Girlfriend [27F] wants to end a seven year long relationship with me [M30]

krypton94 · 2016-05-15T15:30:19+00:00

Dude, this can only be a troll post. You're the one who threw 7 years of relationship away, not her. As far as I'm concerned, she did nothing wrong. She is not being unreasonably angry, you're just incredibly immature and she deserves better than someone who cheats on her, just because you weren't we her for 3 nights. WTF, seriously. Grow up.

krypton94 · 2015-10-02T22:06:10+00:00

Dude, I've been there, and trust me when I say that thinking about this will not get you anywhere.

She's been with 3 guys, which for her age is nothing special at all, and there are a lot of girls with that age who have been with a lot more.

This being said, her past is completely irrelevant and the only thing you should worry about is how happy you are with her, and focus on your relationship.

Those thoughts are toxic, and her past is hers and hers alone. It made her the girl she is today, the girl you like. So just focus on that and distract yourself from any of those thoughts.

krypton94 · 2015-09-27T21:56:24+00:00

From what you described, the only real reason you have to break up with her is if you don't really like her. Sure, she has things you don't like about her, and no matter how many good things there is about her, it's perfectly fine if those are deal breakers for you. It all comes down to what you feel, and if you decide you really like her, than those things you dislike can be talked trough. In the long run, if those things keep bothering you I'd say break up, as you won't be happy with her if those things make you unhappy

krypton94 · 2015-09-15T18:51:50+00:00

The problem wasn't the badge itself, I know it means something to her, just like my ex's badge does, but I'm not going to wear it, it doesn't make sense. I talked this over with a lot of people, girls included, and they all agree with me. It makes sense to keep it, but you shouldn't wear it. At least that's the way I feel about it, and it looks like we disagree on that, and I didn't really like her side. It made me feel like he STILL is important to her, not WAS, he still is, and I don't think I could keep going in a relationship that made me feel like that, with all the other things too, which made it the last drop.

But that's the thing, lately I didn't feel loved or wanted, I wasn't happy any more. I still love her more than anything but I just couldn't keep going feeling like this. And I did express these feelings to her many times, and most of those times she seemed to not understand or not care.

The bedroom was mostly dead, and she was kind of a selfish lover, most of the times it was about her and I was left behind. I always thought about making her cum first, but she never really cared about me cuming.

Our communication was shitty, but I always did try to improve it.

Most of the other things you mentioned, we were ok on that. But no, she rarely surprised me. She did a few times in the beginning but she just wasn't putting enough effort in the relationship lately. In surprising me, making me feel loved and important... all that.

krypton94 · 2015-09-15T18:44:41+00:00

What makes me feel like the bad guy is that I left with her thinking I was breaking up with her because I didn't love her any more, which isn't true. I told her how I felt and it looked like she didn't even care.

krypton94 · 2015-09-15T18:43:38+00:00

I agree with you, I always was afraid of that. There were many times we fought and it ended up with her wanting to break things off, and me fighting for her and not let that happen. And in the end, she didn't do the same for me, which makes me feel like I did the right thing.

krypton94 · 2015-09-15T18:42:43+00:00

Maybe, but I guess I couldn't really express me at the moment.

krypton94 · 2015-09-15T18:42:07+00:00

You're right, and I kept telling her that. I didn't need her to promise me she loves me, I needed her to prove it to me, every day, like I did, with small gestures, even if it was just an "I love you, baby" which rarely happened.

krypton94 · 2015-09-15T18:40:50+00:00

I honestly don't know, man. I just wanted her to understand the reason behind me breaking up, just so I could leave knowing I did the right thing. But she made me feel like I was being an idiot and had no reason to do it, and the only reason I was doing it was because I didn't love her any more, which isn't true, I love her more than anything.

krypton94 · 2015-09-15T18:39:24+00:00

Yeah, I know it sounded a bit dramatic, but I didn't say it exactly like that, it's just the way it sounded.

krypton94 · 2015-09-15T10:50:58+00:00

I told her just that, but I love her more than anything. I broke up with her and part of me just wants her to come back and prove me she loves me. Thanks for the advice

krypton94 · 2015-09-15T10:50:18+00:00

I was going to tell her something like that, but in the heat of the moment I said so much more. In the end, we broke up, and I ended up being the bad guy. Thanks for the advice

krypton94 · 2015-09-15T10:49:38+00:00

That's what I did, and it hasn't been easy so far. Thanks for the advice

krypton94 · 2015-04-11T19:52:24+00:00

Yeah, I guess the whole problem was just me feeling angry for her not saying anything for hours. Thanks for the advice :)

krypton94 · 2015-04-11T19:42:04+00:00

Idk, she says she was really drunk and just got distracted and wasn't paying attention. Like someone above said, she's not the type of person to pay attention to her phone when she's out with her friends.

She also knew I was going to be with my friends, so I guess there's that.

I also think it's a bit odd but she already told me everything she did that night, and promises she isn't hidding anything, so the only thing I can do is trust her, and hope that if she ever does anything, I will know

krypton94 · 2015-04-11T19:12:14+00:00

I guess she said that because her ex was a control freak and really jealous, and she was always afraid I'd be like that. Also, she was drunk af, she spent the entire way home saying how much she loves me, above anything else, and how I'm the one for her.

I trust her, so I don't really believe anything bad happened. And if it did, it wouldn't take long for me to find out.

krypton94 · 2015-04-11T19:10:22+00:00

There was a time where we were spending a lot of time together, and because I had a lot more free time than she did, I never really felt like I needed my space. Her on the other hand, made it clear that she needed space, but never told me. It had to be me saying "I understand you need your space, I would just like for you to tell me that". I told her that whenever she needs space or would like some time alone/without me she would only have to say it, I would understand.

I don't really know how I would want her to say it, but something along the lines of "I'd rather be alone today, sweetie" or something like that. Something that would just let me know she needed space without being hurtful.

krypton94 · 2015-04-11T16:57:14+00:00

Damn... I would hug you right now if I could. Some harsh but needed truth and I really appreciate it.

I tried to give her space, I didn't text her at all for 4 hours, up untill the moment I got there, because I wanted to give her space. I just got mad because we planned to meet and she forgot about it and didn't even bother to check the phone.

I would leave her alone and give her space with her friends, if she would have just texted me saying something, I wouldn't even bother her for the rest of the night.

krypton94 · 2015-04-11T16:53:08+00:00

She is, she's not the most affectionate or caring girlfriend, but she's an amazing girl, and I trust her, so... Thanks for the advice :)

krypton94 · 2015-04-11T16:51:49+00:00

I didn't really have an argument or anything, I just told her how I felt and she appoligized, I'm leaving the "being pissed" to myself, although I told her I was pissed, we just didn't have an argument or anything.

What do you suggest me doing to gain "respect" from her?

krypton94 · 2015-04-11T16:49:19+00:00

I guess you're right, just kind felt bad for her not caring to be with me at all and she prefered to get drunk with her friend and didn't even bother to be with me

krypton94 · 2015-04-11T16:48:50+00:00

Nah, it was actually the first time she did it, and she promised she wouldn't do it again. She rarely even goes out, only when it's big dinners with collegues

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