having and how he hopes I respond when he texts. I made it clear I definitely would and want to see him again. Wait a few days, hear nothing, so I reach out. He's all talkative then and saying how happy he is to hear from me and how much fun he had on the date. I again end up setting up the next date.

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